Podcast – Episode 0321 – Responsibilities And Burdens Of Personality Types

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia walk through the tension between personal responsibility and external burden as it relates to our personality.

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia walk through the tension between personal responsibility and external burden as it relates to our personality. #personalitytype

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  • TV
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    I’m an INTP female. Trauma is very interesting in how it may show up for each personality type. I struggled in the grip of Fe, my inferior 3-yr. old, in my younger years and it wasn’t until I incorporated more Ne and Ti development that I was able to get better. Anybody who’s been in their personality grip knows how painful it can be.

    My Fe can cause me to become an unhealthy people-pleaser at the expense of my own values. Values for me are what makes ‘logical sense’. Not the same as Fi values. I don’t spend time mulling what is right and wrong per se, I use my Ti to figure out if doing something makes sense for me or not.

    With people-pleasing, this means I might have to agree and follow what everyone else does. The most concrete example I can give is me no longer going to church with my family. They just can’t fathom that I questioned religion and certain things don’t make sense for me. It was distraught to my Fe to cause ripples and disharmony within my family, but I had to be honest with my beliefs and align myself accordingly.

    Now, my family and I get along for the most part and I’ve been able to nurture my Ne and Ti in ways I’d never imagined. I couldn’t be happier!

  • Heidi
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    I’m a Perceiver, and I’m fascinated by your description of the J/P dichotomy. Judgers like their outer world organized for the sake of inner freedom; Perceivers like the inner world organized for the sake of outer freedom. But while I understand having your thoughts organized, what does it mean to have your feelings organized? (I’m also a Thinker, so maybe that’s why this is not immediately obvious.)

  • Izzy
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    I definitely err on the side of feeling very uncomfortable needing/receiving help.

    I had an experience last week that was pretty eye opening for me and fits nicely with this podcast so I thought I’d share it.

    I got a pretty awful migraine and started to panic a bit as I could hardly lift my head off the pillow, never mind look after a very energetic 3yr old. I didn’t know where to turn as I thought that no-one would be able to help me/or want to.

    I have a group of friends that I see regularly as we all have kids the same age but I felt like they weren’t close friendships that I could lean into for support, but as I was desperate I sent them all a message on a group chat and within minutes they were all offering to come and collect my son and bring me pain killers so that I could go to bed. I was so shocked and pretty overwhelmed by it tbh.

    It was a bit of an eye opener that at the age of 33, I was only just experiencing what it was like to feel friendship. I have have had “friends” throughout my life but only in some kind 3rd person experience (that I can remember anyway). It feels a little odd and I’m sure it will take a while to get used to.

    I think that “help” I received in my childhood/adolescence actually felt abusive and violating, so any time the thought pops into my head that I may need something from someone or help is offered my fear response is activated and I mentally and physically recoil from relying on anyone and push the thoughts away.
    It’s always exciting to figure out an unconscious process so I at least have something to work with.

    Sorry to hear you put your back out Joel. I hope you feel fully recovered soon.

  • johny
    Reply

    If someone has trauma in something that isn’t one of their preferred cognitive functions does that mean they are typed wrong

  • Drew
    Reply

    I was REALLY struck by Antonia’s take on Judger trauma. I’m an INFJ, but have severe clinical ADHD that went undiagnosed until I was 20. I forever got messaging from myself and others that I just wasn’t trying hard enough, or that I was lazy, and this led to debilitating depression in my late high school years.

    For a good while this resulted in an attempt to completely sever myself from my Judger instincts — I still (mostly) jokingly romanticize the idea of being a nomadic “trainwreck” and cutting myself off from all societal expectations. But in the past couple of years I’ve started to swing the other direction, sometimes actually lashing out when I’m interrupted while working, or getting angry when there’s a change of plans.

    I feel like I’m “trying on” different relationships to the Judging/Perceiving dichotomy, attempting to find something that works, since I’ve spent the majority of my life thus far just scraping by.

    (The ADHD factor also meant that I always test as an INFP, so it was such a relief when I learned to deep-dive into cognitive functions and accurately identify my best-fit type)

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