Podcast - Episode 0281 - Why The World Needs Extraverted Feeling

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  • H. C
  • July 2, 2019 at 6:43 pm

  Thanks Charis. It’s a tall order lol. But I guess that’s why it’s called work.

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  • Denzel Mensah
  • July 2, 2019 at 2:43 pm

  “When Harmony (Fe) is at its best, you almost don’t see it. So when people think they don’t like it, it’s often because they have benefitted from it silently; in ways they can’t articulate. So all they see is the times they don’t* like it.”-Antonia Dodge

  This was marvelous. I think every function gets flack and is misunderstood to an extent, but as an ENFJ, I’m just very happy to have heard defense about my dominant function because far too often I do hear the negative about it and how much it is hated, when I feel like the good it does exponentially outweighs but no one sees it. Anyway, yeah. Thank you for this great podcast and series.

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  • Drew
  • July 2, 2019 at 9:46 pm

  Awesome episode — made me proud of my co-pilot!

  Joel’s comment about the origins of Fe reminded me of one of my favorite anthropological discoveries, Shanidar 1. This was a skeleton of an old Neanderthal (~40+ years old) who had sustained multiple disabling injuries early in life. He was at least partially blind and deaf, and did not have the use of at least one limb. And yet he exceeded his life expectancy due to the care of the tribe.

  Of course I know pretty much nothing about the cognition of prehistoric peoples, and I’m fairly certain that ‘love’ as a concept wouldn’t show up for tens of thousands of years, but it’s apparent that reciprocity in care is as old as, if not older than, humans themselves. (Take that, Social Darwinists!)

  source: https://source.wustl.edu/2017/10/shanidar/

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  • Charis Branson
  • July 2, 2019 at 2:36 pm

  As an INFJ myself, I would recommend you let people be who they want to be. You can’t control anyone but yourself, nor should you try. If someone wants to swear, let them swear. If someone wants to post something you don’t think is 100% accurate, let them. Each person is on their own journey. We aren’t the police of the world. We can’t force people to see things our way. Work on yourself. Work on letting things go and let people have the experience they need to have to learn the lessons in the way they need to learn them.

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  • H. C
  • July 2, 2019 at 9:28 am

  Not gonna lie, I think my Fe was triggered in this video when you talked about cursing. I actually got pretty angry. It’s strange because I don’t think the cursing is what offended my sensibilities but to myself I thought, “They created a whole model to simplify cognitive functions for the general public. They refer other podcasts and are willing to explain cognitive functions for the sake of new listeners but they don’t want to censor themselves for the sake of reaching a broader audience???”

  Now I’m not saying this to make any evaluation of your decision but to highlight how the thought that someone out there might be excluded from the podcast because of this issue really bothered me. And as an Fe user it’s sooooo obvious for me that you should just leave out any expletives.

  Another interesting thing that came up for me was how we Fe users should engage Ti in vetting the quality of the information we disseminate. That’s huge because if Ti is in one’s lower stack one may possibly undervalue it but one has it for a reason. Even though one may not use it to the degree that Ti doms and auxs use it.

  I once politely let a friend know (privately) that a social media post (meme) they had shared was a potentially misleading depiction of the source material in that it left out a huge disclaimer. I don’t think it was taken very well. And I questioned whether it was an oversight on my part, that In pointing that out, I was showing that I didn’t think highly of people’s ability to think further or grasp nuance. Although to be honest I don’t think even the individual who made the post did as his subsequent posts were just as reckless.

  As someone who doesn’t use Ti in the upper stack, how can we ensure that we are vetting correctly. Sometimes it feels like it’s not my place to correct things or that I’m making an oversight. But it really bothers me when I see people who I know sharing only soundbites. It bothers me that people might get the wrong picture.