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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about the reasons you may struggle with finding your best fit personality type.

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In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Why people end up struggling to figure out their type, sometimes for years.
  • Struggling to determine your type vs being mistyped.
  • Discuss possible reasons someone may struggle to land on a best fit type.
  • #1 Reason: Partial or Incomplete understanding of the system.
    • We all have all parts, but which one supports the other.
    • Early Attachment without re-evaluation as you gained more knowledge.
    • Common type biases in typology communities.
    • A question to ask yourself around attachment.
  • #2 Reason: Elements of the system that can complicate the typing process.
    • The presence of Authenticity (Introverted Feeling).
    • The presence of Perspectives (Introverted Intuition).
    • When an entire polarity ‘looks like’ another function.
    • Solution: the strategy of ‘low-hanging’ fruits.
  • #3 Reason: Oversimplifying prototypes in your life.
    • “I am not anything like …”
    • “That type is so cool!”
  • #4 Reason: Over-importance of identifying your best-fit type.
    • 2 patterns of why your brain may be resisting finding clarity on your best-fit type.
    • What to do about them.
  • #5 Reason: Cultural and Social Expectations.
    • Where do you end and others begin?
    • Suggested practice: creating a family tree (can apply to congregation, institution, demographic).
  • #6 Reason: Levels of Growth.
    • Map your developmental narrative against potential best-fit types.
    • Example: the growth narrative of INxPs vs INxJs.
  • Hang in there… and why this struggle can be a powerful thing.

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  • IxTx?
    • IxTx?
    • July 24, 2020 at 11:49 am

    I think you’re on to something with the “exaggerated type patriotism” thing, i.e. “that type is too good for me”. Another thing (at least for me) is the type communities’ answers when you ask. I thought I had my type nailed down, but wasn’t entirely sure, so I asked on a forum. The reply was, only slightly exaggerated, like a shotgun blast of types, mostly other than the one I thought.
    I think my description of myself was skewed, to parts that I prefer to share and to parts that are easier to describe, and to some extent because I avoid telling things that may compromise my anonymity.
    In retrospect, I had probably read up more on the likely types and functions than half of the people responding, but the doubt remains.
    I don’t want to say I’m a certain type unless I’m pretty sure. I even include a question mark in my signature since I’m just a bit short of my set threshold of definitely declaring myself a T.

  • K
    • K
    • July 18, 2020 at 5:37 am

    Social anxiety
    Treated by ETOH
    Meditation for anyone is helpful

  • Sheila
    • Sheila
    • July 10, 2020 at 7:28 pm

    And thanks a lot for this episode! I too have been uncertain for years between two types. It absolutely helped me put another few nails in the ground to fasten the tent of my INFJ-ness.

  • Sheila
    • Sheila
    • July 10, 2020 at 7:18 pm

    I was also wondering about the doings of the sixth function and the level of influence it can have – both when still ‘untouched’ and when integration of it begins. How does it show up differently? Would love to hear some future podcasts about the shadow functions! – I think some of us are ready for it :-)

  • Justine G
    • Justine G
    • June 27, 2020 at 3:42 pm

    Thanks guys,

    1) I can think of at least one more reason:

    The potential role of abuse/trauma on emotional-blocking and the relevance this has on feeler/thinking categorisation. If I didn’t know any better, I’d think that routinely suppressing emotion just meant you were a ‘thinker’.

    The effect of disorders in emotional-attachment and intimacy issues are examples of what I am talking about. So for example, as an INFP you might be ‘expected’ to seek emotionally-intimate friendships/relationships. This pattern could be hugely disrupted by an attachment/intimacy disorder.

    2) I thought all your podcast was very good, except the last ‘reason’ for me kind of contradicted your earlier point regarding ‘nuance’ of type. I say this as you present expected development of types (as a way to further narrow down type) as if it were nearly always strictly linear. This kind of surprised me as you seemed open to Dr Drenth/Elaine Shallocks view that many people do not develop in nearly as ‘neat’ a fashion (in the video you recently posted).

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