Podcast - Episode 0381 - How To Be A Good Winner

In this podcast you’ll find:

• Is winning gracefully a skill many people lack?
• When winning poorly goes beyond just gloating.
  • Why couldn’t Joel handle it when someone conceded in an argument?
  • The thing we might relish in a bit too much.
  • What we often think winning means.
• What about losing?
  • When being a poor loser sets in.
  • The 2 best things about losing.
  • Why losing gracefully builds you up.
  • How our modern world simulates high stakes.
  • What is happening to our ego when we lose.
• Our challenges of being a poor winner or loser.
  • What winning or losing poorly is stripping us of.
  • The beauty of the DIKW model. (Check out our podcast on the model: Podcast – Ep 165 – Fake News, Alternate Facts, And DIKW)
• Why people aren’t even expecting to win anymore…and the thing they’re doing instead.
• When politics turned away from solving issues.
  • Where we are now in the Graves model. (See more on this model here: Personality Hacker Podcast – Ep 0022 – Graves Model)
  • When seeking dominance dictates our winning behaviors.
  • Are we now any different than our human history?
• Why we need to find better ways to win.
  • This dangerous thing people are expecting of others.
  • How do we change how humans handle winning?
• What competition means to the human experience.
  • The huge things we are missing out on.
  • How this study on rats explains so much.
  • What are we doing with our ideological battles?
  • When we think we are winning, but aren’t really.
  • Joel’s struggles to have his ideology “win”.
  • The role tension plays in battles.
• How the intrinsic lessons of life affect how we win.
  • What is the thing that makes every human in existence already a winner?
  • The other thing that means we each end up losing.
  • Why having enough wins in life is so vital.
• When there are different kinds of wins.
  • 2 experiences that affect how we are as winners.
  • Ways morals and identity get intertwined with winning.
  • When Cognitive Distortion Quadrant Thinking sets in.
  • Why what Robin Williams said about competition is so right.
• What we are overidentifying with.
• Taking how we win to the next level.
  • What we can wish for our opponents.
  • Why doing these 3 things when you win makes all the difference.
  • The hostile choice we can stop making.
• Why the interplay between winning and losing is so crucial…and how we actually grow through it.
  • The self-assessment that helps you grow.