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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk with Enneagram expert and author Dr. Beatrice Chestnut about the Enneagram types of 8 – 9 – 1 and the common myths and misconceptions we have around them.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- Enneagram Roadmap
- Misconceptions people have about the enneagram
- People recognize the types based upon their high-level traits/characteristics, and they forget to acknowledge that there is greater complexity to the types.
- Enneagram maps the complexity of the human personality, and there is a learning curve
- Instincts and subtypes are essential in understanding the enneagram more fully
- The Complete Enneagram
- Previous podcast with Beatrice
- Enneagram is built on three centers of intelligence: Body, heart, head
- Subtypes are another breakdown into 3: Social, Sexual/One-to-one, Self-preservation
- There’s a self-preservation 4 that doesn’t look like a 4
- And a social 7 that doesn’t look like the typical 7
- Most descriptions of 3s are Social 3s.
- Sexual and Self-pres 3s don’t look like most of the descriptions of 3s.
- Body Types: 8-9-1
- 8 is the boss/challenger
- 9 is the mediator/peacemaker
- 1 is the perfectionist/reformer
- Types 8s are types that people see as always angry or aggressive.
- The core emotion connected to Body types is anger.
- In every triad, there is one type that overdoes the emotion, one type that underdoes the emotion, and one type that conflicts with the emotion.
- 8s tend to overdo anger. They may describe it as passion or energy
- It’s a myth that 8s are always on the verge of explosions. They don’t need to get angry.
- There’s a particular strength 8s carry around with them, so they don’t need to express aggression.
- 8s can be sensitive on the inside.
- 8s tend to get bullied because other people see them as bullies.
- 8s need the space to recognize that vulnerability can be an expression of strength.
- All emotions are valid and useful.
- We tend to think anger is wrong, but it can be used as a strength.
- 9s vice is sloth/laziness
- They can be out of touch with working on behalf of themselves.
- People see them as overly passive or lazy, but not because they don’t do anything.
- They go to sleep to their need to act for themselves.
- They are taking all the possible actions but not the right reason, which is acting on behalf of themselves.
- 9s have a lot of energy, but they diffuse that energy out over other people instead of targeting their self-interest.
- Give 9s room to grow and don’t pigeon hole them as a certain way.
- Social 9 is one of the biggest workaholics on the enneagram after type 3.
- If 8s are anger overdone, then 9s are anger underdone.
- 9s may be asleep to their anger.
- Anger feels threatening to 9s because it disturbs the peace.
- The growth path of 9 is to express the anger openly instead of as random explosions or passive-aggressiveness.
- 9s tend not to be in touch with anger because they have the belief that anger causes separation, and they want to stay connected with people.
- Anger brings people closer.
- Once a 9 recognizes that they can create a deeper connection.
- People can see 9s as perpetually passive and unaware of what they want.
- 9s need to figure out what they want and stop worrying about what other people think.
- 9s feel overlooked.
- They need a little time to consider their opinion.
- 8 – Anger overdone
- 9 – Anger underdone
- 1 – Anger repressed
- 1s feel the anger and suppress it.
- The anger leaks out as irritation, annoyance, resentment, self-righteousness, etc.
- Sexual 1s give themselves more permission to express their anger.
- 1s can be perfectionists in one or two areas.
- Self-preservation 1s are the true perfectionists.
- Social 1s are perfectionists in that they obsess about what is the right thing to do.
- Sexual 1s want to perfect other people – reformers
- Have compassion for 1s because they were usually overburdened with responsibility as a child.
- The growth path for 1s is about getting worse.
- 1s need to become imperfect and disorganized
- Perfectionism can be a strength if controlled.
- 1s can be very sensitive to criticism and will see criticism everywhere
- Use our language in a way that gives people room to grow.
- We are still decoding the Enneagram symbol.
- Litmus test: What helps you grow?
- We need a more expansive view of the Enneagram types to give people space to grow within that type.
- The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
- Enneagram Roadmap
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