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In this episode, Joel and Antonia finalize a two-part series about integrating your cognitive functions. In this episode they cover the judging functions and how to integrate the weak side of each in your personality.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- What does it mean to integrate the weaker side of a cognitive function polarity? A recap from our last podcast where we introduced this concept.
- Check out our article on the Car Model to learn about your functions and their polarity opposites.
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How to integrate your weaker judging functions – and the difference in how they show up when they are integrated and unintegrated:
- Remember – there will always be some insecurity surrounding your weaker functions, even if you’ve developed some skill there.
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xxFJs – integrating Accuracy (Ti) to support Harmony (Fe):
- What are the signs an xxFJ might be overcompensating for insecurities about their intelligence?
- How does healthy integration of Ti actually help you get needs met?
- Using Ti to redefine your relationship with your thoughts
- Moving from a place of “intellectual insecurity” to “intellectual humility” – and the rewards this brings
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xxTPs – integrating Harmony (Fe) to support Accuracy (Ti):
- Looking at the root cause of xxTPs’ tendency to “collect rules” and how this can show up
- The pitfalls of “value signaling”
- Antonia’s personal experience with another xxTP
- Appreciating the value of non-data based information in interactions
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xxTJs – integrating Authenticity (Fi) to support Effectiveness (Te):
- What does it mean to truly know yourself at an identity level? Looking beyond your personal values and set identity
- The “role-person merger” phenomenon
- Why you should check your relationship to personality type models as an xxTJ
- Exploring your identity to overcome “inner demons” – and what can happen if you avoid doing this
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xxFPs – integrating Effectiveness (Te) to support Authenticity (Fi):
- What does it look like when an xxFP exploits their Te?
- Value transfer – the xxFPs blindspot
- The importance of integrating Te to gain skill development
- Using Te to gain a healthy sense of control in your life
- How one-sidedness can show up differently when the weaker side of the polarity is in the 10 Year Old versus the 3-Year-Old position
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These are great examples for INFP. Thank you for sharing them. :)
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I found this two-part podcast incredibly helpful. I created a list of how my functions interact with each other in both positive and negative ways; this is specific to me, but I thought I’d share in case it could be helpful to anyone else using the Fi-Te and Ne-Si polarities. A lot of the healthy, integrated expressions of the polarities are still aspirational for me (only experienced in small bursts), but at least it gives me a clear picture of what I’d like to work towards!
Te in service to Fi:
• Creating some structure around self-expression (deadlines or other systems of accountability)
• Tracking progress of value-aligned goals (spreadsheet heaven)
• Automating whatever mundane life admin I can (autopay etc)
• The ability to look at my goals and progress towards them totally objectively rather than having every action I take or don’t take MEAN something about me as a person
• Trying out different tactics for success and not creating meaning out of the tactics that didn’t get me the result I wanted (embracing failure)
Si in service to Ne:
• Learning to put unavoidable life admin on autopilot to free up energetic resources (bills, chores, errands, healthy diet, exercise, meditation practice)
• Learning from past life experiences about what makes me happy and what makes me miserable and using that information to set up a life that works for me
• Creating a stable foundation from which I can feel more comfortable taking big risks
• Creating a cozy, aesthetically pleasing home environment to encourage creativity
Te taking Fi hostage:
• Berating myself for not being productive “enough”
• Using guilt/shame to attempt to force myself into action
• Judging myself based solely on Te values and feeling like a failure when I don’t measure up
Si taking Ne hostage:
• Staying safe at home doing comfort zone activities like TV watching and comfort eating ad nauseam
• Deciding in advance something isn’t worth the effort, thereby curtailing experimentation and novel experiences
• Being overly protective of my energetic resources, assuming that any outside world experience will be exhausting and draining
I think the danger lies less in the labeling itself, than in an FJ’s tendency to want to close a loop. So if an FJ labels someone and then stops taking in new information about said person, they’re relying on generalizations and not continually updating their “label” to bring more and more nuance to their understanding of that person as an individual. Even when that label is accurate, it’s never the whole picture. Not to mention the fact that people change over time and labels can become outdated. MBTI is one lens. The Graves Model is one lens. None of these systems can completely capture the essence of a person, they each give one slice. So yes, labels can be incredibly helpful. If they’re held in a dynamic way that is forever open to new information and fine-tuning. That’s the Fi-dom perspective, anyway :)
I agree that FJs very often throw around labels as a quick way to manage group dynamics and understand people as a collective—I don’t agree this is inherently an example of not integrating Ti.
It is if the FJ throws a label out that fits their impression or feelings towards a person but is not actually representative of that persons individual characteristics (like the example you gave of FJs throwing out the term narcissism too much, regardless if that person is, in the clinical sense, someone with NPD.)
But, what about labels like, MBTI for example? If I am going out in the world catergorizing people by their type, is this necessarily an example of not integrating Ti?
I suppose it is if I only see a person through a type and not through a whole picture of everything else a person is. If I type them incorrectly on a vague set of data that fits more my feeling about that person and not who that person actually is then, yes.
But what about if a label does in fact…capture the essence of a person? What if I observe a person’s values and how they move through the world and give them a label, lets say, like Graves level 5?
Ha, I get triggered as an INFJ when people don’t like my labelling or see labelling as a negative quality, because I do encounter this a lot. I agree it needs to strike a balance; as I get older I can see sometimes I relied too much on a label and not enough on individual factors. Or seeing a person only through that label.
With that said, I stand firmly behind the importance of understanding our commonalities as human beings and seeing people through that lens of generalizations and labels, such as archetypes. I know you guys do as well since you created this business, and I know you weren’t trying to suggest otherwise.
I just don’t see labelling as necessarily a sign that someone has not integrated their Ti, that is all. In fact, I think labelling is an FJ superpower. Jung after all was most likely an FJ, using archetypes helps us make more sense of societies and social systems as a whole….the label helps one make more sense of how individuals fit into groups.