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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk with Jenn Granneman of IntrovertDear.com about introvert problems and some of the unique struggles they face.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- We live in the most over-communicated time period in history.
- There are challenges introverts face.
- Introverts are unready for conversations because they need to gather their thoughts first.
- Introverts need to get alone time and recharge after socializing for too long.
- Introvert, Dear – is a community and blog for introverts and highly sensitive people.
- What’s the science behind why introverts feel challenges? What are the challenges introverts are experiencing and what’s the science behind those challenges?
- Word retrieval. Happens when you’re looking for just the right word to communicate your thoughts. Introverts tend to use long-term memory and (using a longer pathway to their brain than extroverts do). Extroverts rely more on working memory (short-term memory).
- Give yourself permission to collect your thoughts, relax and try to make yourself feel as comfortable as you can (even let you mind wander in the moment).
- In general, Introverts don’t feel understood by the people around them. There’s a real need for introverts to be understood.
- A lot of Introverts carry an emotional baggage.
- Alone time for introverts – how helpful and necessary is alone time for introverts? Alone time gives introverts the energy to face the outside again.
- Getting enough extraverted time – Have a good balance of alone time and extraverted time, making sure that you don’t shut yourself away from the outside world.
- Take ownership of your needs. Set proper expectations with the people who you know.
- It may be challenging especially if there are a lot of people who rely on your presence but remember that before you can help other, you need to help yourself first and attend to your needs.
- All introverts need something slightly different. The more resistance you get from the outside world, the more you need to fight for your right to do that.
- Checkout out Introvert, Dear’s Facebook group and website.
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Oh man! classic extroverted and introverted discussion (Antonia you can talk!! lol) and then Jenn with the exact right words and the exact amount of words :-) As an INFJ I loved this podcast and one of my favourite so far as I could so relate to it. It’s interesting what ‘Arabella’ says above. One of my friends is an INFP and doesn’t have much of a process time. I thought it might be that I am Gen X and she is Gen Y but it seems like it may be an INFP thing? Is it a ‘J’ thing? I find introverted SPs don’t seem to have this long processing or the ISTJs but ISFJs seem to as well?
Had to share this quote from Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice “We are each of an unsocial, taciturn disposition, unwilling to speak, unless we expect to say something that will amaze the whole room, and be handed down to posterity with all the eclat of a proverb.” I so feel that if I am answering someone’s question I need to ‘amaze the whole room’ and totally come up with the best answer possible based on every bit of knowledge and feeling and intuition – not so that someone would think ‘wow, she is so amazing’ but ‘wow, what she said is so amazing and has fully answered my question and the whole world needs to hear this and now I feel inspired to conquer the world’. :-)
Hi guys, this podcast episode was particuarly interesting to me as an introvert. I could really see myself in a lot of what was said. However, one thing confuses me and I’d like to hear your opinions about it. I identify as an introvert, and more specifically an INFP, and as mentioned, I can relate to almost all of the introvert “markers”. But one of them does not resonate at all with me and that’s needing to think for a few seconds before I speak. I don’t think I’ve ever really experienced this over the 40 plus years of my life. In fact my way of speaking, at least in situations where I feel comfortable, shows all the markers of an extrovert. What I mean is that I think as I talk and in fact, I usually think best and come up with my most lucid and well-composed thoughts in this way. And, given the right situation and right company, I can talk for literally hours without feeling drained. (The reverse is also true: I become silent in the “wrong” situation or company.)
I don’t seem to be the only introvert who experiences this either. I’ve had contact with many INFPs and a fair few INTPs who also act this way. So I’m wondering whether Ne is the factor that influences this? Maybe Ne users are more inclined to think as they talk whereas Ni users talk after thinking? Also, INFPs are often mistaken for extroverts, probably more often than INTPs so I’m also wondering whether our Te could also play a part in this? I’ve heard a lot of INFPs say that they think out loud and even talk to themselves, and we seem to be a pretty outwardly verbal bunch. I guess what I’m saying is that maybe there’s a scale in terms of the gap between thinking and talking, with maybe INFJs with their double whammy of Ni and Ti at one end of the scale and INFPs with Ne and Te at the other? You’ll notice that I’m only talking about intuitives, the reason being that I don’t have enough experience with sensors to come up with any theories. But it would be interesting to see whether there’s a similar pattern!
Hope this makes some kind of sense!