Podcast – Episode 0031 – Intuitive Blending

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In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the dangers and pitfalls of hiding your intuition and “intuitive blending” instead of standing out.

In this podcast you’ll find:

  • Intuitives are people who use advanced pattern recognition as their primary learning style.
  • Sensors value reliable information. Intuitives prefer speculation.
  • Intuitives navigate the world that’s not created for them. Because of this, their needs are not met. They can start to believe that they’re broken as if something’s wrong with them.
  • They often ask themselves, “How do I see things the way other people do?” “What is it about me?”
  • Intuitives have the tendency to know they’re different.
  • Since Intuitives are really good in pattern recognition, they don’t get the privilege of blissful ignorance.
  • Perspectives users can sometimes be a little detached by how people see them.
  • Most Intuitives pick up easily. They’re different and very aware of it. They do get this feeling that something is different inside them.
  • Because people who uses the sensory style are looking for something concrete and tangible, in their minds they have categories for everything.
  • When Intuitives start to pretend or act as sensors in order to fit in, they are now doing a process called “intuitive blending”.
  • With intuitive blending, they’re able to speak both intuitive and sensor languages. As a result, they end up denying an integral piece of who they are. Intuitive blending by definition means suppressing who you are. If an intuitive starts to blend, they have disqualified themselves from basically being understood.
  • Intuitive blending is very damaging because they are not getting their primary needs met which is Intuitive Conversation.
  • Intuitives want to make an impact regardless if it’s small or big. They want the world to give feedback that they’re doing an excellent job.
  • Intuitives have a great gift for leadership.
  • A sensor is going to make an impact based on something verifiable and tangible.
  • Intuitive Awakening Program – program specifically targeted to Intuitives which is designed to help them become the best version of themselves.
  • Only 25% of the people who are Intuitives and if they all go blending, the world stagnates.

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the dangers and pitfalls of hiding your intuition and “intuitive blending” instead of standing out. #podcast #Intuition #MBTI

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  • Anita
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    This was the most validating experience I’ve ever had. Thank you.

  • Helen
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    I have been mistyping but am feeling certain of being an ENFJ. As an intuitive my experience is that I didn’t feel like a weirdo as a child. However, surrounded by sensors, my intuitive self wasn’t nourished and therefore didn’t blossom. As an adult I am very much a ‘blender’. I think my intuition has deepened over the years, especially when I became fascinated by the enneagram ten years ago.

    I talk to my family about personality and spiritual stuff and they are quite interested but the conversation flows one way. There is little feedback or interaction about deeper aspects of life.

    I wonder if another reason we want to make an impact is because we weren’t able to impact our environment (in a meaningful way) as children and this becomes an unfulfilled need?

    Listening to your ENFJ podcast and this one have both touched me deeply. I felt quite emotional listening. Internally, it’s as if I’ve been wandering a planet of the sleeping dead and suddenly I’ve met some wonderful, kind welcoming people….the impact is powerfully moving ♥

    I am so grateful I stumbled upon your website, Thank you.

    P.S. I’m going to take a look at your Awakening and ENFJ Programs.

  • Angie
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    For me, this is the most insightful podcast I’ve heard y’all do related to my personality type. I am an INFP and I have mixed feelings about this podcast because it is painful for me to hear how difficult life is for us intuitives and how those difficulties really do wear us down. Obviously I have experienced this my entire life but hearing the detailed breakdown of why things happened the way they did in terms of failed meaningful connection with others is painful to me. I think about lost time and lost opportunities. Once I learned my type, I tried to do some of the things discussed in the podcast like “coming out of hiding” and leading the way for connection with other intuitives but it never sticks and in many ways I did get punished or dismissed (which is a terrible feeling). Maybe it’s like Antonia said and those other folks are probably still blending. Or they just didn’t care.

    I just constantly wonder what else it will take for me to be amongst non superficial people who are genuine in friendship. I’ll always show up in the world and I’ll keep forging onward, to be sure. It’s just that it would be a slight comfort if the hunger for acceptance and friendship could be in the mix somewhere. In the meantime I’ll keep trying to be the example and be out there. I find that apparently I do need this PH community to muscle through this stuff. It certainly helps me feel less solitary in the quest for meaningful friendships and connections.

    • Rebecca Hoppe
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      Hi Angie. I’m having the same feelings. I actually have stopped this podcast a couple of times to wipe away my tears that are falling down my cheeks as I sit at my kid’s hockey practice surrounded by people who are probably sensors. I’ve been in therapy for almost a year, and my therapist keeps telling me I don’t need “fixing.” I haven’t believed her until now. You are not alone. And apparently, neither am I. It’s a happy day.

      On another note, I have just hit the part in the podcast where Antonia talks about the fear of walking away from blending when you are married to a Sensor. I’m very much facing the potential cost of being true to myself. As I’ve started on this personal growth journey searching for self-actualization, I have felt more and more detached from my spouse. Hopefully this is a temporary detachment and we will be one of the success stories. If it is a good thing for me, that is.

  • Pontus Resin
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    Very insightful podcast. Like most other people I concur that I have been lost for a long time but that I am slowly but surely finding my own way back to my authentic self. Thanks a ton. I will have to listen to this every now and then to remind myself of this valuable information!

  • Robin
    Reply

    You guys ROCK!!! This is the best!!! Thank for sharing your knowledge with the world. True, true, true!

  • Shonda Folsom
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    I really appreciate your podcast and I’ve been binge listening since I found it this past month.

    I’m an INFJ, so have lots of this experience of being the only person around thinking the way my mind naturally works.

    There are 2 things I would add to the message about Intuitive Blending.

    First – there are lots of times in a sensor world that intuitive blending is necessary to make things work — not in deeply personal relationships but in the general world around. If you’re trying to talk about advanced pattern recognition with the check out person at the grocery store, things are going to go badly. I’m also a lawyer, so I have lots of professional situations where I am using intuition to solve problems, but describing them to others in sensor language to get to the win-win outcome. If I were traveling in France, I would assume that the person I run into on the street is going to speak French and would approach them in that manner unless I saw reasons to think they speak English. Similar thing for being a minority intuitive in a 75% sensor world. I think the key is to be conscious about this situation so that using intuitive blending becomes a tool that is used in service of the intuition instead of a camouflage that is based on fear.

    Second — When you talk about the intuitive starving for intuitive conversation, I think that one of the ways that intuitives feed that need if they are isolated is to absorb intuitive books and movies. I think this is one of the reasons you often see intuitives as bookworms and buried in the library or in intense fandoms around certain movies or games.

  • Hal
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    Wow. Good Podcast. This term “blending” names an experience I’ve been conscious of all my life. Now I have a word for it and I need to throw you a hearty thank you.

    “Thank You”

    2 quick points:

    1) Intuitive conversation is important but perhaps more so for intuitive Ti/Fe users. Ideas and conversation. Fi/Te users may, maaaaay, find physical problem solving, Mcgyver-ing, art, writing, musical performance, craft as a more potent dose of the sort of intuition they crave. May.

    2) I believe this desire for impact is an integral piece of the intuitive process/mechanism. The nature of intuition is around guessing/pattern seeking/jumping from idea to idea, followed by seeing if you were right or not be the results in the world. And both answers are interesting. If that second part of the intuitive process (confirmation of hypothesis?) isn’t there, intuitive speculation doesn’t get any smarter. It’d be like a scientist performing experiments without looking at the results.

  • David
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    Sheldon Cooper is definitely not an Intuition type. Notice how he loves talking about interesting factoids way more than he does about abstract topics. Since he was a theoretical physicist, I thought he was an Intuition type initially too.

    He appears to have a social disorder such as Asperger, which makes him struggle mightily at reading other’s very basic social cues. It is true that he does get somewhat of a pass for his odd behavior, but the behavior is due to his social disorder and not Intuition. Raj and Leonard are very strong Intuition types so if Sheldon was an Intuition it wouldn’t be an issue.

  • Dana
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    The idea of intuitive blending definitely resonates when I consider my adolescent years and my early career. Even the people I sort of “fit in” with as a teen didn’t really understand me, resulting in MANY one-sided relationships. I’ve only maintained a handful of friendships from those years. In contrast, my current partner and most of my close friends are people I met in college and a few members of my extended family.
    Thanks for bringing this discussion forward to a public audience!

    • Charis Branson
      Reply

      Thanks for your feedback, Dana! I think we could all be blamed for a little bit of “blending” during our formative adolescence. 😉

  • Allyse
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    I’m just very fortunate that while I was raised by an ISTP father and an ISFJ mother they were so very good about letting all their children be. Two sisters. Oldest ISFP, Middle INFP, me – ENFJ and my brother ENFP. I thank goodness everyday that they didn’t try to make any of us anything other than ourselves. Good people…but within who we were. I always felt special and loved.

  • Serina
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    I am an INFJ and my parents are ESTP and ISTJ. My parents also took me to a therapist and blamed me for our toxic relationship. I totally agree with you that this groomed me for one-sided relationships in my early friendships and caused me to hide myself from others. It has taken years of working on myself, and some major wake up calls to get to the place of balance that I am now. Thanks for covering this topic. I agree with Andrea, it is very important, especially for young intuitives to understand in order to live an authentic and meaningful life.

    • Antonia Dodge
      Reply

      Thanks for the feedback! It’s our hope that no one has to experience what you’re describing.

      -A-

  • Andrea
    Reply

    This is a really important podcast…I highly recommend using the tools that Antonia and Joel mention. I spent so much time as a kid and teenager trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Finally, I was able to discover that I was different for a reason,and that it’s OK to get my needs met! I found Intuitive Awakening to be so helpful. Thank you for reminding me again to be myself. I’ve also found that by honoring my own intuitive personality, I am able to recognize other intuitives, help them feel safe, and encourage them to shine. And that feels amazing. If you, person reading this comment, are an intuitive, I cannot recommend Personality Hacker enough. Check out the podcasts, take the quiz, and if possible, participate in some of the programs that they call “products”. May you find joy in fully being who you are!!

    • Joel Mark Witt
      Reply

      Thanks Andrea for your comment. It’s so exciting when Intuitives embrace their authentic selves.

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