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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk with guest host and relationship expert Bruce Muzik about navigating the three stages of a romantic relationship to co-create authentic and mature love as a couple.


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In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Relationship expert, Bruce Muzik (ENTP) of Love at First Fight, shares pro advice.
  • What is attachment theory? What are the 3 Stages of each romantic relationship? Find out in this previous podcast episode with Bruce.
  • Bruce’s top advice: The most powerful relationship skill you can have.
  • What is the #1 thing that several of the world’s most influential leaders had in common?
  • Why your childhood wounds are hijacking your relationship.
  • Experiencing Stage 1:
    • What you go through chemically at the start of a relationship.
    • What you really might be experiencing when you think you’re in love.
    • Why fear is your worst enemy in relationships.
    • What are the differences between relationship pursuit vs partnership?
    • Can you be addicted to Stage 1?
  • When Stage 2 suddenly sets in:
    • What happens to every couple in this Stage.
    • Why most couples don’t survive Stage 2.
    • What is your amygdala doing to your relationship?
    • When your attachment style is wreaking havoc.
    • What Joel and Antonia experienced in Stage 2.
    • The shocking thing that intimacy requires.
    • When you get stuck in Stage 2.
  • Getting through to Stage 3:
    • Why Stage 3 is so exciting to get to.
    • How do you actually transition from Stage 2 to Stage 3?
    • Why conflict changes in Stage 3.
    • What are the costs you pay in this Stage?
    • Do the benefits outweigh the costs?
    • The successful big change you can make.
    • What emerges when you have a collaborative relationship?
  • The effects of a healthy Stage 3 relationship:
    • What Nelson Mandela, Richard Branson and Jimmy Carter all agree on.
    • How you gain personal power.
    • What does the research show?
    • What Stage 3 means to you even if you’re single.
    • The power of “us”: Dave Logan’s Tribal Leadership.
    • How our Enneagram Instincts are affected.
  • Should I stay or should I go?
    • Why good relationships are not easy.
    • What if a relationship feels too hard?
    • How do I know if this is a relationship worth fighting for?
    • The real questions you need to ask yourself about your relationship.
    • What to do before you quit a relationship.
    • The best breakup advice from Love Coach, Annie Lalla.
  • The most vital relationship question you need to be asking.

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  • Micah
    • Micah
    • February 17, 2021 at 4:41 pm

    I’m curious about how the power struggle manifests in personality types that tend to have low intensity conflict. I’m an INFP with an INFJ and our conflict tends to be very internally focused. For example, we might try to address an issue by putting pressure on ourselves instead of addressing it directly with the other person first. It’s almost like we fight to let go of power?

    If this is addressed in some of the paid content, I would be very interested.

  • Kelly
    • Kelly
    • February 12, 2021 at 6:04 pm

    My partner and I never had a honeymoon phase. Granted, he was a different person when trying to win me over and I found him too overbearing. After a while, he settled into who he truely is and I liked him after all. He is an INTP, I am INTJ

  • Anon
    • Anon
    • February 12, 2021 at 6:02 pm

    Your comment is incredibly specific and does not ring true for all. I am sorry you experienced this but you will find the right person who doesn’t make you feel this way

  • Anonymous
    • Anonymous
    • February 11, 2021 at 1:40 pm

    The idea of a man wasting his time, money, and energy pursuing a relationship with a woman, who can never love him the way he wants to be loved, is absolutely absurd.

    Women are psychologically incapable of loving a man for who he is. Women subconsciously look for wealth, good looks, and high status in a mate. If a man loses his job, the woman will inevitably leave him.

    One of men’s greatest desires, to be emotionally vulnerable with a woman in a relationship, can never be fulfilled, because woman are sexually attracted to stoic, tough, strong, unemotional men. A man being emotionally vulnerable with a woman actually sexually turns her OFF, and she might cheat on this man or break up with him. The more the man is emotionally vulnerable with the woman, the more she is sexually turned off by him, and the chance she cheats on him or ends the relationship keeps increasing. Never believe a woman if she tells you she wants you to be more emotionally vulnerable with her, and never open up to her.

    Women show they don’t care about the man’s struggles or emotions.

    Women show they are narcissistic, solipsistic, delusional, and totally incapable of taking responsibility for their horrible decisions.

    It is impossible to build relationship equity with a woman, because women follow Briffault’s Law and their own in-built hypergamy. At any moment, a woman can end the marriage or relationship, and if the man is married, the woman can rob the man for the majority of his money and assets, and take full custody of any children. This is because the courts are corrupt and completely biased in favor of women.

    A man can go to jail based on the false sexual harassment, abuse, or rape allegations of a woman. A woman can send a man to prison with false sexual harassment allegations if they ask for her name and contact info, and she finds them physically unattractive or “creepy”. A woman can have consensual sex with a man, regret it, and then file a false rape allegation with the police and get the man put in jail, even if it is years later. Why would a man ever want to get involved with a woman in this environment?

    My urgent message to men is: never get married, don’t waste your time with women, and never live with a woman (certain areas consider co-habitation as marriage within the law, so you can be divorce-robbed by the woman even if you are not married to her).

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