Podcast - Episode 0288 - Being An ENFJ Man (with Denzel Mensah)

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  • Kim Kessler
  • July 27, 2019 at 5:51 pm

  Thank you so much for having Denzel on the show. It was such a comfort to hear another ENFJ share so passionately and describe clearly what I experience.

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  • Aaron W.
  • July 25, 2019 at 4:03 am

  Thank you for bringing Denzel on the podcast! I’m also an ENFJ, who is a Christian African American male, so not only can I relate to Denzel on several levels but I was very impressed by the way that he painted a picture of the way that we think.
  A very powerful trait that I have is sacrificial altruism, or you can call it a Superman complex. It’s a strong desire to serve others even if it hurts me. This can be a very noble trait, but sometimes it is motivated by guilt, which some personality types intensionally or unintentionally take advantage of.
  I will likely listen to this episode again, because I felt like you were interviewing me! This was very insightful. Thank you!

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  • Seanna
  • July 24, 2019 at 1:23 pm

  Oh my gosh! Thank you so much for this podcast. I am an ENFJ and definitely identify with what you all described as a lack of attention towards my type. I have speculated why this is and have a theory that we are kind of the “easy” type in terms of giving output without a lot of drama and so my experiences with content have frequently been almost quick “summary”. Additionally, I think this summarizing could be attributed to the Ni tendency to throw details under a broader heading. Finally, our outward focus on others takes up a lot of our time and I believe less is focused on understanding ourselves by detail.

  While I don’t find this lack of attention personally offensive I do sometimes feel frustrated wanting to understand myself better and identify with others who have the same processes of thinking.

  I found this podcast super helpful and immediately identified with Denzels description of how he shows up and experiences his functions. Even though we are one of the most social types I think being an enfj can be very lonely because I often feel misunderstood or like others have no idea where I’m coming from. Was really nice to hear someone else processes life the same way and I’m not just weird ?

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  • David
  • July 23, 2019 at 3:36 pm

  Hi guys, amazing episode. Thanks to Denzel on the insights – followed him on Twitter now. I’ve always been fascinated as to the mind and workings of the ENFJ and luckily enough I have one of my best friends (male) who I’ve identified as one. Being an ISFP male myself it’s fun to hear from another “rare” personality / gender combination to hear from.

  Maybe it’s because of a similar Enneagram typing or the fact that I’m very in touch with my tertiary Ni (looper), but I could deeply relate to what Denzel was referring to in terms of just “knowing” things (less so than him & I trust these knowings less) or having an inclination to seek depth in personal conversation and analysis (Driver Fi flying about somewhere in there). The shower portal and driving examples for stilling the body via Se is something I naturally do & recognise as beneficial – the link to how that opens up Intuition is a beautiful epiphany moment – I can refer to previous shower moments and understand why they happened.

  Great episode – would love to hear more from rare personality / gender combinations e.g. ISFP male wink, INTJ female etc.

  Keep it up guys!

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  • Amanda Carrington
  • July 23, 2019 at 2:09 pm

  Is it weird or normal for me, an INFP, to be in touch with my introverted intuition as well? When Denzel was talking about it, I was like, yes! Totally! Like I know things, but not always predicting interpersonal dynamics like ENFJ’s and INFJ’s, but the rest of what he said about introverted intuition was right on!