Podcast – Episode 0251 – Is Growing Your Copilot Even Worth It?

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about how hard it is to grow your co-pilot and give some tips on how to actually do it.

 

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  • Eucklase
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    I am going to tell a story about myself that illustrates two things: 1. how important it is to not to listen to MBTI enthusiasts who seem to know a lot, telling you your typing is off. 2. How effective developing your co-pilot can be if you work from the right best fit type.

    I am an INTJ or that’s how I was typed by the test on this website the first time and a year later, the humanmetrics test, the 16p test, the cognitive functions test and more. Some MBTI-enthusiasts tried to convince me I was ENFJ. I tried to work with that, but ultimately couldn’t because both Fe and Se weren’t going to get much better for me obviously and I already was using Ni. I ended up almost burning myself out twice taking on this crazy task. The only way I averted this was by saving money, cutting costs and stopping my customer service work that was putting me in a highly unfavorable position and stay at home to finish my Applied Psychology major.

    The time I could go back to full-time studying and planning my studies and actually accomplishing things by passing exams and getting good grades for the projects I turned in was the happiest 2 months of my life. The proudest accomplishment of 2018 is that I did a little over a study year’s worth of work in 6 months. Does this sound familiar? I was using Te to safely exit the bad circumstances I was in and getting my focus back in terms of accomplishing my goal which is to finish my major by 2020. I immediately saw an improvement in my energy, mood, etc. Although it never became the same after almost getting a burn-out, I am still working on this.

    The argument that I was an Fe-dom was because I was too socially aware to be an INTJ. The thing these amateur MBTI-enthusiasts didn’t know about and didn’t take into account, because they don’t actually study psychology or anything related to personality theory: I am from a Moroccan family. Although I lived in the Netherlands my whole life, my parents’ Moroccan collectivistic values were inbedded in me.

    I got pinched so many times under the table by my mom because I said something that wasn’t right or I did something that was inappropriate in front of extended family. If I wasn’t secretly getting pinched I got an angry look. And despite all the efforts I put into blending in I still got called ‘asocial’ by my female cousin from Belgium when we were in Morocco and I was shutting myself off from the family gathering half the itme.

    But back to the pinching: eventually I learned to watch people’s reactions from a young age and tried to place them and adapt my behavior accordingly as a defense strategy. As an immigrant’s child I also had to learn how to adapt in school as well, because I was different from the others. Actually I couldn’t even speak Dutch the first 4 years of my life so I had to learn that from scratch in elementary school. All these things meant I needed to gauge people’s reactions so I had an idea where I was at and what people were even saying.

    Being my true self had direct consequences and my Fi got heavily defensive because of that. Early on I was avoiding “social” trouble. I started laying low and using my foresight to navigate social situations or just work harder just so people couldn’t blame or tell me off for something or point out a flaw. I tried to figure out what the right thing to do was, develop a strategy for the context, refine that strategy, and implement that so no one could tell me I had done or said something that could be criticized.

    Just imagine how I react when someone does criticize me in any way shape or form. I just break down, although I try not to show it, because one thing I also learned was showing emotion is showing weakness and people take advantage of that. You can imagine how my Fi took a beating from the Moroccan identity part, to the identity of being an immigrant in an individualistic country to being an INTJ who wanted to succeed in work but wasn’t actually developing my co-pilot instead I used Te to help protect my vulnerable Fi.

    I get why this could be mistaken for Fe if you don’t know how collectivistic cultures think about personality and identity, if your frame of mind is from an individualistic culture and you don’t have the unique perspective I have coming from both worlds. Actually, listening to these MBTI-enthusiasts was really my fault, all I have to say for myself is that I was in such a desperate situation back then where I didn’t have any understanding about my own identity in individualistic terms, I wasn’t succeeding in anything I had set out for myself to accomplish, I was in such a deep rut that in my moment of weakness I decided to put trust in a sympathetic person’s opinion on MBTI and myself for the lack of skills to create my own clarity.

    Eventually, I gave up on MBTI dismissing it as a broken system. No one agrees on what the functions even mean, whether the shadow functions are or are not a thing, what functions can be developed and what can’t and all those people convoluting functions with skills when skills, IQ and all other types of intelligence is more dependent on how many hours you put into practicing and learning a skill and other environmental factors.

    I then sought out a therapist for my problems, mainly in work: I was getting burned out in every customer service job I had before, I knew deep down it was a problem with being overstimulated by people, noise and their emotions and not having enough opportunities to focus and think deeply about a subject. All I was doing was navigating people’s feelings and grievances, which I was good at but I was also in a position where I was being perpetually blamed for something. Imagine how I was feel half the time.

    I wasn’t the cause of and I couldn’t do anything about the customer’s problems half the time I was hardly being effective.
    I was not in my element no matter how great I was at diffusing people’s emotions. I just broke down in tears one day because I had pushed myself into doing yet another customer service job I shouldn’t even have gotten into in the first place. Mind you I was doing that job really thinking I was an ENFJ even thinking stuff like: I am supposed to be an Fe-dom, why am I not getting energized or feeling a sense of challenge in this case and why is it that the thanks of the people who I eventually turned around do nothing for me in terms of generating energy. I was just annoyed and frustrated by the fact how terribly ineffective this company is in its policy and how there’s no one solving these issues from the ground up. Why is it I am being overwhelmed by my colleagues who try to cheer me up or try to reel me in to socialize or make jokes?

    Being an INTJ all that makes much more sense, but no I can’t be one because I am socially aware. *rolls eyes*.

    Eventually I saw multiple problems happening: I only had opportunities to work in customer service (that’s what I kept getting invited for, because of the experience I have in it) I still had my Applied Psychology major to finish but I didn’t have time for any studying because of all the time I was putting into work and all the energy that was getting sucked up by it, I was generally unhappy and always tired personally so even the hobbies I had that I liked doing I didn’t have the energy for.

    So I did what always works best: I planned. I facilitated my exit out of that job back into my studies. I checked my bank account and calculated how long I could survive on what I had, I cut costs where I could and I looked at my study progress and figured out what I needed to do first, how long I would need to finish that and if I could make that work with the resources I had. I finally decided I had two months to study full-time to get 40 credits and I did. In those two months I was more productive than ever before thanks to a clear goal, structure and plan of action. I was going back to what I am good at and that safely with the least amount of damage. My bills were paid, I succeeded at my studies, just by tapping into Te just a little more.

    I had already decided I’d get help from a therapist though because I still had a defense strategy of making sure people don’t find any fault with me personally or in my work which made me overvigilant in gauging people’s reactions etc. The therapist said something about finding my inner strength and setting boundaries. I didn’t know what to do with the esoteric sounding stuff but I understood boundaries, because I had learned the best way to set boundaries is by goal-setting and structuring your activities. So that’s what I did.

    So what was my goal? My goal at work is to do the best job I can. Does that require me to work really hard to please everyone just to get them off my back? No, that would mean people are always out to get you. They’re not, so let that go. The most effective way of doing said great job is by structuring my work in a way that is sustainable and putting less energy into gauging people’s reaction of me. Ultimately what it boiled down to was giving myself permission to shut myself off for the majority of the time and even taking walks so I can get away from the noise and clear my mind. Also I gave myself permission to help the senior workers there to structure their work which in turn helped me to stop going back and forth asking them to help me with something. So I gave them suggestions how to streamline certain things which they greatly appreciated.

    Another thing they appreciated was how fast I worked and that was only possible because of how concentrated and focused I could be by shutting myself off and the frequent quiet breaks. I “pleased” people by being my best self, although that was never really my goal.

    This story got sparked by Antonia’s and Joel’s story of how difficult the transition period can be, but it’s worth it. I had a transition period of 8 years being HIGHLY ineffective with many downs and even lower lows. The little bit of light I am seeing now is thanks to reintroducing Te back into my life so I am just grateful that life was so tough on me these past years. Failing is the quickest way to learning and I am seeing the fruits of the lessons I learned from my past fails.

    • Antonia Dodge
      Reply

      This was a fantastic story to share. Thank you so much for taking the time to do so. <3

      -A-

  • Isabella
    Reply

    I’m a young INTJ trying to develop my co-pilot. So far, over a cup of coffee, I’ve talked with professionals from the industry I want to break into (trying to establish a network for I see it as research), contacted professionals on LinkedIn and Instagram (including Nii from Personality Hacker!), went on my first solo trip to Seattle and had a chat over coffee with another professional (I had a whole itinerary written by me which I tried to follow), and currently am working with a life coach where I follow a plan to study my current interest every saturday, follow a plan to practice my piano every weekday, as well as a plan to clear my acne. I’m also trying to get out of my comfort zone and am currently crafting an email to propose self-employment services to my local network. All this I’ve done in the past 4-5 months. It took a long time to get out of my own way, to get out of the introverted feeling 10 year old I was indulging for years. I think it showed up for me as indulgence in the cerebral activities that kept me alone in my room for most of the day. Those activities and knowledge gathering I very much enjoyed and still enjoy in order to feed my 10 year old from time to time when I am exhausted putting myself out there (I’m a 5w6 too). The activities and knowledge gathering that I did outweighed the more important tasks I should of done before (like getting a job earlier, studying a marketable skill) and now I am trying to make up for lost time. Now I’m learning a skill set and creating a network and trying to be self-employed.

    Your podcast I’ve been listening to for 3 years, sometimes in the car on my lunch break at a time I didn’t know what the next step was in my life. Thank you so much for creating great content that kept my intuitive brain happy! I feel like my brain is more West Coast innovative while I live here in traditional Northern Virginia 🙂

  • Ash
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    I’m in what feels like a weird no man’s land (for me, anyway) because recently I got fed up with my bad habit of turning social media (or social situations in general) into a game. Popping into threads with helpful info or affirming/connecting with people kind of indiscriminately (which I did a lot more in my 20s).

    I thought I’d done a lot of work there (I’d certainly become less measurably “popular” and bought myself more time for actual research, reading, skill building), but then found myself trying to apply the same almost cheesy inform/entertain/affirm/connect with All The People ™ in a brand new work arena.

    A couple of ENFPs, actually, and my ISTP partner mentioned to me that I seemed to not even be considering whether I *liked* the people I was trying to connect with. That was like a blow to the chest; I mean that seems obvious, right? Aren’t people supposed to be in touch with that? But I really wasn’t. I just had sort of a frantic need for them to like me, which is cringeworthy, even just typing it out. It’s my least favorite part of myself. So I’ve scaled my volume of interaction back over the past few months, only engaging when it makes sense to ME, and I’ve found A) I’m a little lonely xD B) I like myself a lot more C) I need to work on learning how to actually connect with the people I admire and can be myself around, because I’m not nearly as good at that as I’d assumed :grimace:

    I think maybe…when I was a kid, my folks had the habit of meandering in and out of leadership positions at just…multiple places of worship, and I was expected to be: liked, admired, perfect, a good example, never reflect badly on them, so they could swiftly prove themselves to their “new” community. So I got “good” (not really, but passable) at flattery/humor/making individuals feel seen, as a way of protecting myself from gossip/social scrutiny. I honestly have no idea how to start dismantling that whole persona/habit set, so for the time being, I’m spending a LOT of quality time with books/my kids/my pets.

    But I’m moving soon, and have the opportunity to start showing up as truer to my “inside self” outside of old-habit context, so time to start digging in, I guess.

    All that to say, this resonated.

  • Kristopher lee
    Reply

    Great podcast. I liked listening to “Is Growing Your Copilot Even Worth It?” I identify as an INFP and have taken step to grow and open up more. This is what my wife has been asking me to do for years. However, now she says I’m changing too much.
    One of the things I did was start a blog because I’ve always wanted to write. She loves that I’m more open with her, but she doesn’t like that I’ve also started expressing my to others. It makes me want to just go back to how I was a stop trying to grow.
    Also, I like the analogy with the construction site, but to me growing my copilot reminds me of the video game rpg Final Fantasy Tactics.
    At the start of the game, you choose a class for you character. You grow and level up this character. You also have a choice a any time to learn a new class with new skills but it starts a level 1.
    Eventually, when you level up the new class enough, you gain access to a brand new and more powerful class that combines the strengths of both classes.
    The only problem in getting there is you had to start from level 1. So imagine you’re a level 20 white mage. You decide you want to grow your knight and switch to a level 1 knight. Now you’re a level 1 knight in a world of level 20 villains. It’s hard. You can choose to go back to the safety of being a white mage, or you can level up your knight with the knowledge that a white mage and knight combine to become a paladin.
    Sorry, if you’re not gamers and have no idea what I’m talking about.

    Eventually, if you

    • Antonia Dodge
      Reply

      I’m totally a gamer and I totally know what you’re talking about. Great analogy.

      -A-

  • Lukaswithak
    Reply

    I identify as INFJ and I struggle with adjusting to new situations in my life. All my life I’ve had intense anxiety about starting anything new. Meeting new people, learning new information for a job, starting a new class in school, etc. have always stressed me out for approximately for 1 month until I adjust, learn everything, and adapt to my surrounding. I’m also shy until I know how to respond to others (what they approve of or not). I’ve alwyas become instantly more comfortable once I can get someone to smile or laugh. That makes me so comfortable once that happens. How can I lean into my copilot of Harmony to help me adjust quicker to new situations like this? Is this normal for IJs? I wish i didn’t have such anxiety about starting new things bc I have such a long learning curve to go through.

    • Immanuel Imevbore
      Reply

      Yo bro. Fellow INFJ here. Congrats on your road into self-development. I’ve been on this now for a couple of years (3). Since I got profiled here by personalityhacker.

      I always get a feeling of angst when doing something new or being put in new enviroments or people.
      I think that’s something you just have to accept as who you are. The quicker you accept, the quicker you let go, the quicker you can focus your energy on mastering the new current environment.

      It’s good to be present (in the moment, calm mind) so you can be in Se and Fe mode if it’s required. Stop overthinking. Focus on the external environment, it will put less stress on you. You might enjoy it. And get active. Like trying to make people smile which I think is a good way to go. As long as you’re not being a people pleaser and breaking your back. Charm and charisma are priceless, effective and energetic.

      You can’t control the environment, you can control yourself. Speak up, act. With knowledge and practice the universe, people will respond to your will. Just be real, respectful and humble.

      Don’t be afraid of failing because you will never try. Don’t beat yourself up for not trying because you will make it hard for yourself for the next time. It’s a process, sometimes you can’t have it all. Accept it.

      Relax, stop worrying about a potential situation because you’re not in it yet. You can use that time and energy to focus.
      Research what new information you need and what skills to practice. Chill.
      When you’re in it, then you can act.
      If you’re nervous, in your mind worrying, beforehand you won’t be able to interact with things properly and people effectively. Focus and be mindful in the moment respectively.

      Don’t worry about what other people are thinking. You can’t control their thoughts. Don’t hesitate and censor your actions too much. Be in your own world. You will come across as confident. People respect and admire that.

      Have an objective. Focus in the moment, on people, what task you need to get completed. Set yourself a personal goal which will benefit you in the environment and in life e.g. be charming, or the best worker. Those skills will be transferable give you fulfilment and a sense of achievement. Ironically, will make you get the job done and be in your body/connected to the environment.

      Tools that help me include:

      Mindful meditation (sitting or can just black out lights and look at a candle or app on phone for 15 minutes a day), helps me stay present and let thoughts pass and not focus on them in the moment. Then I can apply it every day and in social situations .

      Books/Audiobooks/Information. Self-development and spiritual books are good. Body language and social dynamics topics are great for developing Fe and Se. Rinse and repeat.

      Dress socially appropriately. Apprearance is important. It doesn’t matter what you wear. But in work environments and places you want to affect it does. People will judge you by what you wear and what you look like.
      Be the chameleon and well-dressed man that you are by looking good in clothes people usually wear or approve of in that environment. Have your own style though. Be well groomed. You may garner more respect and comadre with others. You’ll feel good and more comfortable. Be open minded.
      When in Rome.. Respect customs.
      Don’t depend on this for confidence and freak out about it if you’re not always 100%. Bruce Wayne still kicks ass but the Batman is infamous. Wear the mask but know that without Bruce there is no Batman.

      Mimcry. Find and mimic an ESTP in your environment when it comes to social charm, techniques. Sometimes social interactions are as simple as they make it out to be. Doesn’t mean you can’t speak your mind though. Look at the ones who are well respected. Not just the ones who have an impact on you.
      Don’t just copy one because they are effective, look at the consequences of their actions. Don’t just do what they think if you don’t agree.
      Stick to your own beliefs and principles.

      Visualisation/Belief. I do guided meditations and visualisations. Check out Dr. Joe Dispenza, Aaron Doughty, Tony Robbins and Dr Bruce Lipton. They have a lot of content on YouTube.
      The whole point is that you can rewire yourself via neuroplasticity. We operate mostly subconsiously so by believing in being someome else we become that person. They mostly focus on reducing anxiety too.

      Breathe. Deep breaths are the best. Exhale well too. It will naturally relax you due to chemicals and how the body works. INFJ is the mind body connection.

      Practice. When you practice in certain situations over time you will be naturally good. You will find out what works for you.
      Be open minded. You may not know it all. Be prepared to re-learn.

      Be the best

      Joel and Antonia eternally grateful

  • Kathleen Erickson
    Reply

    ENTJ here trying to grapple with Perspectives copilot, and with slowing down (so counterintuitive!). Your phrase “bubbling up insights” really hit me. If I stay in bed in the morning and don’t jump up like I usually do, eventually ideas and more important feelings of what my true priorities are come out of left field. My boyfriend is ISFJ, and his harmony copilot is so well-developed — he worked all his life on it, 70+ years — but somehow he doesn’t receive well, just gives, and reality does not intrude much on his life of creative fantasy and imagination. He gets along really well with others (while I could care less and don’t play nicely or act like a team at work) but he doesn’t move forward in life — he is sure that having the right contacts and getting along with everyone is what will bring him success in his creative work instead of just putting it out there for people to accept or reject or give feedback. Back to me, just stopping to see “what will happen” if I do nothing is terrifying and also so relaxing that I don’t have to be responsible for every moment and every outcome for myself and others. Perspectives so far seems like a big “do nothing” that involves picking my head up and looking around and perceiving a broader world but I don’t know what I am looking for or what these “patterns” would be. My daughter has a Perspectives driver so I keep looking at her to see what is this Perspectives thing. I would like it to be less of a mystery to me, like half of me is not visible to myself. Thank you both for helping me become more of a whole person (can you do it for the President, too? another ENTJ). Honestly I see how insufferable ENTJs are. Hoping Perspectives will round off those sharp edges of this bossy person who is just tired of myself having such a one-track mind and workaholic life. When Perspectives creeps in, I start laughing at everything. A ways to go, but you two have put me on a good path. I cannot thank you enough, your work is part of my life every day.

    • Antonia Dodge
      Reply

      You are most likely using the Perspectives function without being aware of it. The key – slowing down – is the discipline that will help you not only use it, but identify and wield it. Modeling (and having extensive conversations with) an INxJ is a great idea.

      At any rate, it seems you’re on the right track.

      -A-

      p.s. If it makes you feel any better, I strongly disagree that the current president of the U.S. is an ENTJ. I know there is some insistence on that being his type from some sources, but to me he’s a pretty classic example of what happens when one combines ESTP with an 8sx Enneagram subtype.

      • Andrew
        Reply

        Yep, always picked Trump for an ESTP. Too tactically brilliant and situationally aware to be anything else.
        As my alter-ego I so much admired ESTP’s strengths that I married one. That was not fun despite “fun” being what she wanted me to provide.

        • Antonia Dodge
          Reply

          He’s definitely a ‘tactics not strategy’ kinda guy.

          -A-

      • Eucklase
        Reply

        Yeah, I agree that Trump is definitely an 8, I am not sure about the ESTP typing but I agree with that more than ENTJ. He is not intuitive, he doesn’t show any type of foresight or insight, which an ENTJ would still have even if they were looping. Also, he is pretty good at talking his way out of things in the moment, which doesn’t look that sophisticated when you only see him in the news. Seeing his soundbites next to each other easily reveals how inconsistent the guy is. Tactical is about right.

        But that really makes me wonder: does his Ti co-pilot not itch at the blatant inconsistency?

        • Antonia Dodge
          Reply

          I think that’s another element that leads to me to believe ESTP – how ExTPs in general loop when their Fe tertiary has a hold over them. It appears as if he doesn’t care what anyone thinks until he’s in their presence and then he seems to REALLY care about their opinion of him. He implements charm, but if his charm isn’t working he defaults to anger and outbursts. He has these moments of Ti honesty (“I could stand in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot somebody and I wouldn’t lose any voters,” etc…), but I also suspect he’s dealing with a personality disorder which would color his relationship with Ti (since defending the ego is priority number one for personality disorders). Ti is really inconvenient when dealing with cognitive dissonance. So, the Se-Fe loop takes over and he seeks the solace of his base’s love – a symbol he must be doing something right if so many people adore him. Right now he’s in a pickle – the thing he promised them isn’t working out like he assumed it would (regarding The Wall) and now he’s hedging like crazy and looking for any escape route. It can’t appear as if he was weak and rolled over, but the definition of ‘wall’ is getting pretty hazy (including ‘slats’). I suspect of all the difficult moments in his presidency, this may be the biggest to date since he’s in danger of losing the fervency of his base (as was illustrated in the recent Bill Maher interview with Ann Coulter.)

          While I don’t really like to definitely state anyone’s type until I’ve met in person, the system that makes the most sense to me include the nodes of ESTP, Enneagram 8sx, living in an perpetual Se-Fe loop, and personality disorder. There may be other systems that result in his behavior as an emergent but none of them seem to line up as well for me.

          -A-

          • Eucklase

            Hi Antonia!

            Something tells me Trump was trying to sound tough with that: “I can shoot people and still get votes.” But that is scarily enough one of the only insightful things he ever said. But as with everything insightful he says, it’s hard to determine whether it was a coincidence or not. Probably because of how neglectful he is of his Ti.

            Bottom-line is they are not mutually exclusive he can frame it like a tough guy but still attempt to speak his truth, which was pretty spot on.

            Yeah being tactical and charming definitely points to Se-Fe loop. Could also be Ne-Fe but I can’t possibly imagine the President being an intuitive.

            Flipping the loop would get us ENFJ and I can safely say he is not an Obama and that is not because Obama isn’t charming.

  • Reply

    I would be really interested in one on developing tertiary. This episode makes a lot of sense for sure, and at the same time I am thinking ‘well, what if people have a good co pilot, pretty naturally, or by development, and now it is time to really utilise the tertiary, whilst keeping the polarity intact?’ . I know as we get to midlife and beyond, developing the back of the car/opposites and so on (in Jungian thought) is natural and necessary. There’s more I could say about this, but for now, I just send you both love and gratitude x

  • Adam
    Reply

    I get the feeling that introverts might have an easier go at this. Only because responsibilities are generally tied to the external world. For example, I am an INFJ. So my loop is introverted. In order to fulfill obligations like my job, church responsibilities, etc, I have to engage extroverted function which is the copilot (hopefully not the 3 yr old).
    I grew up with the thought that I always had to be right – 10 yr old function Precision. When I came across the expression that I could choose between being right and being happy, I forced myself to make that choice to turn off the dependence on the 10 yr old.
    Having only recently found this site and podcast, I’ve only begun developing my copilot. The thing is, I feel like my copilot is what it is because of how I developed as a child. As I harken to the nature of who I was then, I recognize Harmony in myself. It becomes natural to process what can create harmony in my life.
    So now, in order to develop my copilot, I simply remind myself to think “what is best for everyone right now (including myself)?” I think it’s working, and it’s not this destructive struggle expressed in the episode. Either that, or I don’t see things properly and I’m actually not making the kind of progress you’re talking about… I suppose that’s a possibility.
    Thanks again for the fantastic content.

  • John Danzer
    Reply

     If you are unhappy/experience anxiety about being too punctual and you’re trying to change it
    because the test says you are a feeler (enFp) then maybe you need to open and explore the possibility that you are mistyped. Maybe what you are calling your “10 year old” is in reality your co-pilot. As you know the formula for determining your function stack is controversial. Learning about yourself should, under most therapeutic situations, be an “aha” liberation unless a person has some traumatic hangover.

  • Phillip Jacobs
    Reply

    The biggest piece I am working on with harmony is not to forget that it includes myself. Make sure I’m alright before I tackle other people’s issues. I always enjoyed solving others problems. Stems from mediating my parents fights as a kid. But I put the blame on myself and it drove me for a long time until I burned out. My 10 year old function is a ten year old punk girl that stuck up for me. Facebook sucks. You capitalist fake mark zuckerburg. Ok I’m back. Your an emotional nerd poser Markey. Shes so smart. All the best guys.

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