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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about how introverts and extraverts deal with the COVID-19 quarantine brought on by the 2020 coronavirus.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- Quarantine is tough on everyone.
- Judgers may be having struggles because the quarantine is throwing them out of their routines.
- Extraverted judging functions aren’t getting the nutrients they need from the external world.
- FJs need regular connection with people
- TJs can usually find projects to do around the house
- FJs can try a virtual happy hour with friends.
- IPs like freedom in the outer world so they can test out ideas and emotions.
- Some Perceivers may feel like they are living Groundhog’s Day
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Leverage point for Introverts quarantined by self:
- Get out of the house and go for walks
- Forest bathing
- Qigong
- Chakra meditation
- Energy platforms
- We don’t know when this quarantine is going to lift.
- EPs need variety, novelty, and freedom of movement
- Get to work on projects that have been languishing
- We are being forced to slow down
- When we don’t have distractions, we have to sit with the life we have made for ourselves.
- If you are quarantined by yourself, you may have emotions coming up that you have managed to distract yourself from until now.
- Old trauma
- Unprocessed emotions
- This quarantine is like an enforced vipassana retreat
- If stuff is coming up for you, this may be a gift
- Look at your life
- What are the leverage points of change?
- Get your priorities in line
- Why do I have this job?
- Why do I hang out with these people?
- This may require some of us to re-evaluate our finances
- How self-indulgent have you been?
- Extraverts trapped with people – the same people – no variety
- Earbuds are important
- Get up early or stay up late to get your alone time.
- Great time to reconnect with your family through group activities
- Someone on Twitter said divorces would likely go up after this
- Try to differentiate between the stress of a relationship that is complete and the stress of the situation.
- What is the source code of the explosion?
- Is it yours? Or are you overwhelmed by the emotions of others?
- Introverts trapped with people may already have coping mechanisms in place
- Isolated with kids can cause problems because a lot of parent’s systems are unavailable
- A lot of introverts may get their alone time on their commute or while their partner is working
- Grace goes a long way
- Apologize when needed
- Don’t be too hard on yourself or others.
- Grace allows us to let things go, and it is healthy for us.
- One of the ways we find connection is through social media
- There’s a lot of negativity in the news and on social media
- Curse: May you live in interesting times
- What are you feeding your mind?
- If you feel overly negative, check what you are feeding yourself.
- The news can dump toxins in us.
- Challenge: Micro gratitude expression
- Post on social media something that you are grateful for
- It will train you to start looking for things you can be thankful for
- It will change the trajectory of online messaging
- Caught in the Act: At dinner, everyone says something good about every member of the family
- One person can offset millions in terms of positive, energetic output
- Be a force for good in the world
- Make it your responsibility to counteract the negative energy around us.
- That means you can’t stay in a bad place.
- What is going on for you?
- What leverage points have you discovered in this experience?
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Hi,
As an INFP my current silver linings are: having complete autonomy over my work and getting to spend lots of time with my young child.
The hardest things have been restricted access to nature (I cried all day when my only accessible park shut down and I also want to rebel against that rule), lack of physical contact and adult conversation (as I recently became single), and possibly too much free reign to prioritise processing feelings over attending to tasks. My intense focus on working through demons in closets is even intenserer ?
Perhaps partly due to a recent break up, my antenna are up for sadness, loss and rejection so although rationally I know why I am not seeing people socially right now, deep down I keep feeling abandoned by life. It is depleting for me to be the one that initiates social contact so I’m setting up a couple of weekly video calls. I also tend to imagine everyone else is doing fine and that it’s just me who sometimes struggles. I can be acutely aware of how pain I feel is even more unseen by others at the moment. The isolation, which I find much more difficult than I would imagine given that I am an INFP, live with a lovely ?NFJ child and ISTP housemate, accentuates my pre-existing feeling of difference and separation.
Listening to the podcast helped me get a better understanding of how others are affected and made me understand my isolation is part of a collective isolation and just hearing cheerful, emotionally connected voices was great for me and counterbalanced my own inner voice which had gone off track recently.
If you either of you dear personality hackers do read this, it would mean a lot to me at this EXACT point in time with all the disconnection etc if you could drop a quick word to say you have received my comment. Thank you!
ENFP in quarantine with ESFJ mother and ISTP father. Though my dad is an essential worker, so he’s gone quite a bit.
As an ISTP, my dad will be fine as long as he can still go outside in nature. ESFJ mom is very anxious and a bit too attached to the news, but I think she’s handling it well by spending time sorting through family photos and working on genealogy. So, it’s turned into quality Si time.
As for me, I am fine as long as I don’t think about how long this will last. I’m working on my senior thesis now, so there’s a lot to keep me busy. I tend to isolate when doing schoolwork anyway. Plus, I love reading. I’m an extrovert, but I’ve always been great at entertaining myself. We’ll see how long this lasts. I’m not really sure where the breaking point is.
I’ve also been honoring my Si a lot more by revisiting old photographs, watching tv shows and movies I’ve loved for years, etc.
I think before this, I would have probably said I could do 7 days in complete isolation. But now, no, I’m way too extroverted for that. I would go nuts so quickly. I’d probably end the week angry at everyone, but I’d go with the constant social interaction for a week.
My main strategy is spending time just tuning everything out. I’ve limited my news intake to an hour a day at most (some in the morning and some in the evening). The negative anxiety from the world is really palpable, but I find that I can keep a measure of distance to keep myself sane.
One of my best friends is quarantined with her boyfriend and his parents. She’s an ESFJ, and she’s taking this extremely hard. I sent her a message reminding her to take care of herself since I suspected she has not been. I get a response, “I’m not good at that.” Yes, I know, that’s why I’m telling you. For her, the problem is that she just has lost interest in most things that kept her occupied and doesn’t want to even take a nap. On top of that, she feels physically ill (which clued me into the fact that she probably isn’t drinking enough water, eating well, sleeping enough, or a mixture).
We’re all dealing differently. Since this whole thing has started, another friend told me that she has only had one good night’s sleep. That would be torture. So, I think I’m handling it fairly well. Though if I entertain how long this could last, I want to just start screaming and never stop.
Ditto. INFJ isolating alone and in my element! It would be more difficult without a phone but phond/text contact with family and friends is enough for me.
INFP living with INTJ both primarily work out of the home – business as usual. Having INTJ’s 2 daughters: ESFP-15, IXXX-10, full time right now, as opposed to every other week, is interesting. The ESFP teen is loud, has too much energy and just wants to go drive around, or maybe ride skateboard, or maybe go hiking, or maybe lay out in the 50°F sun to tan, or maybe redecorate her room, or maybe talk about herself to no one in particular for about 30 minutes straight. She’s super sweet and I love her but it’s too much even for my Ne. Three of us decided that each day 3 people in the house had to leave even if just for a hike, a drive (we’re not in complete lockdown), etc, so one person could have some alone time. Three of us fought over who got to be first to stay alone; I’ll let you guess which ones. Thankfully (I think) my ESFP college son will be staying with us soon and he and the other ESFP can get out and adventure together (we’re on the edge of a forest so it’s isolated) and in general just get out of my space for awhile. Plus, the weather will be warming up so we can get out into nature more which is an absolute must for me.
Hello?
I think I would have found the isolation easier if I didn’t have a toddler at home. Although he is far to young to accurately type, he currently looks a little something like this
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I’m pretty sure he was a gift from the universe telling me to get out of my damn head.
Days are usually spent going out for walks/picnics, crafts, baking and generally trying to keep a lid on the never ending mess that he whips up. It’s safe to say that by the time he goes to bed, I’m pretty tired.
We do zoom video calls with friends and family which are welcomed and offer enough interaction to keep me seemingly sane.
It has been years since I have been able to sit and really watch a film. I usually zone out and come to when the credits are rolling, but I have been trying to watch films and remain present to them which has been enjoyable and relaxing.
By far the best Fe hit I have had in I don’t know how long though was the both of you laughing at the end of the podcast!
Best wishes and good vibes to you both?