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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about understanding where you are in your process and timeline of personal development.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • How do you know when advice is right for you?
  • Often we put that down to personality type. Good advice for one type may be terrible for another.
  • We believe advice comes in a more three-dimensional model.
  • Advice today may be terrible for you, but that guidance in a year or so may be exactly what you need.
  • Getting Things Done by David Allen
  • System’s Thinking podcast
  • Nothing is cause/effect. Every result is the emergent of an entire system running.
  • The parts of the system are called nodes.
  • One node we have a tendency to gloss over is where we happen to be in the stream of time.  
  • Something that is working for someone else may not work for you because of where you are in your personal growth journey.
  • Or, something that has been working beautifully for you has stopped working because you have moved on.
  • Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don’t Hardcover by Jim Collins
  • What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Goldsmith & Reiter 
  • Are you holding onto strategies that no longer work for you?
  • Or are you rejecting strategies that may work now but didn’t work in the past?
  • Timelines are important considerations in everything, including business, relationships, and personal growth.
  • We miss the concept of timelines in personal development.
  • When we feel stuck in a personal growth project, and we aren’t making the progress we want, we forget the fact that things take time.
  • Some of our growth projects may be lifelong.
  • In the early days of our personal growth, sometimes the best advice we can receive is to be aware of the habits we have.
  • Notice we are doing something when we are doing it. That’s the first step.
  • Over time, we can start building strategies to avoid getting to that space.
  • What are the systems creating the behavior?
  • If you are stuck in your personal growth, you may be in a different phase, and you need new tools.
  • Three meta-models (a model other models can fit into)  that help us gauge where we are in the timeline:

1- Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:

  • If you don’t have base needs met, you can’t move into the higher needs.
  • Physical needs need to be met first before exploring spiritual needs.
  • Many people settle with basement needs and forgo the spiritual ambitions.
  • Self-esteem can seem very similar to Safety and Security.
  • When you are trying to figure out where you are in your growth process, determine where you are in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
  • Then figure out where your personal development goal falls in the hierarchy.
  • This isn’t a lifetime thing. It’s a moment to moment thing.
  • Think of yourself as stratified along this hierarchy and ask yourself what life circumstances are governing you right now.

2- Dependence, Independence, Interdependence Model (7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey):

  • We go through these phases with almost everything that comes into our world, including our personal growth.
  • Interdependence is your ability to choose your relationship with something after experiencing dependence and independence from it.
  • If we ignore our obstacles, we can’t recognize them enough to control them.

3- Graves Model/Spiral Dynamics:

  • Advice for someone at Graves 3 is going to be terrible for Graves 6.
  • We naturally gravitate toward people that are where we want to be.
  • So, people at higher levels of the Graves Model will often give advice that works for them but won’t work for the person at a lower graves level.
  • We are looking for individuals who have gone through our experience but aren’t so far ahead that they are out of touch with what it means to be at our level.
  • Once you self-diagnose where you are at in the Graves model, take your personal growth projects and find where they fit on the model.
  • What is the best advice you would give to someone at a different level?
  • This helps us see other people with more compassion when they are in a different phase than we are.
  • Sometimes, certain parts of us may be at lower Graves levels.
  • We can also see where someone is stuck if they have been in a phase for way too long.
  • Is someone who is stuck and unwilling to move going to help us on our growth journey?

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Simon
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    Great episode!

    Another model that has helped me is the Map of Consciousness from “Power vs Force” by David Hawkins. It has some parallels to Maslow and Graves, and includes a few other interesting nuances.

  • Grant
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    I really enjoyed this episode! It is easy to get excited and forget that personal development is a marathon and not a sprint. I also liked being reminded of these three models. I think I am in the Independence phase with MBTI. I started at INFJ, then INFP, and now I think I am an ENFP… At this point, I am dismissive of the model but I would like to come back to it soon. 🙂

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