The Greatest Unmet Need of an Intuitive

What’s the biggest unmet need that most Intuitives face? 

Leadership with educationWhile discussing the unique needs of Intuitives – or people who use intuition has their primary way of learning information – the same need pops up over and over gain. It’s what we at Personality Hacker call the Greatest Unmet Need of Intuitives. It’s actually pretty simple and very easy, and maybe because of that it’s importance is diminished and gets neglected.

What is that need? Highly abstract, conceptual conversation. It’s conversation that goes beyond the every day norm of chit-chat and ‘catching up’. Subjects like philosophy, ethics, science, idea-generation and possibilities thinking about the future and the meaning of reality. While it may feel great to an Intuitive that engage in this kind of conversation, they may not realize it’s a basic need.

This kind of conversation does two things for Intuitives:

1. It gives them energy, amps us up, and helps them see possibilities they hadn’t considered before. It’s like food for the mind, or mental calories, and for those who lead with intuition it may be necessary for basic psychological health.

2. It gives them freedom. It’s not always easy to find another person who will go down these rabbit holes with you conversationally, and sometimes the perpetual searching for it makes one feel like a freak. When an Intuitive finds someone who will do a ‘deep dive’, there’s an entire world of permission that opens up. Permission to think outside the box, to consider new ways of solving challenges and of thinking. This permission is extremely freeing, and it’s important to have that sense of permission.

One of the great run-off benefits of these conversations is the cross pollination ideas. If ideas are a technology, then intuitive conversation becomes a laboratory. The more they cross pollinate each other’s ideas, the more sophisticated they become so when they’re brought to the world they’re more fleshed out, useful, and a true gift.

If you’re an Intuitive, keep in mind that this kind of conversation isn’t just a nice to have, it’s a need to have.

To know definitively if you’re an Intuitive learning style, take the Genius Style Assessment. If you turn out as a Perspectives or Exploration genius, you’re an Intuitive.


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  • Selma

    Hi and thank you so much! What a blessing to have found personality hacker. I’m an INFJ, and crave deep and meaningful conversation, but have nobody in my environment that can handle it nor participate, let alone understand. I feel misunderstood, emotionally neglected and deprived, and not only do I feel it very deeply, I also am so often (both with and without intent) misunderstood And simply knowing things, people just don’t get it. They think I’m nuts, and when it does play out, t’s too late for the damage is done. It has resulted in a lot of hardship in my life. I am past and beyond over chit-chat, and am rather alone than have my energy zapped. Thank god for internet and personality hacker!

  • BArb

    I wonder if you could provide tips for satisfying this need. I am with an ISTJ partner and as an introvert myself (INTJ), I find it hard sometimes to get intuitive conversation that I need. Sometimes I rely on highly extroverted people like ENxP friends to get me going, but there are times when I go a long time without an ‘interesting’ conversation. 🙁

  • Reeve

    Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  • wuruhi

    Oh, did not identify myself. I am an INFJ as MBTI describes. Also my BigFive points to same direction at “Global 5: sloan RLOAI; sloan+ RlOA|I|; primary Inquisitive; R(85%)L(68%)O(67%)A(61%)I(84%)” and even an early version of HEXACO gave me similar results. So I guess I am an INFJ.

  • Wuruhi

    Oh, absolutely! Had I missed my Intuitive friends and all those hours after hours of meaningful discussions full of creative thinking, mistakes, free association and everything that makes a discussion worthwhile I probably would live today either in an asylum or alone in total recluse.. if I would still be alive, that is.

    Having constructive talk and conversation is to feed one’s mind. I’ve seen that with NJ’s but just as well with others. It only boils down to who can create such conversation that engages many, even the majority of personality types.

  • Lindsey

    So I’m an ESFP and I’m surrounded by Intuitives in my life. If this is a basic need for my friends and family, how can I learn to engage in these conversations well? Do I, as an ESFP, even have the capacity to engage in such complex conversations that would satisfy, say, an INTJ? Or is this something that I am to be excluded from? I’m just super interested in meeting the needs of my loved ones and they are mostly INTJs, INFPs and ENFPs.

  • Thomas O'Duffy

    Note that, at least for me, “highly abstract, conceptual conversation” is a slight misnomer.

    I think what you actually mean is “intuitively-evidential conversation” where the breadth of topics, assumptions and connections are not constrained by disciplined rational thought, but whereby intuitive calibration augments and acts as a discovery and calibration tool for rational thought. The outcome is more access to genius and insight, grounded in well formed perceptions, calibrated intuitively instead of merely through alledged “objective referencing” which is full of semantic noise anyway.

    This type of conversation requires that participants can distinguish between distortions introduced by cognitive biases and logical fallacies and even commonly held understandings (that may be incorrect) to base their perceptions on what they know. I think for intuitives that type of conversation is very affirming, because, less intuitive folk often deny the very nature of what they can’t perceive, over-estimating the World they know as what there is to know, discounting other ways of assembling and organising perceptions. It’s a bit like surfing the nuances of uncertainty, with enough certainty, you can navigate and make working sense of things.

    Such open conversations are nourishing because of the freedom and possibility they presume, which is a kind of expansive thinking and allowing, which in turns, allows for higher grade and affirmed intuitive thinking.

    • Antonia Dodge

      Hello, fellow NTP! :p

      Actually, I don’t know your personality type, but my guess is that you’re an Accuracy/Exploration type (INTP) just by your post. I would absolutely agree that “highly abstract, intuitive conversation” is a slight misnomer. It basically has to be for the time being. Intuitives are looking for slightly different styles of conversation, but they’re all looking for it at what’s called the “top of the Ladder of Abstraction” – meaning, they want to pursue concepts at the zoomed-out point of view, not merely at the zoomed-in, concrete level.

      The best conversation for me is one that alternates between zoomed-in/zoomed-out, because that’s how I problem solve the best. And, as you mentioned, it’s how I recognize false premises and biases I may have missed along the way. I know, though, that not all Intuitives are seeking the same flavor of intuitive conversation. There are NFP’s (Authenticity/Exploration), for example, that want to stay ‘high on the Ladder of Abstraction” but don’t really care if they’re committing logical fallacies, because that’s not the point.

      In order to acknowledge all Intuitives, I keep the description at “highly abstract, conceptual” since that’s as close to accurate as I can get while still honoring the different flavors. Being inclusive means losing some accuracy for the individual.

      And, besides, “‘intuitively-evidential conversation’” where the breadth of topics, assumptions and connections are not constrained by disciplined rational thought, but whereby intuitive calibration augments and acts as a discovery and calibration tool for rational thought. The outcome is more access to genius and insight, grounded in well formed perceptions, calibrated intuitively instead of merely through alledged ‘objective referencing’ which is full of semantic noise anyway”… might not make it by my copy writer. 😛

      Thank you for comment! I love that you knew what I was talking about, and yes: the exact form of conversation you’re referring to is extremely nourishing for me, as well.


  • Barbara Rosson

    This is really enlightening! I know I crave a good conversation, but I never thought of it as a need.

    Thanks for pointing that out – now I can start honoring it even more!

    Who wants to have lunch? 😀

  • Marie Melite Kaajan

    I have this incredible feeling as an Eagle circling high above seeing the whole picture of
    My almost waisted life !

    But when I close my eyes I see the little girl just running in the green open space, and then looking up at the clouds that keeps changing…was I but again that little girl ?

    I see the times that I got up a reached the impossible dream, but never got any recognition.

    It made me feel, that I was so very odd. The paintings at the art collage that was so highly
    recommended, my father would burry in the back yard. Something inside of you withers

    and die…. So you always have to find new ways to please those near to you….or do nothing ?
    Marie Melite Kaajan

  • Evelyn Eaglesong

    This is so true, the basic mind help, the life fulfilling loving feeling of being accepted for being abstract and genius or powerful. Like. history has shown so many of these relationships and has mis labeled them as soul mate or twin souls.

    Cleopatra ,Antony and Caesar or King Arthur , Gwendolyn and Lancelot. In these women there existed a deep passion for these men and a very valid life requirement. Both women loved their husbands because it assured their self love of themselves and constantly made them feel whole. Survival of the 6th and 7th chakra. The other love was spiritual, physical and a necessity for the first chakra to flourish.

  • Linda

    Antonia and Cameron,
    What an important thing you two are doing. I am a homeschooling mother of a 14 year old intuitive and a soon to be 12 year old social butterfly artist….
    We have watched your videos a number if times in our science classes. It is very empowering for my son to know there are other ways to be a genius than rocket science.
    He gets his CD set first!
    I can’t wait to start working through the materials in the bundle i will get.

    Thank you both,

  • Celestial

    I could not articulate it, but this type of conversation is what I live for. I’ve raised three children to think in this style, and when they are available we talk for hours, but in my former mates, not so much.

    Funnily enough, it is the blogosphere where I find others who like to think abstractly and enjoy talking about it. That’s how I found this space. Thank you Antonia for opening this line of conversation and regarding it truly as a need. Namaste!

  • janet cade

    Could NOT agree more. There have been about 5 people in the world that I have
    been able to find these people — ok — maybe 6..
    Love that you have spotted and highlighted this !!!
    Bravo Antonia!

  • CarolMcQ

    My husband is clearly an intuitive, and I’m a sensory. Do you have an article on how a sensory person can relate to and make an intuitive more at ease? I just figured out that this difference is what makes for most of our discussion problems.

    • antonia

      This is a great question, Carol! If you’re willing to wait a couple of days, I’ll answer your question in my next blog post. 🙂


      • Rebecca

        I am looking for similar information. I’m an ISFJ with a high level of self-awareness. I’ve been studying type for several years now and have been actively pursuing personal growth since my teens. I’m in my early 50’s now and have now tapped into my inferior extraverted intution. I find myself drawn more to rationals and idealists than to guardians and artisans. I love challenging and thought-provoking conversations, exploring new subjects, and research. But I’m wondering how much I can actually be helpful to intuitives. My perception may be that the relationships work very well. However, that may be true only for me, not for the intuitives. I think that I’m rather unusual for a sensor, which makes me a curiosity to intuitives. I’m willing to stretch considerably. But it’s not the same as being another intuitive. I’m highly attracted to INTJ’s and to INFJ’s, but my dominanat introverted sensing is so blind to patterns and what may be in others people’s minds. I’ve used type heavily in order to make up for that.

  • Morgan

    Intuitive awareness is such an important life rudder. The course is now steadier, and it’s possible to understand both myself and others. There’s nothing wrong with either types, but living to fit an opposite type because it seems right, is wrong. At least, now that I’m aware I prefer to live my Genius.
    Thanks for the awakening.

  • Monty Maizels

    Thanks. You have clarified something for me—why I never feel so alive as when I am out of my intellectual depth. It IS food and drink to me.

    Strangely enough i have never seen myself as being an intuitive.

    Testing … testing … testing … ! Always.


  • Mary

    In the past, I’ve commented on my need for this kind of conversation, which I attributed to cultural differences. I thought North Americans, in general, like to “shoot the breeze”, which I find extremely boring. I’m from Brazil and, there, I have friends who enjoy conceptualizing, imagining, playing devil’s advocate, just totally talk like we can make a difference…

  • Stephanie

    Antonia, I am loving everything you’re doing with your blogs and programs. Bravo. As an intuitive, you are my hero!

  • Sadie

    Antonia – you are AWESOME!!! Every time I read your blogs – I have another “AH HA!” moment, and more things fall into place. Please – never underestimate the value of your work here – for the minority intuitive’s 🙂 I always thought I was the weird one for going deeper into conversations… then withdraw when people start looking at me weirdly, or start cracking light hearted jokes. My mission now – to seek out more intuitive friends.

    • Gary T

      Well said. 🙂

  • Astarte

    Hey thanks for this, Antonia. You’ve verbalised something I knew intuitively. (Of course) I’m fortunate in that I’ve gathered a number of people into my circle who fulfil this need of mine. It also helps explain why I remain outside the field of conventional counselling and am regarded as a ‘maverick’ coach. Cheers.

  • Marianne

    Finally! It is real food, essentail and impossible to live without.

  • Roger

    Most Important need but seldom fulfilled. So few bodies; may be blog time?

    • Jonathan

      Our intuitive convos online fill a lot of that need, for sure. It’s also interesting how, after taking Intuitive Awakening I’m meeting intuitives way more often, where I live in KC (a mid-size city).

  • Kerrie

    So warming to hear that this habit of mine to break out of the normal chit chat (which I find incredibly boring) and into crazy territory is actually vital for my well-being 🙂

    Thank you so much for affirming that which I have always known I guess.

  • Thomas

    Spot on! I love these types of conversations, where the mind is allowed to flow freely. Not a lot of people understand this, and often consider you weird when one lets the imagination loose. With your views/research in hand one can refer to an objective source, which should calm down more – so called – scientifically inclined people. Point being humans are different, and having an active imagination, is not a disease but a major ressource !

    Maybe there’s a brighter future in store for intuitives ..?

    • Jonathan

      I like how you articulated intuition, “letting the mind flow freely.” (I’m an ENFJ) The future looks extremely bright and exciting from my perspective, and you just made it brighter, so thanks Thomas 🙂

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