On this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia discuss applying the four fantasy fixations of personality types.
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4 Fantasy Fixations of Personality Types - Episode 553
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Okay, my hero fantasy delusion (as an infp) is literally being a hero to someone, or to have opposed something horrible even when it was unpopular or costly. I don’t want it to be recognized on a large scale, I don’t really like a large amount of attention on me, but I want it as some sort of proof of character to myself and people I want close to me. I have a few moments in my life that I look back on with a lot of pride and without fail will eventually tell someone or even show proof of as I am getting to feel close with them, one less personal example being that when I was 10 or 11 I pulled an unattended toddler out of a busy street when I was on my way to get candy at the corner store with my brothers and we waited at the store until the mother was found. I literally saved a 2 year old’s life. I didn’t get any thanks or praise for it, which was a bit of a bummer, but it is still a core memory that influences me today.
(wow, you guys are many podcasts ahead of what is uploaded to youtube!)
At first I didn’t resonate with the rightness (INFP) but when I thought of it, I do actually love when I say something that has meaning to me and people show that they are kind of impressed and agree with me. Also I resonated so much with the last thing you said about IPs, that we don’t always know how others perceive us and look at it very subjectively. I’ve heard from others that I think I’m a mind reader because I’m sure that I know how others feel about me (though I’ve been wrong many times because I mostly think it’s negative).
I am certain I was in the same school Antonia discussed. As an INTJ, I largely solved the situation similarly though from a different motivation angle, a desire to not show weakness, vulnerability, or incapacity. As a result, of overcoming this fear of extemporaneous speaking, which was compounded by participating in this school in a language I did not speak. I have similarly succeeded in my secular life, occasionally getting the parade for slaying the dragon with my “great” insights, often because I spoke up, or out in the moment. You have captured this fantasy aspect of our personalities well, very enjoyable episode.
Long time listener here (like since 2015)! I’m only a couple minutes into this and I was laughing because literally as soon as Joel started talking about his poison oak and “cutting his own trail,” I just KNEW the segue would be about the fantasy of “freedom.” So in the most affectionate way, I chuckled when Antonia commented on the graceful segue because I initially assumed the segue was planned!
**INFJ preferences here – I’m trying to finally push myself to use my voice more and comment on things I appreciate in a way that would be “vulnerable” in my past 😉 (because you know, I have this fantasy that if I hide in introversion I’ll be less vulnerable – FIRM model exhibit A 😆)
To Aaron what you are saying is right. your not seeking validation in fact it does not even concern you. it is the fact you hold so much inner integrity to others it would seem your righteous. Even this might only show if your having a lot of deep conversations. The best way to see your righteous behaviour is when you are triggered the feeling you get should tell you. If you are INFP it will resonate with you the freedom. I want to stop drinking coffee for the exact same reason. As sleeping on the floor just took me a lot more years to get to this point. Inner integrity you must have times you are pushed. question when you are outside your comfort zone what emotion occurs?