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In this episode, Joel and Antonia compare how feelers and thinkers experience feelings and talk about which type is more emotional.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Are feelers more emotional than thinkers? The online buzz surrounding this question.
  • What’s the difference between experiencing emotions and using a feeling function to make decisions?
  • The degree of separation between feeling the emotion and making the decision for feelers.
  • Thinkers – what’s the difference between thought and a thinking function?
  • Is there a greater gap between our thoughts and thinking function than there is between our emotions and our feeling function?
  • Joel’s experience as a feeler – does he feel more emotional than thinkers?
  • Antonia’s experience with thoughts and feelings as a Accuracy (Ti) user.
  • The pendulum swing – how the world has shifted from over-valuing thinking to over-valuing feeling.
  • The myth that all feelings should be acted upon – why it’s important to develop a mature relationship with your feelings.
    • How feeling types can be cavalier with emotional data
    • Some differences between Authenticy (Fi) and Harmony (Fe)
  • How emotions motivate thinkers.
  • How we’re wired to be intrinsically rewarded for using our preferred functions.
  • What does it look like when a feeler has well-developed emotional intelligence?
  • What are emotional “triggers”?
  • Looking at SpongeBob SquarePants as an example of personal agency.
  • Why feelers make their best decisions based on emotional criteria – and how, ironically, they can appear less emotional when they do this.
  • Some thoughts on the intellectualization of emotions.
  • Why we need to process feelings of guilt and shame.

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  • Anne-Sofie
    • Anne-Sofie
    • July 10, 2021 at 9:45 am

    Our oure emotions are crucial for our survival. Asuming that a person hasn’t been severely traumatized, that persons emotions will tell them when their boundaries are overstepped, when something is dangerous, what their needs are (irritation and sadness when their need aren’t met), etc. In their purest form emotions are vital data. If we ignore them, we will get traumas/die. So the art is to know when to act on them and when not to (because we as humans don’t exist in our purest form/in the way we were designed (evolved I mean)).

    And socitey has always been run on feelings; it’s the heart of all religion, dictatorstates, monarchy. The present is always more aware of feeling being present in their time because it is very hard to convey feelings through history books and facts and dates. You can say that these times are more dominated by fear than the past 3 decades (if that is even true).

  • William (ISFJ)
    • William (ISFJ)
    • July 9, 2021 at 10:02 pm

    I totally agree with your last sentence there, and they did say something along those lines in the podcast.

    I think the term “feeling deeply” has to do with the intensity of what you feel as well as your awareness of the complexities of the feelings. Since an Fi user is spending a lot of time with their inner emotions, they tend to be pretty good at identifying many more little nuances to their emotions.

    Antonia and Joel mentioned something along these lines when Antonia (a Ti-auxiliary) said she sometimes will feel something and have no idea what it is she’s feeling, so she’ll go over to Joel (an Fi-auxiliary) to help her sort out those emotions. As an Fi user, one would probably be very proficient in determining the nature of those emotions; thus you might say that they’re “feeling it more deeply.”

  • Seluxes
    • Seluxes
    • July 6, 2021 at 6:54 pm

    Good episode but I was hoping for more push back from Joel (or other Feelers) but the bit around the 33 minute mark was, well, it? Even as a Thinker, I think it’s a bit unfair that the onus is on Feelers to always be on their best behavior and authentic, but also don’t wear a Thinker mask even when working with Thinker systems because it’s not your growth path… I mean, it’s sounds a bit of a mess from my end, but perhaps the advice makes sense to Feelers.

    I struggle enough with my own EQ so I’ll stick to my side of the street on this, but I would like to hear from Feelers and possibly emotional Thinkers (I am one when stressed as a few of us probably are—the Se grip struggle is real).

  • Margaret Newcombe
    • Margaret Newcombe
    • July 9, 2021 at 12:52 am

    As an over 70s INFP …childhood had nothing but negatives regarding my type.where I grew up in the culture of thinkers from Rome, so at my age I admit I am emotionally lacking in intelligence to the extreme. .My old books on type told me 30 years ago about INFP as true Joan of arc types who lead with absolute conviction and are willing to lay down their lives for what or who they believe in. I feel so strongly about injustice right now . Living in the countryside , on a desert island or with a screaming room might save me from myself.. the need to release deep anger at what is going on in the world right now, the lack of truth and governmental authenticity and hatred of God ……what can I say…. Jesus wept….and still weeps.

  • Rowena
    • Rowena
    • July 6, 2021 at 4:15 pm

    What Antonia says about emotions being an intolerable distraction for Thinkers when trying to make a decision is spot on. Keeping them at arm’s length is the only way. Joel is correct about society’s current over-emphasis on feeling in an irrational sense.

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