Personality Types You Hate | Podcast 554

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  • Aaron
  • September 19, 2024 at 11:32 am

  As an INFP the types I struggle with are ESTPs and ESTJs but I do have friends and relatives that I like who are those types as well. It also depends on the setting. Work environments with those types are the real struggle while social activities are usually fine. What I’ve come to realize is that core values, worldviews, and beliefs are far more important to compatibility than MBTI type. I love ESTJs and ESTPs who share my worldview and have my back in a social setting. Conversely there are INFJs and ESFJs that are philosophically opposed to me and they make my skin crawl when I’m around them. Weaponized Fe can be ten times more dangerous than the blunt ESTXs. Unhealthy Fe has the power to banish you from lifelong social circles before you’re even aware you’re in a conflict. That being said, I understand healthy Fe is what created those foundational social circles in the first place.

  My last thought is that while I can be friends and enjoy the company of ESTJs and ESTPs I know there is a level of depth I can’t go to with them. ESTXs on average don’t have enough Fi to explore the dark places of humanity or to acknowledge the complexity and pain of moral issues. There’s also a materialistic ambition that high Te users and ESTPs have that make it hard for me to connect with them. I appreciate their ambition because they create many of the structures that make life comfortable but I just don’t have that drive. Once I attain enough to be free and secure I have to be still and drink in the simple pleasures of life. I’m all about having a purpose and creating, but wealth and status for their own sakes is not something I seek. So there tends to be a tension in friendship with these types where we judge each other or I withhold my true views to keep the peace.