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personalityhacker_mirror-image“Am I an Extravert or an Introvert?” “Sometimes I’m a Thinker and sometimes I’m a Feeler – it just depends.” “I used to be an INTP, but now I’m an INTJ.”

One of the greatest things about the Myers-Briggs typology system is its extremely low barrier of entry. It’s surprisingly easy to ‘get’ the concepts of the four dichotomies – Introversion/Extraversion (I/E), iNtuition/Sensing (N/S), Thinking/Feeling (T/F), Judging/Perceiving (J/P).

Most of the behaviors that stem from these ways of seeing the world are highly observable and fairly intuitive. Introverts need alone time, Extraverts like hanging out with people. That’s easy enough.

“But wait! What if I need some alone time AND I like hanging out with people?”

Thinkers are analytical and Feelers are in touch with their emotions.

“Well, I’m both analytical and in touch with my emotions.”

And so on. What starts out as fairly simple with a low barrier of entry now becomes confusing and mildly contradictory. Without a deeper understanding of how the system works the easiest way to reconcile these two contradictions is to say… well, both! And, to some extent, that’s true. However, it’s an incomplete truth that has people misunderstanding how the Myers-Briggs system works, the spread of misinformation abounds, and people come away unsure of their best-fit type.

To help parse out some of these more common misconceptions, I’ve created a list of the 3 biggest mistakes people make in self-typing.

Mistake #1 – Behavior is not the same as type.

We’re behaviorists by nature. It’s how our lizard brain vets for human predators, and how our mammalian brain determines appropriate versus inappropriate social interactions.

That said, each of the dichotomies (I/E, S/N, T/F, J/P) in the Myers-Briggs system isn’t a set of behaviors. They’re simply a way to understand how the brain is wired, and that wiring will give birth to a set of predictable behaviors.

This is an important distinction. For example, Introversion and Extraversion aren’t actions you take. They are ways your brain filters reality, lenses through which you see and then informs behavior. There’s at least one degree of separation between E/I and the resulting behaviors you manifest to the world.

To illustrate, if someone’s favorite color is red you’re not going to know this simply by observing that they’ve painted their kitchen red. It can be inferred, or it can be that red kitchens are in fashion. Or their interior designer told them to paint it that color. Or they had red paint donated to them and they decided to use it in the kitchen. The behavior isn’t the preference, itself.

However, if red IS their favorite color, it stands to reason they would choose to paint rooms in their house that color. But if they’re in an apartment that doesn’t allow any color but white on the walls, then using the walls to determine color preference is going to be impossible.

Our preferences give birth to our behaviors if the context allows, but there will always be one degree of separation from the preference to the action.

What does that mean in terms of type?

You have to be a better detective to know your own or someone else’s type than just “they (I) really like people, so they (I) must be an Extravert.” You have to understand the wiring of each dichotomy and then understand the resulting behaviors, so if there are inconsistencies you’ll look for things like environmental factors which would influence the preference.

For a deeper study into each dichotomy, reference Personality Hacker’s articles about Introversion/Extraversion, Intuition/Sensing, Thinking/Feeling and Judging/Perceiving.

Mistake #2 – Sticking with the dichotomies without understanding cognitive functions.

Cognitive functions cognitive functions cognitive functions cognitive functions. I can’t say it often enough. You cannot understand Myers-Briggs typology without understanding the Jungian cognitive functions.

Some of you who are Myers-Briggs enthusiasts will be reading this and saying, “What are cognitive functions?” As much as you think you know about this typology system, if you don’t understand cognitive functions you are essentially mastering every square inch of a 2 foot deep kiddie pool.

Now, don’t get me wrong. There’s wisdom to be found in the dichotomies. To loosely quote Robert Anton Wilson, the best models are useful when pared down to their essentials and also can be be studied indefinitely.

The dichotomies have a lot of usefulness. But an understanding of them is not complete, and when you run into conundrums or experience confusion around, say, being both a Thinker and a Feeler they’ll have very little to offer in the way of ‘tie breakers’.

(I’d argue that the entire purpose of the dichotomies is to act as a secret decoder ring for the cognitive functions, though of course people like David Kiersey would have strongly disagreed.)

For a more complete understanding of Jungian cognitive functions see Personality Hacker’s article here.

Mistake #3 – Ignoring other models which influence type.

There are 16 personality types in the Myers-Briggs typology system and around 7 billion people on the planet. Suffice to say, there are going to be variations in how the types express themselves.

It’s not uncommon to use a ‘prototype’ to inform your understanding of each of the 16 types and that’s a great place to start. But if you think all Thinker Perceiver (TP) women have to look and dress like The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo you’re going to have a bad time of it.

Some of the most important factors are gender, culture, overarching paradigm (aka “belief system”), age, personal growth/development and other typology systems like the Enneagram, Graves Model, DISC, etc.

An ENFJ is not an ENFJ is not an ENFJ. Both Oprah Winfrey and Elliott Hulse are ENFJs. Oprah Winfrey has famously battled with her weight her entire life while Elliott Hulse is the go-to guru for physical fitness on YouTube. What are their similarities and what are their differences?

PersonalityHacker_Elliott.Hulse_ENFJ Oprah Winfrey

Without an understanding of how the cognitive functions influence type as well as all of the other factors it would be difficult to recognize both of these people as the same Myers-Briggs type.

When talking about personality type I’ve become more conscientious of defining the typology system I’m using when stating two people are the same ‘personality type’. I’ll specify “Myers-Briggs type” when comparing two people, since so many other variables may be different.

If you have a ‘prototype’ in your head when you reference the 16 types, I recommend loosening your grip on it as you get more familiar with the system. A solid understanding of cognitive functions will help with this.

I’m going to be writing a series of blog posts on what I’ve observed to be the Myers-Briggs types that are confused for each other the most, and some of the ways you can tell the difference. I’ll start with INTP/INTJ, so keep your eyes peeled.


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Antonia Dodge
Antonia is an author, thought leader, coach, trainer, systems thinker, and personality profiling expert. As the co-owner and Lead Trainer of Personality Hacker, she oversees all the training programs and content that Personality Hacker produces to help people "hack" their personal growth journey and create more happiness in their lives.
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  • Victor

    Great article! Thank you Antonia!
    Lately I’ve been almost dependant on typing people in the Myers-Briggs system and thinking that can explain everything about their behavior. So I recognise mistake #3 in myself. Thank you for making me see this 🙂

  • Julian Lee

    Maybe a podcast series on the cognitive functions, like the one you did a few months ago (Introverted Intuition vs Extroverted Intuition), would be helpful in explaining more thoroughly how each type is really a decoder ring for a set of cognitive functions.

    I personally don’t think any of the types means much until one understands the functions. Even if one understand the temparements.. Saying I’m an introvert, for example, is cool but what does it really mean? There are 4 types of introverts, and being an introverted intuitive isn’t the same as being an introverted thinker! Saying someone is an extrovert is also helpful, but it doesn’t really say much until one knows what kind of extrovert; an extroverted thinker, for example, may not fit the ‘social’ and ‘gregarious’ profile that comes to mind when one thinks of extroverts, so they may think it’s unusual that an ENTJ may not be the ‘life of the party’ even though they are extroverts, or that it’s weird that an INTJ is not shy and socially awkward even though they’re introverts.. so they get mistyped!

    For each type, extroverted or introverted, intuitive or sensor, etc., unless one really understands how the type’s function really works, one won’t have a a genuine grasp of the type!

  • Amber

    This is great! This is the very thing that brought so much confusion for me. I test as an INFP and sometimes as an INFJ depending on the test questions. The problem is that the description and appearance many online forums have an INFP don’t look like me. I love how you shared about this issue. It’s not about the outside, but the inside functions and how other factors like culture, gender and belief systems can all influence the outside expression of any type.

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