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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how different people show up to the world using either a competitive frame or a collaborative frame. They also dive into a little bit of MBTI type theory around the polarities.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • The difference between a competitive frame and a collaborative frame.
  • Frame = perspective/reality that you use when coming to an interaction.
  • If you originate from a competitive frame, you may have a tendency to base your social interactions upon competition.
  • If you come from a collaborative frame, you may have a tendency to base your social interactions upon collaboration.
  • Competitive frames can frustrate communication.
  • One of the basic principles of improv is that whatever the person on stage with you says, you respond, “Yes, and… “
  • Competition and collaboration can both be useful in the proper context.
  • We have been taught to play a zero sum game (Win/Lose) when there isn’t necessarily a need for winners and users.
  • Sometimes we create zero-sum games with our communication styles. We endlessly apologize for ourselves or blame others for perceived slights.
  • Our judging functions are the ones we use to make decisions – Thinking/Feeling
  • Car Model
  • Extraverted Thinking (Te)/Introverted Feeling (Fi) are more concerned with competition as a general rule.
  • Introverted Thinking (Ti)/Extraverted Feeling (Fe) are more interested in collaboration as a general rule.
  • Fi is about creating distinctions and differentiating yourself from others.
  • Te is about getting things done and resource management. If you come from a place of scarcity, you will automatically be competitive if you feel your survival is at stake.
  • Fe is about consensus. Even those who are overly concerned with social status are showing an unhealthy use of Fe.
  • Ti wants consensus with info. They don’t hoard their info. They usually get accused of over-sharing.
  • Are you blocking energy by holding back because of competition? Are you stingy with your energy?
  • Fe may appear non-collaborative due to their need to conserve energy.
  • Getting competitive is how we get things accomplished.
  • Some people are the most collaborative once they have taken care of the competitive part and are in the position they want to be.
  • We can choose to be competitive in a collaborative way.
  • Often, we create a team, consensus, or meme and we become competitive about supporting it.
  • Both collaboration and competition are necessary. If you can’t do both, you have limited your options.
  • Watch for what you are capable of doing and what you gravitate toward. Then try to be the other.
  • We can be competitive for humanity.

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how different people show up to the world using either a competitive frame or a collaborative frame. They also dive into a little bit of MBTI type theory around the polarities. #personalgrowth

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  • Anonymous
    • Anonymous
    • March 23, 2017 at 12:19 am

    Competition is unnecessary and counterproductive if you are not participating in a competitive sport or a competition. Competition creates conflict and Ill will, cuts off collaboration, empathy, kindness, and community, supports dishonesty, greed, crime, corruption, selfishness, suffering, the destruction, pollution and abuse of life and the Earth, withholding resources and information, the blocking of what is best for everyone, and always creates a result that is LESS THAN the result they would get if everyone collaborated.

    Collaboration, when each one gives their all to the work, always creates a result that is greater than what any one man/woman could create alone.

    When you are being who you are, authentically, there is no competition, because you are being and embodying and expressing your uniqueness. No one else can express the uniqueness you express, so there is no competition.

    Social status and hierarchies are bullshit generated by the ego mind/false self.

    Who you really are is formless and inexhaustible.

    Getting collaborative is how we really get things accomplished.

  • Laura
    • Laura
    • March 19, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    Hi Antonia and Joel,

    My name is Laura and I am secretly listening to your podcasts for a few months now. You guys have been very inspiring!
    I like you experimenting and enjoying your podcast like this and your willingness to come to this level of openness. Listening to two Intuitives as they go, is very exciting for me, especially with such brilliant people. I hope you will do this more in your podcast!

    And also, for me I think I am lucky to be an ENFP, so I can profit an extra lot from this podcast. I think it’s awesome to be learning and relating at the same time. I would love it, if you sometimes had guest, with different dominant functions, talking that deep about personal growth, like you do, but in their very own ways. Basically how someone very mature of another type would create her or his live, handle obstacles, enjoy something, etc. For me especially someone with a dominant Fi function would be interesting. But also with Si I feel like it would be great to learn more about it’s “behavior”, it’s talents and it’s flaws. Especially as I hardly ever had someone in my surrounding with much Si, maybe even estranged them. But now I would love to learn more Si in others and in myself. I bet stuff like this would be interesting for many different types for many different reasons.

    Thank you for sending out this podcast out into the world! It is really great! Laura

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