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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about being a good critic in our overly critical time period.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Everyone’s a critic
  • Youtube: The Critical Drinker
  • What makes a good critic?
  • To be a good critic, you need to put the work in to understand the fundamentals of what you are criticizing.
  • It’s easy to find flaws
  • We tend to be critical for the sake of being critical.
  • There’s no room for something to just be okay in today’s society.
  • We have to find all the ways we don’t agree with something and tear it down.
  • One of the reasons storyline and character development is being lost today is because everyone is looking to make sure their ideology is represented well.
  • It’s insulting to believe we will lap stuff up because it shares a popular ideology.
  • PH has removed a personal agenda from the podcast as much as possible.
  • There’s something to be said for sharing a quality message that honors fundamental principles.
  • People will usually respect such a message, even if it isn’t ideologically driven.
  • The rating system is coming for us.
  • We have become so lazy we can’t even have a conversation with anyone in case we become triggered.
  • We need to be honest about how bad we are at being critics.
  • Dystopian future
  • We are shit at rating things.
  • Track your motivations.
  • Why do you do certain things?
  • When are you critical?
  • Why are you critical?
  • Powerlessness is often at the root of criticism.
  • What can you do to empower yourself at the moment instead of complaining in Yelp later?
  • Some criticism is good for calibration, and some is intended to spew piss and vinegar.
  • You can’t be empowered in post.
  • Use what you’ve learned to empower yourself next time.
  • Introverted Feeling requires us to question our motivation.
  • You can only be empowered in the present.
  • There’s no way to change the past.
  • Criticism is our way of recapturing our power after we felt something didn’t go well.
  • Criticism is how we are emotionally processing things
  • When our sports teams lose, we get super critical about the referee’s calls.
  • That’s us expressing our emotions in a situation where we are powerless.
  • It is hubris to believe that whatever your personal opinion is should cause someone else to jump in response.
  • Your experience isn’t everyone’s experience.
  • Most people’s criticism sucks.
  • Most of us shouldn’t be critics.
  • We can’t differentiate between what is going on with us versus a legitimate bad experience.
  • Our society is continually asking for reviews, so we have been trained to be critics and to believe our criticism is of value.
  • We take the most offense to things outside of ourselves that reflect the stuff we don’t like about who we are.
  • A ton of criticism is actually just projection.
  • We hope if we correct something outside us, it will correct the corresponding issue within.
  • Most of us would be terrible in the service industry, but we continuously criticize those who are.
  • If you are on the receiving end of criticism, try not to focus on it too much.
  • Calibrate to valid criticism.
  • Let your body of work speak for itself.
  • Not every piece of feedback carries the weight of the world.
  • Some criticism is of high value.
  • Some criticism is just noise.
  • One criticism PH gets a lot is that we are doing it all for the money.
  • We can’t survive without money, but there are more natural ways to make money.
  • The ones who criticize the fact that we charge money for our programs don’t usually have any money, and they are projecting their scarcity on us.
  • Your life is your body of work, and the younger generation’s criticism comes from limited experience.
  • Nobody is going to help you navigate your life for you.
  • It is hard to get criticism and just let it be without feeling the need to respond.
  • Your body of work is your life.
  • We are all creators.
  • It doesn’t matter what people think of you.
  • People will keep their erroneous opinion as long as they want to.
  • You can be a mirror to other people’s projections, but you don’t have to be a sponge.
  • Satire is the best criticism.
  • It is fun, accessible, and reflective.
  • South Park
  • There’s an attack on comedy right now because it is so effective.
  • Our egos are so sensitive we can’t even laugh at satire anymore.
  • Satire requires a lot of thought.
  • Cancel culture
  • People are exhausted by having to reconcile multiple agendas, so any pushback feels tiring because we haven’t built the psychological muscle to be able to hold various positions at once.
  • We think it’s noble to hold one position in our head.
  • If you only hold one agenda, paradigm, perspective, one worldview, you are open to complete corruption.
  • Purity comes from refinement.
  • You can’t purify something stagnant.
  • You have to rub your ideas up against other ideas to refine them.
  • If you can’t hold two positions inside your head simultaneously, then you have corrupt ideas.
  • We are avoiding anything that may require us to give more attention and thoughtfulness to our ideals.
  • So we cancel whatever makes us uncomfortable.
  • Anything that sticks has an element of truth to it.
  • It’s our job to figure out why the idea is sticky and what the truth of it is.
  • We are critical because we don’t want to acknowledge the positives as well as the negatives, which requires holding conflicting opinions/emotions.
  • How to be a better critic:
  • Is your criticism to help someone calibrate or to tear something down?
  • If you are hoping to destroy something, what will fill the vacuum?
  • Have a proper perspective.
  • Does it matter if you didn’t have a great time?
  • Aren’t there more important things to voice your concerns over?
  • Why does it matter? Why do you care so much?
  • Empowerment is an inside job.
  • Empowerment in post is a fantasy.
  • How can we alchemize criticism into gratitude?
  • If we are critical, we’re going to find more things in life to be critical about.
  • If we’re grateful, we’re going to find more things in life to be grateful for.
  • Our brains will find what they’re looking for.

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about being a good critic in our overly critical time period. #criticism #personalgrowth

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  • Karen Lamb
    • Karen Lamb
    • February 10, 2020 at 10:12 pm
    Antonia you might enjoy this short clip about Star Wars ‘sadness’. Its from the great cult British comedy Spaced, with a young Simon Pegg. Your feelings on Star Wars brought this to mind ?

  • Megan
    • Megan
    • January 14, 2020 at 4:05 am

    OK guys — I have to admit that this was the first episode that made me feel “triggered” — and I still kind of feel that way! Even though I agreed with a lot of the points.

    I’m an INFJ and a millennial so, my mindset is very much set to, let’s constantly improve and make things better for people. Sometimes that requires criticism. Because if we only have gratitude, we risk becoming content. And we’ve seen the dangers of contentment too many times to know that’s not where we should stay.

    But, I’m glad I listened to the whole thing because you made many good points. I especially like how Antonia mentioned we often project in criticism what we can’t accept in ourselves. I think that’s a truth few people can accept.

    I still think criticism has its place. My Fe loves feedback on how to better serve people! But it’s true that there is too much of it. Thanks for the insightful episode.

  • Erica
    • Erica
    • January 7, 2020 at 7:34 pm

    Wow…this Podcast really impacted me today!! I couldn’t agree more with everything you guys discussed…and what I am so grateful for is how I am able to learn about myself through your ability to articulate. It resonates so much and helps bring clarity to me on how I personally operate and gives me the tools to become better and even more introspective. I didn’t know it was a “positive” thing to be able to have the space to hold two different/opposing arguments in your head at the same time…I was always labeled a “fence strattler” in high school. I would sit back and watch the people with “opinions” go at it and I could always see the truth in both arguments which didn’t leave me confused it just made me realize that there wasn’t always or didn’t always have to be a right or wrong there is more often just a right for you and a right for me…and it is totally up to each individual to take others opinions as just that…an opinion. The gold is in taking the parts of the truth that resonate from peoples opinions and use that to help us understand those things which matter most to us. For me, focusing on truth and fundamentals seems to leave so much more space for creating more good in the world while holding tight to an opinion, as a sense of who you are, seems to require much more resource for the defense you must build and the action it takes to protect it.

  • Antonia Dodge
    • Antonia Dodge
    • January 6, 2020 at 2:52 pm

    This actually proves the rule – one has to pattern recognize my religious history as I don’t name it. And assuming a person is accurate in their guess, I don’t share my opinions on specific theology or doctrine. From my perspective, talking about my life experiences and how they have impacted me isn’t presenting specific worldview.


  • Nicole
    • Nicole
    • January 2, 2020 at 11:50 pm

    A friend of mine introduced me to your website and I’ve been hooked on your podcasts ever since. Thank you for all the work you do!
    I just had to leave a quick comment on your most recent podcast about criticism- at one point, Antonia said you guys have been very careful not to present your own “worldview” on your show, so as not to alienate any listeners, which I have noticed, and appreciate. But then she made a comment about the religion she grew up in, about how they don’t do Christmas, and how she was cast out/disfellowshipped/shunned, or what-have-you. Pretty sure I know what this religion is, and I know several folks who listen to her are part of it. By her saying this, she is definitely going to alienate this (admittedly very small) group of listeners, since it sounds like they will consider her an apostate (if she was baptized?) But oh well! Really enjoyed the show, just had to point that out!

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