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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.
In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:
- This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
- We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
- INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
- 2 important components to understand INFJs:
- Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
- INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?” This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
- INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
- The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding. The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
- It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
- INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
- INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
- Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
- Jesus of Nazareth, Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
- INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
- If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
- You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
- Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
- When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself. Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
- Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it. This will help you get other’s needs met.
- Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
- You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions. Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
- Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.
Helpful resources for the INFJ personality type:
Developing Your INFJ Personality Type (by Donna Dunning)
The INFJ Personality Type (by Dr. A.J. Drenth)
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First of all, I’m so appreciate that you did this podcast. It really means a lot that you two took the time to understand, in depth, the INFJ type (I am an INFJ myself). I’ve always had a hard time putting into words the way I can “feel” another person’s feelings — like, literally feel them. You guys hit the nail on the head. Especially when you spoke of our need to help others help themselves. I get great pleasure out of doing this. There’s just something beautiful about seeing another person improve, whether it’s physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. With that being said, I have a tendency to take it overboard and let it take time away from other parts of my life (but helping people is what’s it’s all about, right?) I also loved the Perspective concept you guys brought up. It’s the first time I’ve ever heard it, but it makes sense. My friends and family are in awe — and sometimes weirded out — that I’m able to look at a situation from many different perspectives. I think they get weirded out sometimes because to them, I come off a little apathetic. I understand why they would feel this way, though. I like to look at things long-term, and here are some of my favorite ways of doing that: financially, relationally, and growth-oriented. Again, thank you guys. I’m looking forward to more podcasts.
Hey Ronald,
Are you from Quebec – Montreal?
Oh, that’s awesome! That is EXACTLY what we love to hear! Opening lines of communication (in relationships that were strained) from greater understanding makes us feel warm and squishy inside. Thanks for sharing!
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I’ve been sharing this with my brother and two sisters that I haven’t spoken to in a while. It had been very helpful. I am so grateful to you. The lines of communication are slowly opening.
They didn’t believe me, they thought I was weird. They are now understanding. Thank you ☺
I loved this podcast. it was shown to me by an INFJ friend of mine & I showed it to my mother who is an INFJ & I think it gave her some insight into herself (not that she doesn’t know herself too well). Im glad that you guys came together and made this.
I was wondering if you guys could do an advice podcast for INFP’s?