Podcast - Episode 0258 - 3 Frameworks To Reflect On Personal Growth

In this podcast you’ll find:

• What have you learned in the past year?
• Success in personal development often means profound failure with extraordinary learning.
• Very few lessons come from doing things right the first time.
• Eradicate the word “Failure” from your vocabulary. Replace it with “Calibrate.”
• “Ever Tried. Ever Failed. No Matter. Try Again. Fail Again. Fail Better.” -Samuel Becket
• Personal growth for the past year:
• Personal-
  • Joel:
    • All ego work is not created equal
    • Replacing “sin” with “ego”
    • Master your ego
    • It’s not about ego death/transcendence, but the relationship you have with your ego.
    • Embrace the ego when necessary and let it go when it’s not.
    • Feedback from the outside world can be appropriate, but not always.
    • Dominance over yourself is the first step toward ego mastery
    • Handing power over to others is not dominance over self
  • Antonia:
    • Navigating through some significant wounds with her family in the past year.
    • Emotional, psychological orphan
    • Healing work can be addictive because you can do nothing and receive a pass for bad behavior.
    • If we stay stuck in healing work, it can become self-indulgent.
    • Making Peace with Your Parents Podcast 1
    • Making Peace with Your Parents Podcast 2
    • Personal growth work can be incredibly intimate and internal, and it may not make sense to others.
    • Don’t move on too quickly, and don’t spend too much time in the self-indulgent space.
    • You are the only one who knows what you need.
    • Surrender to the discomfort
    • Growth work often involves developing a good tension point between two opposites.
    • Instead of allowing the pendulum to keep swinging from extreme to extreme, figure out where the balance is.
    • Leadership is ultimately a servant’s role
    • How have you grown personally in the past year?
• Relationally-
  • Joel:
    • “Everything rises and falls with leadership.”
    • Don’t overvalue your responsibility for other people’s experiences/actions
  • Antonia:
    • In regards to relationships in general, it is becoming more apparent how crucial energetic interchange is.
    • Everything works better when people are in each other’s presence.
    • In this world where everything is virtual, we cannot underestimate the power of personal/physical engagement.
    • We need to remember to humanize each other and stop projecting ill intent.
    • Human Design
    • When you are around other people, you help facilitate transformation in them. Good and bad.
    • We all impact one another energetically.
    • Be okay with people not liking you — not all energies vibe.
    • If everybody likes you, you probably aren’t standing for much.
    • You average out everything about you to avoid confrontation.
    • Allow yourself to step into a space that is less apologetic than you may be comfortable with.
    • The current cultural and political climate is very religious.
    • Well Trained Monkeys
• Career-
  • Antonia:
    • Sublimating personal development in preference for social causes is an unsustainable system.
    • “Your Mess is Your Message”
    • Antonia’s mess was deprogramming from a patriarchal cult.
    • So, her message is individual empowerment in reprogramming your mind.
    • If we try to build social causes without having high-quality individuals showing up, it is a house of cards.
    • Do the individual work, then work on the social piece.
    • Pygmalion Project Podcast
    • “I love your message, but you need to change your stance on this one thing…”
    • What do you have more control of in your life? Yourself? Or society at large?
    • Societal change can’t make you feel good about yourself if you haven’t done the personal work
    • We don’t tell you what to do on this podcast, we say, “Here’s how to be a great version of yourself.”
    • The self should not be ignored on behalf of the collective.
    • The self feeds into the collective.
    • We know our intent.
  • Joel:
    • Surrender to the work
    • There is never going to be a time when you arrive at the pinnacle of growth and achievement where the work is no longer necessary.
    • Surrender = stop resisting
    • If you’re going to do something you think is important you need to surrender to the work.
    • Resistance lives in our ‘should’ statements.
• What growth did you experience in the past year?