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In this episode, Joel and Antonia finalize a two-part series about integrating your cognitive functions. In this episode they cover the judging functions and how to integrate the weak side of each in your personality.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- What does it mean to integrate the weaker side of a cognitive function polarity? A recap from our last podcast where we introduced this concept.
- Check out our article on the Car Model to learn about your functions and their polarity opposites.
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How to integrate your weaker judging functions – and the difference in how they show up when they are integrated and unintegrated:
- Remember – there will always be some insecurity surrounding your weaker functions, even if you’ve developed some skill there.
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xxFJs – integrating Accuracy (Ti) to support Harmony (Fe):
- What are the signs an xxFJ might be overcompensating for insecurities about their intelligence?
- How does healthy integration of Ti actually help you get needs met?
- Using Ti to redefine your relationship with your thoughts
- Moving from a place of “intellectual insecurity” to “intellectual humility” – and the rewards this brings
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xxTPs – integrating Harmony (Fe) to support Accuracy (Ti):
- Looking at the root cause of xxTPs’ tendency to “collect rules” and how this can show up
- The pitfalls of “value signaling”
- Antonia’s personal experience with another xxTP
- Appreciating the value of non-data based information in interactions
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xxTJs – integrating Authenticity (Fi) to support Effectiveness (Te):
- What does it mean to truly know yourself at an identity level? Looking beyond your personal values and set identity
- The “role-person merger” phenomenon
- Why you should check your relationship to personality type models as an xxTJ
- Exploring your identity to overcome “inner demons” – and what can happen if you avoid doing this
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xxFPs – integrating Effectiveness (Te) to support Authenticity (Fi):
- What does it look like when an xxFP exploits their Te?
- Value transfer – the xxFPs blindspot
- The importance of integrating Te to gain skill development
- Using Te to gain a healthy sense of control in your life
- How one-sidedness can show up differently when the weaker side of the polarity is in the 10 Year Old versus the 3-Year-Old position
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Hello,
Great stuff in your podcast! I did have one quick reply to one really tiny little comment that Antonia made. I don’t remember exactly how you said it, but if I remember the idea correctly, you said something about trying not to reply online too much because of the super long replies and conversations people sometimes seem to give you and expect of you. When you said that, my mind instantly went to the unnecessarily long mix-up of a string of comments that I posted under the last episode. I don’t know if that was on your mind at all when you said that, but I did want to give a quick apology for any inconvenience and/or confusion I caused.
Hope you all have a great week, and as always, I’m looking forward to your next podcast!
William
I like that, it’s not the label but not updating their generalizations. I’d agree.
I’m an INFP! I’ve come a long long way—going from darkness and anxiety and feeling completely hopeless to actually being a happy, healthy, mostly functioning human being. However, I still have a really really bad weakness in EFFECTIVENESS…I drive myself crazy because it’s exactly like you said—I’m very busy all the time but I have little rest—I feel like I’m not accomplishing what’s really important to me and I’m constantly behind.
In your podcast you mentioned that FPs feel like the world should know their worth and they tend to reject things where their worth isn’t reflected. I actually didn’t relate to that. I was the exact opposite. Events in my life led me to believe I had no worth. I couldn’t imagine a future, I couldn’t imagine myself successful. I had to get over that lie, (I’m a Christian and I attribute the radical change in my life to God). But back then I was paralyzed with fear. I stopped making art, I stopped writing, I eventually flunked out of one college. (I attended several in different states with different majors trying to find myself but never got a degree). I sabotaged everything that might have led to something meaningful.
Today, I’m happily married, I take many risks, I’m way more self-assured. I sing in a few different worship teams a few times a week (unimaginable even 5 years ago). I’ve had public speaking engagements, I’ve started working on art again, and I’m setting up a business for it. And I work at all of this through a swamp of anxiety and self-doubt. I still struggle with sabotaging myself. I chronically procrastinate…it’s a daily war. I’m not sure what the issue is…except I don’t feel like it at the time, or I’m scared of something…and I just sit there and don’t do it. It’s very hard to make deadlines. And my 3-year-old weakness is always stressed, always throwing tantrums. (I had one yesterday because I made a mistake on something that I’m normally fairly good at, and I couldn’t stop crying for like an hour).
The thing is, sometimes I try to just bear down and get things done regardless of how I’m feeling. But most of the time it seems like that shuts me down. My anxiety gets so high that I just give up for awhile. It’s absolutely ridiculous and I’m so sick of struggling with this. It makes me feel pathetic. But what you said about “amelioration” really spoke to me. I feel immense relief when I do work on things I’m supposed to. I’m figuring out how to motivate myself to do it more consistently. I must be looking at it wrong.
Any advice is appreciated.
Reading what Najah says I am excited to hear your similar story, and to say that “being” not “doing” for me as a Christian, the Martha v Mary relationship to Jesus , is what has set me free. I am still working on relying on the Mary relationship which I think is INFP sensibility to a T and that is often missed in this rushing river of worldliness. Having said that, I agree it is difficult to tame my 3yr old, as I do have to live in this world! My introverted parts are loving lockdown In Australia which is not great for a Christian according to the rules! I learned to read/ play basics of classical guitar music and wow the revelation ! Had no idea about ‘amelioration’ for instrument playing at the age of 70! Didnt even know what it meant till 2 days ago, (had been locked up in a mindset against Ti shadow function,,,,,oh my so sad!) The Myers Briggs book " Gifts Differing " and Keirsey Bates " Please Understand Me" helped me a lot in ‘92 long before the internet existed. The Spirit of the True King Jesus Christ is my helper and comforter in this time of grief over my many years of failing to achieve as an artist. I have yet to organize my work to sell , usually give things away or burn them (in the past.) I have now learned to stop before I overwork , so I think that’s an Fi/ Te . dynamic.Ne comes along side and starts another painting and thats ok! I have figured out that I am not able to do the artwork that J types are capable of and I am happy now!
I am typed by myself as INFP but also did a true Type test in 1992 which is when I first heard of Myers Briggs. I had heard of Jung by then and was not impressed. Since my only knowledge of psychology was at age 17 while studying to be an art teacher, my main interest in life was to be a portrait painter but I was forced to go through the process of using Te which caused great stress at that time.I had no realistic understanding at this time Finding out at age 42 that I am INFP ,was a huge boost for me and the beginning of many years of discovery and healing. The podcast of Antonia and Joel are incredibly rich in many ways. As INFP I have struggled in relationships with IFJ/TJ people all my life. This series has helped me to understand what it is that aggravates me about labeling. In the art industry it took over and ruined genuine authenticity of creativity. Portrait painting to me is an old fashioned way of showing the absolute uniqueness of a human being . I get very weary of academic intellectualism which relies on labelling to understand the world and the universe. There is so much more to humanity than a physical Earthbound dependence on a concrete even ethereal universe.