How to Know Your Kid’s Personality Type

HANDS-for-post-pageBeing a new mom means looking at personality types in a whole new way. There’s a LOT more on the line. I’m starting to see how many of the systems we’ve built cater to just one personality type or Genius style. It’s kind of scary.

Why scary?

I’ll give you an example. The public school system in the United States very clearly favors people with the Memory Genius – or, SJs in the Myers-Briggs system. For the other types – people with very different learning styles – this ends up becoming more than just an inconvenience. In fact, because the curriculum is designed primary by Memory people, taught by Memory people and focused on training Memory students, other learning styles can be given labels like “learning disabled” or “attention deficit.”

We can even begin medicating a child because they don’t fit the education mold.

This sends shivers down my spine.

Something near and dear to my heart is taking a hard look at the education system and asking what can be improved. After all the attempts to “personalize” education it seems that no one can figure out the single component that would revolutionize education – teach children using their learning style.

This would mean knowing each child’s learning style. Fortunately, when you understand personality types you realize there’s a pattern to how people learn, and if you hit on the 4 main learning styles you can make a massive impact.

What are those styles?

Memory – Learning through memorizing, by observing teachers/mentors and emulating them. (Since curriculum is usually designed by Memory users, this is generally well represented in schools.)

Sensation – Learning by action, getting into your body and taking a ‘hands-on’ approach. (These students tend to accel at sports and performance arts.)

Exploration – Learning though test/iteration, making new distinctions and pairings, and having the freedom to make lots and lots of mistakes.

Perspectives – Learning through contemplation, meditation, and a quiet environment. Goes deep into one subject to master it before moving on.

What style is your child?

This is important information to have. The two styles that are most frequently medicated are Sensation and Exploration children. They statistically have the most difficulty just sitting there, being instructed without actually getting their hands dirty.

I’ve often wondered how drastically the ‘learning disabled’ moniker would drop if we started teaching children on their terms instead of forcing them into our mold.

It’s tough to type kids – their personalities become more evident every day, but without knowing what you’re looking for it can all be a mystery. The ability to profile helps tremendously, but it’s always tricky.

Children develop at different rates. They generally start showing their “Driver” Genius style at around age 3-5. Their “Co-Pilot” doesn’t often show up until their pre-teens.

Still, knowing their Driver Genius style is a massive leverage to understanding how to relate to them, in particular giving clues to what their learning style is (if not out-right telling you).

I recommend taking this test in behalf of your kids:
http://mbti.on.ufanet.ru/pp/build_pqk.cgi.htm

Personality Page is a great site with lots of good content, and I was impressed with their “Personality Questionnaire for Kids.”

It will help you determine your child’s “Driver” Genius. They won’t use our nicknames, so here’s the key for how it works:

ENP – Exploration
ESP – Sensation
INJ – Perspectives
ISJ – Memory

If your kid leads with a Decision-Making Genius, it will look like this:

ETJ – Effectiveness
EFJ – Harmony
IFP – Authenticity
ITP – Accuracy

I hosted an all day event on understanding the personality types of your children, using this information to guide, discipline and coach them into becoming the best possible version of themselves.

It was the third and final installment of the Personality Hacker Relationship suite.

Maybe it’s because I’m a new mom, maybe it’s because I’ve had to rapidly accelerate my understanding of myself and children to contend with the massive challenge of becoming a new step-mom… but I think this will be the MOST POWERFUL of all three sessions.

We use personality psychology in our businesses and in our relationships – shouldn’t we be using and applying it to how we guide our children?

I can only imagine if my parents had known how to create an environment suited to my learning. What an extraordinary advantage in life.

So, take the test to determine your children’s type. And come join me at Personality Types in Children & Family.

-Antonia

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Showing 11 comments
  • signe
    Reply

    I can not seem to make any of the mentioned links to test your child work – not the one in the article and not the one mentioned in the comments.

    Is there still a good test for children somewhere?
    I think it is hard to find!

    • Ashley
      Reply

      Same. Wish I knew where to find a good test.

  • Beth B
    Reply

    Hi Antonia! Our marriage therapist specializes in Myers Briggs and recently turned me on to your Podcasts and I am IN LOVE, thank you! We are struggling with a highly intelligent yet ADHD diagnosed 7 year old daughter in school and we just need to be armed with more understanding at this point.

    Might you be able to update the link of the test to take on their behalf? It’s no longer working.

    Thank you again!

  • Tunde
    Reply

    I have the same issues here, my 4 year old Daughter is very active, spirited , loving and very friendly and outspoken but in school its different.

  • Andrea
    Reply

    I had a question about type in children. I am an INFP, but my introversion only became evident when I entered school. My mom was actually surprised when the teacher said how quiet I was. I was very spirited at home, maybe because I was comfortable and could just be myself? Is this common with kids? I notice my own daughter who is 3 is very spirited in a similar way, but I hesitate to say she is an extrovert because I know my experience was not what it appeared. Maybe I am not as introverted as I thought? How would this affect my type?

    • Charis Branson
      Reply

      Thank you for your comment Andrea! I was the exact same way! As long as I was within the comfortable confines of my family’s world I was the clown. As soon as I entered school, I was painfully shy. Even to the point where teachers would yell at me because I would speak so quietly nobody could hear me. Of course, that just made things worse.

      Would you be willing to let your question be used for a PHQ Podcast?

  • Tyziena
    Reply

    I was very keen to use the personality test but this web page is not working? http://www.personalitypage.com/cgi-local/build_pqk.cgi
    Any suggestions?

    • Joel Mark Witt
      Reply

      Hi Tyziena,

      I just updated the link in the article above. Try this one:
      http://mbti.on.ufanet.ru/pp/build_pqk.cgi.htm

      Thanks for reading and being apart of the Personality Hacker movement.

      • Jac
        Reply

        Still isn’t working :/ . The link itself works, but after doing the answers and hitting submit, it goes to an error page.

        • Charis Branson
          Reply

          So sorry! I know how frustrating it is to answer all the questions in a long test only to find all the answer lost when the test won’t submit. Unfortunately, it is not our test. The link goes to another website, which is apparently not keeping the link live. A Google search of ‘child MBTI test’, ‘Myers-Briggs test for children’ may help you find another.

          Again, sorry for the inconvenience.

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