PHQ | QUESTIONS: Cognitive Function Exercises

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  • G.M.
  • July 23, 2015 at 3:35 pm

  Yes, Joel is AWESOME! Robin Williams is great too (so sorry he’s gone), it’s just that I thought in order to be typed as ENFP, I should be closer to his level of “hyperactivity”. Of course, I neglected to consider that he was a professional comedian and actor, and that his public face would most likely be different than his private…duh:p.

  It will definitely take some time for me to accept this conclusion about my type. Damn this perpetual uncertainty! Getting your feedback helps though:o).

  Anyway, Charis, I could give you a ol’ big hug! You’ve been amazing!

  G.M.

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  • Charis Branson
  • July 22, 2015 at 1:26 am

  Hey G.M.! Okay. After this message I am inclined to agree with you. You definitely sound like an ENFP! Authenticity is the one function that can mirror a lot of other functions (I read that somewhere on here. Can’t remember where :/ ) Also, I have been around other ENFPs that do exactly what you described – act like a kid, enthusiastically engage with total strangers, give cashiers (or drive-thru people) a hard time, physically expressive, etc.

  If you don’t like thinking of Robin Williams as an ENFP, think of Joel. He’s an ENFP, and it sounds like you and he would have a lot in common. ;)

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  • G.M.
  • July 21, 2015 at 6:49 pm

  Charis, thank you again for all of your help. I really appreciate it. I took your advice and delved a bit deeper into INTJ, ENTJ, and ENFJ, but those were not a fit either.

  The only thing in which I have 100% confidence is that I am an NF.

  To be frank, when I first began my study of MBTI, I typed as INFJ. But I think when I began to study MBTI, I was in a very stressed state of mind.

  I started studying MBTI and Jung, because I got tired of relationship misunderstandings. I tend to outwardly be a happy-go-lucky type of person, and inwardly, I know that being in a positive state of mind is very important to me.

  With people I’m just meeting, I can be very chipper, enthusiastic, I give compliments freely, I love to see people smile. I do this daily, with pretty much anyone I meet, cashiers in particular can be fun, seeing if I can turn a scowl into a smile by giving them a nice compliment.

  People who get to know me a bit better seem to enjoy this in me as well. I’ve been told by many that they love my “right-brained” attitude. Ok, so score!

  Problems arise, however, when inevitably, the person who enjoyed my “right-brained” attitude begins to treat me condescendingly, or when they get to know me better and find That I’m more free about expressing my true feelings on certain topics, and if I disagree with them that I’m not willing to be so happy go lucky as it pertains to that issue.

  Their reaction, of course and understandably, is a feeling of dismay – that who they thought they knew is a lie. The thing is, I am the same person, I love to try to keep a positive attitude, I am silly, I love to crawl around on the floor and act like a kid, play loud music and dance like no ones watching :p…ha! I could careless if they are watching. On the flipside of that coin, I resent that just because I can be so free that somehow that makes me some kind of an unknowing ditz.

  This happened to me enough that I felt I needed to prove to myself that I’m mature and intelligent, and just as capable of being serious as anyone else. So, I shut people out and began to consume as much information as I could on personality types, and in this process tested as INFJ. Initially, INFJ fit well, but I kept having doubts. I then found that I kept jumping through the other intuitive types as well. Every time I found one I thought fit, it would stick for maybe a day, then I’d find myself doubting my accuracy again, and move on to another type. Now that I think of it, it’s almost as if the constant searching is the most entertaining part of this process.

  I avoided ENFP because when I thought of ENFP’s, I thought of Robin Williams, but never considered any other archetypes. But now that I’ve watched a few YouTube videos on ENFP’s, it keeps coming back to me as a real possibility, at least more than any other type I’ve found on this journey.

  Also, authenticity is very important to me, whereas for some reason I can’t seem to fully grasp Harmony. If someone were to say, be “authentic”, I know exactly what that means to me. If someone were to say, “try to get everyone’s needs met”, I know I would ask, “Well, how am I supposed to do that?”

  Ok, so I’ve rambled enough, sorry about that. Not sure why, but I get the feeling as soon as I hit send, I’m going to want to take my guess of ENFP back, but so far, of all the types, (at this point in time, LOL)it does seem to fit.xD

  Thanks again, Charis!

  G.M.

  P.S. Regarding the Se and eating, I have to admit, for some reason even though I do like to get something to eat when I’m stressed, I tend to always eat the same things, not sure if this is Si or if I’m just boring as…:p

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  • Charis Branson
  • July 16, 2015 at 9:29 pm

  Ok, so you’re comment about using self-gratification to cover over stress really resonated with me. I do the exact same thing. “I’m stressed. Let’s Eat!” “I wanna celebrate! Let’s Eat!”

  I am an INFJ with Extraverted Sensing in my inferior position, behind the driver. You said you looked into INFJ and it didn’t resonate. Have you explored INTJ? Here’s a really good article describing that type: http://www.personalityhacker.com/intj-personality-type/

  ENTJs and ENFJs have extraverted sensing in a tertiary position behind their copilot. Here are the Starter Kit purchase pages for both. Read the highlights and watch the youtube videos and see if either one of them fits.

  http://www.personalityhacker.com/home-alternate/effper0980gtntnhtnhrc0988auoeu1234353245ieuoieop/

  http://www.personalityhacker.com/home-alternate/harper0989crhtnhaeu9f7gcdh32498fgcdhbrcaoeuhtn0/

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  • G.M.
  • July 15, 2015 at 6:59 pm

  Well, sadly it does not really resonate. The idea of being so in touch with my feelings is quite mystifying.

  Though, in most cases, I believe, I know how I feel, I often seek outside assistance with my feelings to be certain that they actually “make sense”. For example, “I’m feeling this way about x,y,z does this make sense to you or am I overreacting?”. “Self-punishment” is also very foreign, I’m more inclined to toward gratification in order to cover up my worries about something – “I’ve just had a lousy day, don’t like myself today. Hey, let’s have something good to eat tonight.”

  I very much want to be understood, and believe people can understand if I clarify enough.

  Lastly,I’m pretty optimistic. When I’m frustrated I might lament that things won’t get done, but over all if someone comes to me with concerns, I usually try to look for the positive in their situation. If there isn’t one, I turn to the person with encouragement about their own strength to get through it. I had one lady actually get angry at me for smiling too much, she said, “Every time I see you, you have a smile on your face. Nobody is THAT happy all of the time!”. And she was right, I’m not happy ALL of the time, but I was then, so I just smiled wider. I suppose that wasn’t very charismatic.

  Charis, thank you again for all of your help. I’m going to keep trying for a while longer, but if I’m not successful, I’ll purchase the verification process discussed in the podcast.

  And come to think of it, when I was younger, I had been known to hit a wall or two, and once kicked a large hole in our apartment wall out of anger. Needless to say, management was not thrilled. Ha! I completely forgot about that :p