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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk with guest host Christian Rivera about using your 6th cognitive function in your stack to break a loop. This episode (Part 4) covers the INFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, and ENFP personality types.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- Joel, Antonia & Christian Rivera from DOPEamine finish sharing hacks for ISFJs, INFJs, ESFPs, and ENFPs to break loops.
- Tune into the first 3 podcasts of this series to get the best out of this episode (links to: Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3).
- The ins and outs of a cognitive function loop.
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Overcoming loops for IxFJs:
- When your Introverted Thinking (Tertiary) bypasses your Extraverted Feeling (Auxiliary).
- Why detachment and criticism can take you over.
- What your Introverted Feeling (6th function) does for your compassion.
- The exercises that help you feel deeper than ever before.
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Hacks for ExFPs to break a loop:
- Knowing when you’re stuck in a loop.
- How your Extraverted Thinking (Tertiary) overshadows your Introverted Feeling (Auxiliary).
- Why you use manipulations while in a loop.
- How using your Extraverted Feeling (6th function) gets you closer to internal alignment.
- The relationship exercises you can do to kickstart your Feeling functions.
- Wrapping the series up. How each episode focused on particular needs:
- Ready for more from your 6th function? What’s next to develop it for more growth.
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Love your show, lots to think about. Please do more shows on the loop hack, your the only ones that have addressed this issue and attempted to find ways to help. I am a 57INFJ raised by a Narc. and have gotten stuck in loops since being a teen. Funny how loop hits me so hard since connect back to humanity is your hack to get out and the humanity I had to connect back too was so undesirable making my mind very cautious and resistant to reconnecting. The loop is a awful place to be and any help is so greatly appreciated.
Weird question: is there any tendency for people to change personality after having kids? Specifically from Fi and Ti to Fe and Te… Fe and Te in my experience of society are considered to be the grown-up cognitive functions that get things done and care for a family. I was thinking that if personalities ever do shift, this would be a major life event that could cause it to do so.
I would have appreciated hearing some specific examples of the technique so I could getter a better grasp of it.
Im puzzled by this podcast. From my observations, the main problem of the IxFJs is not that we are too critical of people. Rather, when not developed, we are the worst doormats/“cult members” of all. An enfp friend of mine helped me see how my overly pleasing, understanding and overfunctioning for others was actually enabling them to perpetuate their negative behavior. I would say that the virtue of a healthy ixfj is actually to dare to call out the BS of individuals or organizations, instead of going to far to be liked and keep the group harmony. And yes that involves connecting to our Fi. PLUS a well developed Ti which can differentiate truth from distorted group think :)
As an ENFP, I interestingly think I might have subconsciously used Fe for quite awhile to unlock Fi. For context, I spent my formative years basically surrounded by people on the Fe/Ti axis. Thinking of the four friends I arguably spent the most time with growing up, their types are most likely ISFJ, INFJ, ISFJ, and ESFJ (I’m all but certain of 3 of the 4 who I’m still in regular contact with. I drifted away from one of the ISFJs when we were in middle school, but my memories strongly give me the impression of a young ISFJ).
On top of that my mom is an ESFJ. And, even though they’re not FJs, my dad and an aunt who I absolutely adored are an ISTP and an ESTP respectively. My favorite grandparent is also most likely an ESTP. So, I was much more familiar with Fe than Fi from a young age. I actually thought I was an INFJ at first, partly due to having absorbed many of the Fe values and actions of those that surrounded me.
So, while I have the typical 6th function aversion to Fe at times, I feel like it’s lessened quite a bit. There’s moments where I just have to go seek the company of my FP friends. I have also seen plenty of Fe and Fi conflicts in my life. I’m fairly certain that a significant percentage of my ESFJ mom’s problem with her mom (likely an ISFP or an ESFP) boil down to an unconscious Fe vs. Fi tension that partially prevented them from ever establishing a meaningful connection.
Being in Fe is definitely unnatural for me, but I think as a result of spending so much time surrounded by FJs (and to an extent TPs) that my personal expression of Fi has adopted some Fe adjacent principles in a weird sense.
And those Fe-related principles definitely help stop me from Te steamrolling everyone around me. Though I find my personal flavor of steamrolling is “make people change direction at all costs.” This can involve subtly directing the topic to another (which I have a knack for due to Ne, and isn’t a completely destructive tendency). Or, at my worst, it means completely violating whatever social code is in place either by outright insults or insinuating something about a person that goes against their core identity. One memorable example of this is when, at a gathering of family friends, I insinuated that religious individuals must not be Christians anymore if they don’t support trans rights. That earned me a very stern lecture for my mom later. And I knew I was out of line, but the Te perspective was “Well it worked, they stopped talking about how they support trans bathroom bills.” My Fi, and by extension, my Fe, would have never done that. Even though my personal theology is very progressive, my internal authentic compass would’ve held me back.
I think of it as atmospheric manipulation. Even if I don’t get into a situation my Fi likes, my Te is satisfied because at least I stopped whatever crap was on the table. Though, I usually feel extremely bad about it later. Especially when no one calls me out on it.
Ah, the infamous ENFP “Te bitch slap,” it feels good in the moment but absolutely terrible later.