Podcast - Episode 0303 - Personal Lessons From INFP and INFJ Interviews

In this podcast you’ll find:

• Empowered: INFPs and INFJs
• Interview series – 6 high performing INs
• Top 10 challenges INFs report:
  • Finding purpose
  • Establishing boundaries
  • Overcoming indecision
  • Feeling judged
  • Simultaneously desiring and fearing intimacy
  • Time management
  • Lacking assertiveness
  • Lacking motivation
  • Anxiety
  • Making money
• Core emotion to all interviews was anger
• Anger tied to permission
• “Anger helped me give myself permission to create the boundaries to confront the people, set up the circumstances, achieve the goals, etc.”
• Sadness often under-pins the anger.
• But sadness isn’t as motivating as anger.
• Anger is the catalyst
• Anger can help us defend ourselves.
• “Anger is just energy. Once you recognize that, you can use it to put you on your path.”
• All emotions serve us in some capacity.
• Understand why it’s there, what it needs, and how you can use it.
• “Forgiveness is a process that begins with anger.”
• Anger is how you can find yourself on the map.
• Anger is closer to a tool than a weapon.
• It has some legitimate applications.
• Anger is the one time when some people shut off the perpetual deference to other’s interests and start expressing their own.
• Nobody should stay in anger. It is a tool for a short time.
• Each council member found patience and forgiveness for themselves.
• When it comes to spiritual/soul hygiene, there is one thing that never changes: eat your vegetables.
• Vegetables: Presence work. Mindfulness.
• Don’t let the world rush you. Be patient. Trust yourself.
• Be present with you.
• Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
• Presence gives you the ability to let go of energy-hogging experiences like self-criticism and perfectionism.
• Dharma: Purpose
• Presence cuts you slack in some ways and not at all in other ways if it applies to your purpose.
• You don’t roll over and give up.
• The voice inside that beats you up when you aren’t doing what you’re supposed to.
• Self-discipline vs. self-criticism
• Annie Lalla talks about creating a life that will attract the love of your life.
• It’s premature to have love until you have self-love.
• “Never make the past wrong.”
• Stop beating yourself up for past sins.
• Find joy in the little things.
• See these things as expressions of love from strangers.
• Every time someone does something for you, see it as a loving expression
• Focus on the positive things.
• Don’t focus on the negative things that happen to you.
• Even arguing with your loved one can be an expression of love if it is for the benefit of the relationship.
• Amplify the small beautiful things.
• Fall in love with your life!
• Who am I to be living this amazing life? I must be a fantastic person!
• If you love life and love yourself you will become magnetic to others with the same vibration.
• Magnify the mundane.
• Betsy Garmon (INFJ) “Self-care is about self-knowledge.”
• Know yourself and become intimate with your boundaries and needs.
• Boundary setting is self-care.
• Daniel Karan: Self-care is about the emergent.
• If Daniel has something he doesn’t want to do, he knows when he has done proper self-care because he has the resources to do it anyway.
• Plenty of sleep, nutrient-dense foods, getting to the gym, getting plenty of expressions of his love language, massage, etc.
• Introspection. Understanding the things you need.
• Give yourself quarter by preparing for the world and caring for your needs.
• What have I been ignoring in my life? Sleep? Water? Exercise?
• INFs have redefined self-care for themselves.
• Daniel Karan talked about the importance of trusting yourself.
• “Why would we not trust ourselves?
• We use the same criteria to trust ourselves as we do a friend or family member.
• How long would you trust someone who lies or isn’t reliable?
• We promise ourselves all sorts of things , then we don’t come through. “I’m going to get in shape.”
• “I’m going to eat better.”
• “I’m going to spend more time with someone.”
• We disappoint ourselves, so we don’t trust ourselves.
• If you are feeling a lack of trust for yourself, what minuscule things are you doing to undermine that trust?
• It’s about your relationship with yourself.
• If you find a high performer, ask them a few questions about the things they’ve learned in their life.
• Not everybody’s journey is one of insight and paradigm shifts, so make sure they’re high performers.
• Become the best version of yourself.
• What have you learned from people who are a different type?
• Empowered: INFPs and INFJs