Podcast – Episode 0228 – Developing Sensing As A Co-Pilot (ISxP & ESxJ Types)

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about developing sensing as an ISFP, ISTP, ESFJ, or ESTJ.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Car Model article
  • Car Model Podcast
  • Why We Resist Developing The Co-Pilot In Our Personality
  • ISFPs and ISTPs have Extraverted Sensing as their copilot – “Sensation”
  • ESFJs and ESTJs have Introverted Sensing as their copilot – “Memory”
  • These types lead with a decision-making function:
    • ISFPs Driver is Introverted Feeling (Fi)
    • ISTPs Driver is Introverted Thinking (Ti)
    • ESFJs Driver is Extraverted Feeling (Fe)
    • ESTJs Driver is Extraverted Thinking (Te)
  • These are all Judging or decision-making functions.
  • To be a rounded our person, you need a learning or perceiving process to gather data and make better decisions.
  • The Copilot is always the opposite attitude of your Driver
  • If you are an Introvert your dominant function is introverted, so your Copilot is extraverted
  • If you are an Extravert, your dominant function is extraverted, so your Copilot is introverted.
  • Our copilot process can become a one trick pony if we only use it randomly.
  • ISFP & ISTP Copilot is Extraverted Sensing
    • We call it Sensation
    • 5 Senses plus
    • The primary way these types experience the world.
    • Very realistic. Right here. Right now.
    • The verifiable is more reliable.
    • “Seeing is believing.”
    • People who use this as a dominant process seem more grounded and realistic.
    • They will take in info as long as they can directly interact with it.
    • When Sensation is a Copilot process, it ends up supporting the conclusions the Driver has already arrived at.
    • ISTPs and ISFPs take a long time to come to a conclusion, so it is labor intensive when they have to reevaluate.
    • ISPs can be a little sensitive about contradicting info.
    • Growth is on the other side of taking in new info and reevaluating who you think you are.
    • ISFPs feel challenged about their convictions when they use their copilot.
    • ISTPs feel their competencies challenged when they use their copilot.
    • To avoid having their convictions or competencies challenged, ISPs will bypass their copilot and choose to go to their other introverted process – Introverted Intuition – “Perspectives” (Ni)
    • Ni gives them the ability to imagine the world they prefer to believe in.
    • ISPs don’t get the full spectrum of their natural talents when they do this.
    • If the ISP is finding their life is becoming too complicated, it is because they are avoiding their copilot of Sensation.
    • Sensation helps to pare things down to their fundamentals and get into action.
    • It gets ISPs ahead of challenges instead of feeling like they are perpetually playing catch up.
    • ISPs may even look like Judgers when they are using their Copilot to respond quickly to problems and keep things organized.
    • Se helps them become realistic and objective.
    • ISPs may experience cognitive dissonance when they are avoiding something they don’t want to see.
    • Their self-esteem takes a hit because they don’t know if they see reality as it is or ignoring info their senses are bringing in.
    • We all use our strengths to help us determine our self-esteem.
    • ISPs who choose fantasy over reality struggle to maintain a healthy self-esteem.
    • Sensation helps them get into art, performance, and adrenaline-inducing activities.
    • A lot of ISPs struggle with paranoia or anxiety due to giving preference to their tertiary cognitive function of Introverted Intuition
    • ISPs need to quiet their minds by getting into their body thru the copilot.
    • Instead of projecting your viewpoints onto the world and finding info that fits that narrative, Sensation helps the ISP enter the world with open eyes and mind then create meaning afterward.
    • We can make up anything in our minds and then trick ourselves to see what we want to see.
    • Sensation can help you pick up people’s facial expressions and body language.
    • Gather that info then reach conclusions.
    • Don’t reach conclusions first then look for evidence that you are right.
    • ISPs have an interesting relationship with energy.
    • Without the copilot, energy is finite.
    • With the copilot, energy is abundant.
    • Extraverted activity. Kinesthetic action. Movement. Adrenaline.
    • A well-developed copilot can burn long and hot.
    • Introverted time is still needed to regenerate your batteries, but with development, ISPs introverted part can start relying on the extraverted part for energy.
    • Sensation is fun! It enjoys adrenaline and loves fun physical activities.
    • ISPs can be the life of the party if they have developed their copilot well.
  • Exercise:
    • The #1 thing you can do to build sensation is to become used to handling challenges, problems, tasks and daily routines as they come to you.
    • Be highly responsive.
    • Turn your voicemail off for a full week and only allow yourself to answer phone calls in real time.
    • Tell everyone you are only taking calls for a week.
    • Don’t text. You have to call and have an energetic interchange with the other person.
    • You can pick up better auditory detail when speaking with someone.
    • Visit people and physically be in their space, which prevents you from putting stuff off.
    • It gets you into action instead of kicking the can down the road.
    • It also reminds you how important it is to engage with another human being instead of speculating on what is going on for them.
    • Don’t censor the information. Take in everything. Don’t pick and choose what you want to see.
    • You will want to preserve something in your driver (Identity, ego, conscience, integrity)
    • You may take in info that changes the game for you.
  • ESTJ & ESFJ
    • ESFJ Driver is Extraverted Feeling – “Harmony”
    • ESTJ Driver is Extraverted Thinking – “Effectiveness”
    • Their copilot is Introverted Sensing – “Memory”
    • They understand their world by looking at past experiences and determining value based on that.
    • Post processing the experiences and reflecting upon them.
    • ESJs sometimes tend to marginalize their copilot because it is frustrating when it removes options from the table.
    • If the ESJ has had a painful past, they may run from this process of reviewing the past and its influences.
    • Sometimes there is trauma in the past.
    • Sometimes there are bad decisions that we have made.
    • ESJs may tend to want to open new loops and keep themselves distracted.
    • Memory requires ESJs to slow down.
    • When we go into our Memory process, we are compelled to find the true shape of ourselves based on memories.
    • Memory gives ESJs the actual shape of their soul and what their past means to them.
    • ESJs 10 yr old process is Extraverted Intuition – “Exploration” (Ne).
    • Exploration is about “what if” questions.
    • Memory is about what someone knows to be true based on previous experience.
    • How have you been molded to be the person you are today?
    • Si helps ESJs to contain energy and make it sustainable.
    • Because Memory allows you to understand who you are based on past experiences, it also encourages ESJs to be more careful with other people.
    • We are all a product of our past.
    • Memory is the most adaptable cognitive function over time.
    • Memory helps you build skill and remember to adapt and give a little instead of making demands.
    • What do I know about this person’s character that I can rely on?
    • How does that affect the future?
    • Acceptance of things that can’t be changed and the ability to move on.
    • Memory for ESJs helps them:
    • Be more responsible in their behavior
    • Get in touch with the soul
    • Be more reliable
    • Accept what can’t change
    • Adapt to new situations
    • Less cavalier
    • Manage energy over time
  • Exercise:
    • Memory is about rumination
    • Find a quiet space and remove any unexpected distractions.
    • Memory doesn’t need as much sensory deprivation as “Perspectives”
    • Set aside an hour.
    • Go into your past, think about a peak experience (good, bad, or neutral).
    • “How did this experience forge who I am now?”
    • Review the memory fully.
    • Take a journal and write down all the new connections you made as a result of this exercise.
    • Over time you will find yourself doing this throughout the day.
    • It reminds you that other people have similar memories which have forged them. This helps you come from a more compassionate place.
    • Ask people about their past. Where did they come from?
    • Increase your understanding of others by asking about their past.
    • Memory is often tied to physical objects.
    • Find something you have kept from the past and engage with it.
    • What memories come up attached to that item?
    • If you find yourself with to-do items popping up, try to stay focused on the memory.
    • Don’t censor anything that comes up.
  • You can’t learn from a mistake you refuse to acknowledge.
  • For all the types that have a perceiving Copilot, don’t censor anything that comes up.
  • It will help you create the life you want instead of the synthetic life you may have.
  • ISPs need to speed up and get into action and allow sensory info to come in unfiltered.
  • ESJs need to slow down and get in touch with their true self – unfiltered.

 

In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about developing sensing as an ISFP, ISTP, ESFJ, or ESTJ. #podcast #MBTI #ESTJ #ESFJ #ISFP #ISTP #myersbriggs

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  • Karen
    Reply

    I have been awaiting ‘my’ INFJ podcast with excitement and trepidation.Your series of podcasts on developing the co-pilot function have increased my understanding of and motivation to develop my Extroverted Feeling function, but I was frankly afraid of what you might suggest this required me to do!
    Well, I am more than pleased with ‘my’ podcast – released on my birthday to boot!
    I really feel motivated by the goal of creating good ‘containers’ for others to be able to hear truths that might help them.
    I can see where I sometimes judge people and try to correct them, instead of connecting with them first, and how this is a defence mechanism for when I feel vulnerable.
    I can also see where I do sometimes lead with empathy instead, and become able to be a change maker, and to help people.
    I feel a sense of relief when I think about making good boundaries and revealing more of myself, so that I will ‘have my own back’.
    Thanks for expressing so clearly what INFJ goals can look like, how I already have talents (and maybe some skills) that I can use, and how choosing to develop these will mean I can get more of what I really want.
    I have found this very positive, affirming and motivating.

  • Danny
    Reply

    My wife and I have contacted you a couple of times each since discovering your fantastic podcast. Each time we’ve loved the direct feedback that you guys give when you can – it makes each episode we listen feel personal.

    I first commented on your INFP podcast on YouTube years ago, when I was at one of my lowest points. Joel and I exchanged comments that are still there. I discovered that I had ADHD which made a huge difference in my personal development. I also was able to clarify that I am an INFJ and was mistyping myself.

    My wife in an ENFP and this podcast felt like it was developed as a personal favor to us. We are both struggling in our development – and since that low time when I first encountered your podcast, we are now business owners with a LOT on our plate. And with both of us being stuck in our individual loops, we have so much work to do to be the people we need to be within this exciting new life we’re seeing grow around us (almost in spite of us). As I was back in the “low time” I have isolated myself to the point of receiving disability, crippling my Fe – and my wife resists the inner work that her Fi needs. To have these issues so masterfully laid out for us was a gift. I have listened to this episode three times already – my wife has not yet had the time, though I have raved about it (probably to the point of annoyance).

    I just wanted to say that you guys are incredible and are a regular part of our weekly routines. We are excited to dig deeper with your other content. You two are a powerful resource. Please don’t stop helping people clarify themselves. Thank you, thank you, thank you BOTH (all – because I know lots more work goes into all of this) for this wonderful episode and valuable podcast!

    • Antonia Dodge
      Reply

      So glad we’ve been able to be part of your growth journey. <3

      -A-

  • Greg
    Reply

    Great podcast episode as always! Thank you!
    Can you guys do an episode about an individual’s relationship to the shadow functions i.e. four functions not represented in the car model of their personality? For example, I am fairly certain I am an ENTJ (closest second being ESTJ) but I do feel a connection to the memory function and at times even harmony function.

  • Justine G
    Reply

    Just a Question:

    Your definition of Introverted Sensing (memory) is much more fleshed out and makes much more sense to me (in terms of fitting into the total system) than anything I’ve read or heard anywhere else, by anyone.

    Yet you’ve thrown what is for me a sort of spanner in the works by apparently contradicting everything else I’ve read about Si, which is in saying it facilitates ‘adaptation’. Everywhere else I’ve seen it’s basically said that Si-dominants have (typically) the most trouble adapting to unfamiliar situations of any of the types, because their memory can’t find any patterns or ‘templates’ that appears to be applicable or usable in the new situation.

    Are you saying that if you struggle with unfamiliarity you cannot be Si-dominant?

    • Antonia Dodge
      Reply

      The most crucial part of the sentence regarding Introverted Sensing being adaptable is “over time.” In the moment, Si is the least adaptable. But over time, it is the most. Its ability to integrate experiences and shift its own identity to accommodate for those experiences means that increased familiarity turns into acclimation.

      In the moment, I’d argue Extraverted Intuition is the most adaptable.

      Great question.

      -A-

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