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In this episode Joel and Antonia continue talking about personality type “loops.” This week they ask the question “What About The Auxiliary-Inferior Personality Loop?”
In this podcast you’ll find:
- Car Model
- Growing your copilot is the highest leverage thing you can do.
- Looping can occur when two cognitive functions are of the same attitude (introvert/extravert).
- Driver and Tertiary functions share the same attitude.
- Copilot and Inferior functions share the same attitude.
- Dominant/Tertiary loop serves a specific function – defensiveness and maintaining cognitive dissonance.
- People stay where they are comfortable and dominant/tertiary loops are comfortable because they share our preferred attitude.
- We aren’t sure if there is a loop between copilot and inferior because it isn’t comfortable like the dom/tertiary.
- If it is a thing, it may explain why some people avoid using their copilot.
- The inferior function is our blind spot. We aren’t comfortable there.
- If our copilot puts us in the inferior space, it is an interesting idea to explore.
- We make up for the deficiencies in our inferior process by mastering our dominant and auxiliary processes.
- Like INFPs who use their copilot to find creative solutions for systematizing their lives.
- ENTJs who use Ni to offset their Fi blindspot.
- ESFPs can use Extraverted Sensing to make up for their Ni blind spot by reading people’s body language.
- We may need to build sophistication around our auxiliary function to help us overcome the blind spots in the inferior.
- It isn’t a loop; it’s a frustration.
- It’s not codependency; it’s a puzzle that still needs to be solved.
- Certain types may feel like they are looping with their aux/inf.
- The inferior may feel stuck.
- If an INFJ has really good Fe, they recognize the difference between needs and wants.
- If you feel like you are in an auxiliary/inferior loop, is it because you’ve ignored your inferior for too long?
- The Personality Hacker Owners Manuals have some handy hacks for giving the inferior process attention.
- Si inferiors can revisit old shows, music, video games, or amusement park rides.
- Our trauma can live in the least sophisticated part of ourselves.
- When we are stuck in our inferior, the auxiliary can be the tool we use to cut out whatever has us trapped.
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I loved this podcast so much! I had several ah-ha moments as well. I believe this is the information I am in need of for the healing work I am doing currently as an INFJ.
So, I’ve copyed and pasted my notes from your podcast below, lol.
•Copilot/Inferior loop. Same inner or outer world. We go there for growth, and see that inferior part of us that holds a lot of pain points, trauma, or dragons we would rather avoid. Unconscious incompetence.
•See this place as a workshop for you instead of loop. If there’s healing work that needs to be done, it’s here. Copilot parents it.
•We figure out ways to overcome the challenges presented from our inferior by utilizing or two dominant processes together.
•Ni+Fe provides me with insight into others unconscious minds combined with empathy while meeting people’s need so I can overcome the overwhelm associated with Se.
For me, Se holds all of these past messages of reading body language wrongly. Assuming people were judging me and taking those subtle body language cues as messages of their disapproval (undeveloped Fe). I’m stuck in unhealthy Se patterns of thinking (others disapproval/perceived judgment) and my Fe is trying to navigate my psyche out of that trauma, but it just isn’t mature enough yet to make it.
Growing and sophisticating that copilot (Fe) helps to mature and heal that irrational thinking pattern.
This is less like a loop and more like a puzzle going unsolved. Just stuck. The dom/10 yr old loop is codependency (staying in preferred world and keeping outer input out).
Se inferior is a place of over indulge food etc. This feel soothing/nurturing because Fe wants to get needs me (food is a fundamental human need!) Caught in loop of self medicating. Fe as a tool trying how to satisfy Se when caught there but not knowing how yet.
HOWEVER, mature Fe learns that a need is not a want. A need is a need. Nourishment is a need. Junk food is a want. So, mature Fe sets boundaries with self and meets own NEEDS not indulgent Se wants. Se can be demanding. It needs indulgence in outer world. Fe is a tool used to get to that outer space and get that need met. What does Se truly, really need? Figure it out in a healthy, nourishing way.
•Ni+Ti intimate relationship
Fe+Se intimate relationship
Like family dynamics. Closer to mom. Parts of family ganging up on others. No always negative. Little alliances among attitudes in our personalities. A fondness or simpatico there.
The copilot has to parent the inferior. It will get the 3 yr old more than any other.
•Fear may come up when we develop copilot because inferior shows up wanting attention too. And, that can feel threatening because maybe we haven’t been showing that inferior process enough attention. If a part of us in neglected then it will force itself up!
•ESTPs make up for their blind spot of Ni ( not perspective shifting and seeing people’s hidden motivations) by getting into flow with Se (really great at reading body language in real time) and Ti (clean slicing the language of what people are saying and getting to the accurate truth of the matter at hand).
Sharpening that Ti (it’s like a scalpel-clearing up thoughts) will heal wounds associated with calcified beliefs of cheating or harmful speculation associated with inferior Ni).
•INFJs make up for their blind spot of Se (not being observant, not getting into action, not being in their bodies in real time and reading body language) by combining Ni (perspective shifting into others minds and seeing the etymology to why they do what they do) with Fe (absorbing emotions, empathizing deeply, creating boundaries, healing conflict, and meeting needs as they come up).
Building up, tendering up like a nursemaid (I think of Dr. Quinn) will help heal wounds associated with calcified beliefs in inferior Se around harmful assumptions that others are disapproving of me.
Basically, I can love and nurture myself. Meet my needs of good self love (positive self talk and clean food intake) by setting boundaries. My Fe gets clear on my wounded needs and meets them as they come up like I do for others.
It’s interesting that Antonia said the thing about trauma living in the youngest part of us. Is it possible that these cognitive functions are actually based on our weaknesses? I wonder if it’s trauma related to a certain cognitive function at a young age that pushes us out of that space and into the opposite attitudes, etc. Anecdotally, I test as an ENTP and I can tell you that I use Ne to avoid dealing with the trauma of having a wildly unstable childhood. Si for me is suspect at best, a blatant enemy at worst. Another example: my INTJ husband has struggled with getting stuck in the grip of Se his entire life. But that might not be surprising because his physical needs were ignored and he was exposed to pornography as a very young child. Also, he wasn’t allowed to deal with the exposure to sex in a healthy way because his “Christian” household wouldn’t tolerate conversations about it. Would it be surprising for a kid in that situation to retreat hard into Ni? Is it possible that this is the very reason we can’t get an accurate reading on kids?
As an ENFJ, I am yet to experience the aux-inf loop to my knowledge…but I have discovered recently that the more I developed my Ni (I laser focused on that too), the more my Ti naturally developed. It’s funny because I used to want to major in Philosophy because I was attracted to the logic and “intelligence,” but I eventually grew sorta bored or it got a bit too much for me and I switched to my current major; Communications, which I am now thriving in. However, when I later discovered MBTI and about how Ti was my inferior function, that whole transition made sense and as I developed Ni, although I never focused on Ti to develop, many have told me I have great Ti for an ENFJ. One INTP even commented it on one of my YouTube videos the other day, so I was really hype lol. Anyway, I guess I am saying that I firmly believe and agree with you both that your inferior will naturally develop with more time in your auxiliary. So we should just always continue focusing on that perhaps. ?