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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about Human Sexuality and Society.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • The one thing that seems to be on most people’s minds most of the time is sex.
  • Frank Underwood in the show “House of Cards” (Netflix) says, “Everything is about sex, except for sex. Sex is about power.”
  • Robert Anton Wilson talks about the Eight Circuit Model. The Fourth Circuit is Socio-Sexual.
  • The First Circuit is the Bio-Survival Circuit – is the world friendly or hostile?
  • The Second Circuit is Anal-Territorial – am I dominate or submissive?
  • The Third Circuit is the Time Binding Circuit – what is my adopted ideology?
  • The Fourth Circuit is Socio-Sexual – what is my sexual preference and what is my identity in society?
  • We control sexual behavior to control people’s minds, and get a specific outcome.
  • “The only rule about sexuality is that there’s going to be rules about sexuality.”
  • What we get imprinted with sexually is almost infinite in variety.
  • We spend the majority of our time pretending that our sexual preference(s) matches whatever our society says is acceptable.
  • About 99% of the population DOES NOT SHARE the sexual imprint our society says is acceptable.
  • Many people who don’t have the ‘acceptable’ sexual imprint will see themselves as perverted, which becomes part of their identity in society.
  • We’re all very interested in what ‘normal’ is. We fear getting ‘booted by the tribe’.
  • Sometimes those who feel they are ‘perverted’ will spend time and effort hiding that by demonizing others who also aren’t ‘normal’.
  • If everyone had to reveal what their sexual preferences are we’d understand that ‘normal’ is actually being ‘not normal’.
  • We are more and more understanding how varied sexual preference are thanks to passing information anonymously on the internet.
  • It’s much more difficult to control how people ‘should’ be thinking.
  • Do we have more variety of sexual preferences since we’re exposed to more things in our culture?
  • Social construction of reality isn’t bad – it’s how we navigate through life with unspoken social contracts that make everyone’s life easier.
  • The mistake is believing that the social construction is absolute, and if we don’t ‘line up’ it makes us ‘bad’. It’s much closer to reality and healthier to think, “These are just the rules of the game I happen to be in right now, and it’s okay if I’m a little different.”
  • If you control someone’s sexuality, you control their mind. That’s why it’s been so important for people in power to control ‘acceptable’ concepts of sexuality.
  • The issue easily comes down controlling reproduction, i.e the abortion debate, whether or not homosexual couples should raise children, how many children a family can have, etc.
  • People go through life unaware of the bigger picture, and we can overvalue the opinions of society.
  • If you don’t think your sexuality is the ‘norm’ – cut yourself some slack.

Exercises we recommend in this podcast:

Spend this week cutting yourself some slack for your preferences!

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  • Kirk tully
    • Kirk tully
    • June 17, 2014 at 1:22 am

    I was excited (pun fully intended) when I saw the title of this podcast. There’s so much good stuff in the podcast but for now my question or thought revolves around this:

    You talked about sexuality being defined by social parameters, and I wonder, if 70% of the population is “sensing” oriented, wouldn’t a “right and wrong” sensibility about sex (and everything else) be normative? You mentioned how helpful it can be, because how else do we know where to start talking about this (or anything else).

    I appreciated the individuality idea and how important it is to remember that we all look at sex differently and have differing desires. Being allowed to consider sex as we choose is terribly important for us “intuitive” types.

    As always, I appreciate the podcast and that you choose to speak to all these ideas and thoughts you have. They are interesting and eye-opening, so thank you.

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