Personality Development Tools: The Car Model

(In this post, we talked about the need for Personality Development Tools. Feel free to read it first.)

One of the most powerful tools I’ve ever come across is what we call The Car Model. It creates the backbone of our Genius Assessment, and is the primary focus of about 50% of Personality Hacker trainings.

The Car Model

Let’s pretend your mind is a four passenger vehicle. (These four ‘passengers’ represent four distinct mental processes which influence you the most.) In the front seat you have a Driver. Next to the Driver you have a navigator, or a Co-Pilot. Directly behind the Co-Pilot sits a 10 year old, and directly behind the Driver is a 3 year old.

The Driver is the part of your personality that you identify with the most. If I were to ask you to describe yourself you would spend 80% of your time describing this process. It is the most certain element of your personality, and takes on a heroic energy. (The technical name for this position is the Dominant function.)

The Co-Pilot is a part of you that you identify with, but not nearly as strongly as the Driver. It’s an incredibly important part of ourselves that we tend to undervalue. It also carries with it a sense of certainty, and is most often triggered when helping others. It takes on a parental energy. (The technical name for this position is the Auxiliary function.)

The 10 Year Old is a part of you that you know is there, but have a push/pull relationship with. Sometimes you think you’re good at it, sometimes it trips you up. Using this function makes us feel uncertain, which we try to overcome by seeking validation from others. It takes on an eternal child energy. (The technical name for this position is the Tertiary function.)

The 3 Year Old is a deeply uncertain part of you. Deep uncertainty is a feeling most of us avoid, and when we're young we tend to avoid this aspect of ourselves. It often influences you from the shadows until it makes its presence known, usually through inner turmoil. In Jungian terms, it takes on the energy of our anima or animus. (The technical name for this position is the Inferior function.)

It looks like this:

Before we develop the Car Model more, we should establish…

There are eight mental processes (technically called “cognitive functions”) in the Myers-Briggs system. Four help us learn new information, four help us make decisions. Personality Hacker has assigned nicknames to these processes to make them easier to understand. They are:

Learning processes

• Introverted iNtuition – “Perspectives”
• Extraverted iNtuition – “Exploration”
• Introverted Sensing – “Memory”
• Extraverted Sensing – “Sensation”

Decision-making processes

• Introverted Thinking – “Accuracy”
• Extraverted Thinking – “Effectiveness”
• Introverted Feeling – “Authenticity”
• Extraverted Feeling – “Harmony”

Notice:

• It’s the iNtuitive/Sensing preference that informs how you learn new information, and the Thinking/Feeling preference that informs how you make decisions.
• Each process has an introverted version and an extraverted version.

Everyone needs four primary components in order to be a complete person.

We all need:

• A way to take in new information (learn)
• A way to evaluate that information (make decisions)

We also need:

• An introverted part of us, or a way to get in touch with our “inner world”
• An extraverted part of us, or a way to get real-world feedback

Each personality type chooses one of the learning processes as their favorite way of learning new information, and one of the decision-making processes as their favorite way to evaluate new information, or make decisions.

On top of that, each type will make one more distinction: whether they like learning or decision-making more. So, each type pares down their favorite process from eight to just ONE. That is your Driver. The other process you like (but isn’t your favorite) is your Co-Pilot. And remember – we all need an introverted part of ourselves as well as an extraverted part. That means if your Driver process is introverted, your Co-Pilot process will automatically be extraverted.

To state it in an easier way:

• If your Driver is learning, your Co-Pilot is automatically decision-making (and vice-versa).
• If your Driver is introverted, your Co-Pilot is automatically extraverted (and vice-versa).

If you don’t get this right away, don’t worry. Most people don’t get it initially. And I’ll use an example to make it a little easier.

An Example of How This Works

I’m an ENTP in the Myers-Briggs system.

The two letters that instantly draw my eye are the “N’ (which stands for iNtuitive) and the “T” (which stands for “Thinker”). Remember – all the learning processes are either iNtuitive or Sensory, and all of the decision-making processes are either Thinking or Feeling. So, N and T are my starting point.

I know I learn using iNtuition, and I know I make decisions based on Thinking criteria. If I were to draw this out it would look like this:

E – iNtuition – Thinking – P

The last letter of the ‘sandwich’ is P. This stands for Perceiver in the four letter code, and has meaning in and of itself. But right now I’m trying to figure out what my Driver process is, so we’ll stick with that.

In the Myers-Briggs system, iNtuition and Sensing are called “Perceiving” functions. When someone is a “Perceiver,” that means the world – everyone else outside of them – first recognizes the “perceiving” quality about them. So for all “P’s” in the Myers-Briggs system, their iNtuitive or Sensory preference is EXTRAVERTED!

I’ll repeat that – since the world sees their Perceiving nature, that makes their perceiving nature (iNtuitive or Sensory) extraverted.

That means my iNuition is “Extraverted iNtuition.” (aka, “Exploration” in the Genius System).

That makes me half a person – I have a way to 1) learn new information and a way to 2) interact with the ‘outer world’ through extraversion. To be a complete person, I need a way to 3) make decisions and 4) interact with my ‘inner world’, or have an introverted side of me. (We need all four elements.)

I know I make decisions using Thinking. And because I need a way to interact with my ‘inner world’, that means my Thinking process has to be INTROVERTED.

My Thinking is “Introverted Thinking.” (aka, “Accuracy” in the Genius System).

So, my two favorite processes are Extraverted iNtuition and Introverted Thinking.

With me so far? We’re almost there…

Which of these two is my FAVORITE process? There’s only one letter left in the four letter code (ENTP) that we haven’t used – the E! “E” stands for “Extravert.” The E or I (which stands for “Introvert”) tells you which of the two processes you favor. Whichever one matches this letter is your favorite process. Of my two, it’s Extraverted iNtuition that matches, so my favorite process is Extraverted iNtuition, which is my Driver.

How do I figure out the ‘passengers in the car’?

So, for me as an ENTP…

• My Driver is Extraverted iNtuition, or “Exploration”
• My Co-Pilot is Introverted Thinking, or “Accuracy”

Which looks like this:

Now it’s a matter of figuring out the ‘back seat passengers’, or the 10 Year Old and the 3 Year old.

Remember, the 10 Year Old sits directly behind the Co-Pilot, and the 3 Year Old sits directly behind the Driver. That’s because these final two passengers – the final two aspects of your personality that influence you the most, are the exact opposite mental processes as the Driver and the Co-Pilot.

In my case, my Co-Pilot is Introverted Thinking . That makes its exact opposite – Extraverted Feeling – my 10 Year Old. And my Driver process is Extraverted iNuition, making its exact opposite – Introverted Sensing – my 3 Year Old.

Incorporating the ‘nicknames’, that means:

• My Driver is Extraverted iNtution, or… Exploration
• My Co-Pilot is Introverted Thinking, or… Accuracy
• My 10 Year Old is Extraverted Feeling, or… Harmony
• My 3 Year Old is Introverted Sensing, or… Memory

Therefore, my car looks like this:

If you notice, each one of the passengers has an explanation in the box. That because I borrowed a page from the complete assessment you get when you order the Genius Style Assessment after taking the test.

Each of these positions – the Driver, Co-Pilot, 10 Year Old and 3 Year Old play a unique position in your life. On top of that, they each influence each other in unique ways depending upon your type.

For example, if you notice… regardless of whether or not you lead with an introverted or extraverted Driver, your 10 Year Old process is going to be the same. In times when the world is telling us something we don’t want to hear or acknowledge, we either will shut off our listening mechanism (Introverts will do this), or we’ll ignore those niggling voices inside of us that tell us we’re doing something wrong (Extraverts are guilty of this behavior). When that happens, we want to stay in the world that’s comfortable to us – either the ‘outer world’ for Extraverts or the ‘inner world’ for Introverts. Our Co-Pilot encourages us to be more mature and explore the other world, the one we’re currently fearing. In a defensive move, however, we’ll shut out the voice of the Co-Pilot, and run to the 10 Year Old to fortify what we already want to believe. That’s why the 10 Year Old is called the “Defensive State.”

Just knowing this can be HUGE in personal development.

Another example. Our 3 Year Old is oftentimes off our radar. It’s the opposite of how we ‘define ourselves’, and so we tend to pretend it isn’t even there. But it IS there, even if it is a more childlike, unsophisticated part of us. In a family, no one introduces everyone except the baby saying, “Oh, that’s just a stupid baby, don’t pay attention to it.” We WILL do this to ourselves, however. And just like a real baby, when it feels neglected for too long it will start screaming – loudly. These are generally moments when the Driver is already stressed, and having a screaming, childlike voice inside is almost invariably the reason a person will behave in a truly terrible way, saying, “Did I REALLY do that? That’s totally not me!”

Knowing your personality type also means giving a name to that part of you, and recognizing how NOT to ignore it. As an Exploration/Accuracy (ENTP) type, I know my ‘baby’ is Memory. Since I understand how it works cognitively, I can help it get its needs met before I become a prisoner to it. And when I say, “That wasn’t me,” I can now identify – yeah, that was me. It was my Memory process, and I now can control it instead of be controlled by it.

Who are the passengers in your car?

The Car Model is one of the most powerful tools for personality development. If you haven’t yet, I highly recommend investing in the Genius Style Assessment and becoming intimately acquainted with the ‘passengers’ in your car. Each type is different, and building intimacy with all of your parts may be one of the most satisfying things you can do.

Find out who’s in your ‘car’ by taking the Genius Style Assessment here. There’s a helpful animated video which explains The Car Model in more detail. Check it out!

-Antonia

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