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In this episode, Joel and Antonia discuss a list of five questions you can ask when you get stuck in life and provide an example by workshopping Joel’s personal goals around health and exercise.


In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Joel introduces his 5-question model – and shares how this has helped him as a tool when he has become stuck.
  • What kind of challenges can the model help YOU with?
  • Joel shares his 5 questions and models them against a current challenge in his life:
  • Question 1: Am I missing permission?
    • Joel and Antonia unpack the various ways a lack of permission can affect our progress and decision making.
  • Question 2: Am I missing clarity?
    • What does it mean to have clarity about the decision you are making or project you are working on?
  • Question 3: Do I need to build competency or know-how?
    • Antonia shares how she gets stuck at this stage as an Accuracy (Ti) user.
  • Question 4: Do I have the resources I need?
    • How are we impacted by the resources of time and money?
    • How your resource challenges can change over time.
  • Question 5: Do I need motivation?
    • The relationship between our introverted judging function and motivation.
    • What’s the difference between how some of the judging functions are motivated?
  • Joel and Antonia explore further thoughts about the factors affecting his current endeavor.
  • Ask yourself this question after learning Joel’s model.
  • Antonia’s parting advice on how you can use the model in a transcontextual way.

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  • Magus
    • Magus
    • February 25, 2022 at 5:45 am

    I’ve been stuck with my direction in life as of late and hearing this episode was like a lightning strike. I hadn’t realized that I was lacking permissions in myself, and being ENTP my clarity was all over the place. I forgot my true desires in life and was spinning my wheels these past few months but after doing a huge journalling session using this model I got everything back in line. Thank you Joel and Antonia

  • Andrea
    • Andrea
    • January 19, 2022 at 12:55 am

    I’m going to check this out. Husband is INTJ, I am ENTP. This may work for us both.
    Also love this episode. I feel very bored and stuck in so many areas of life.

  • Heather Coffman
    • Heather Coffman
    • December 12, 2021 at 2:08 am

    This comment is for anyone who struggles with Clarity around working out, specifically.

    I have been using Renaissance Periodization’s (RP Strength) diet and weightlifting programs for about 2 or 3 years now. I was in the difficult place of recovering from giving birth to my 6th child. I was not comfortable in my body and I needed something. I began researching for an answer. I came across RP Strength and it struck a chord with me. I was so successful with losing weight, I am now purposefully gaining weight in order to build muscle through the same program. Following these cycles I am changing my entire body composition over time.

    Check it out. They have many resources, specifically the Diet App and/or Simple Diet Templates.

    If this sort of thing works for your personality, it will be such a win. Their motto is “Science is Stronger.” It works, it gives you a percentage metric for monitoring compliance, it has 3 kinds of diets – Weight Loss, Maintenance, and Muscle Building (which does include lifting weights). Each diet you do for a specified period of time (usually 6-12 weeks. I’ve never gone longer than 7 weeks for weight loss), hence getting rid of that awful feeling of having to do something until you die. Even if it is difficult, you know it is only for a set period of time. It also provides a weight loss or gain goal and rates the difficulty of your choice so you can know what to expect.

    For SO many reasons, specifically the inherent measurable goals involved, it may just give the clarity you need to move forward on your health journey. If you have the resource of money, they even have a 1-on-1 coaching program.

    The RP people are basically the Joel and Antonia of diet and exercise.

    In addition, on their Facebook page they regularly post quotes or memes to hammer home truths, that are very encouraging. You do not need to give up your humanity to change your body. I print them out and hang them up around the house.

    You will need to do a little research to know if it is for you and to really understand what I am saying. They have tons of information online and on YouTube. Maybe it will be a good fit. I am an INTJ and a huge RP Strength fan. My husband is most likely an ENFP or ENTP and it is the first diet he’s been successful on body change wise (not to mention eating SO much more healthily) specifically because it allows for phases and is not some eternal state. We also workout together, that is huge for both of us. If you do it, I HIGHLY recommend taking pictures to monitor your progress, even though it might feel awkward, they are very encouraging!

    I know that is super specific to working out; hopefully it is helpful.

    BTW, I thought the information in this podcast was excellent. I am going to listen again and take notes.

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