Podcast – Episode 0281 – Why The World Needs Extraverted Feeling

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia become advocates for the cognitive function of Extraverted Feeling (“Harmony”) and talk about why we need it in our world.

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 In this episode Joel and Antonia become advocates for the cognitive function of Extraverted Feeling ("Harmony") and talk about why we need it in our world. #MBTI #INFJ #ENFJ #ISFJ #ESFJ

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  • Ninie
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    Thank you so much Joel and Antonia!!. I really related to the metaphor about a medic having to reset a bone to mend a break. Causing discomfort can make an Harmony user visible in a negative way, and we don’t always get appreciation for the healing. After all, much of the healing is nature taking its course and helping healing is not usually as noticeable as giving pleasure and generating fun.

    I wonder if Harmony is equally focused on the internal conflicts that exist within a person as within a group or society. Even when I am approaching an individual I ask myself ‘what gets everyone needs met?’ but the ‘everyone’ is the different aspects/functions/roles/focus of the individual person. I also wonder it this is my enneagram 6 coming out.

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  • Danielle
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    Fe never ceases to amaze me personally. My mom and some of my dearest friends who I’ve known for years are all FJs.

    I do agree that Fe and Fi can sometimes clash and come into conflict. Though I think it varies from person to person. Since I’ve had heavy and overwhelmingly positive Fe influence around me my entire life from my ESFJ mother (and some added influence from my Dad who has it as his inferior), I think I sort of “get” Fe better than Fi users with less experience around Fe. I find in turn some FJs gel really well with Fi while others seem repelled by it. For, dominant Fe types especially, it tends to be a hit and miss. Then again, I think some SFJs might be uncomfortable with Ne, so maybe it’s not just Fi.

    And I agree that healthy, well-developed Fe is usually the easiest to take for granted. And I’ve seen Fe users who don’t know how to be assertive get trampled over by people taking advantage of their Fe.

    It’s sad though that the unhealthy aspects of Fe tend to get focused on more. Albeit, some of these are important to discuss like how some FJs will tend towards completely neglecting their own needs while trying to fulfill everybody else’s needs. This leads to burnout and should be identified before the person actually feels burnt out.

  • Rebecca Mielke
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    ENFJ here. Thank you for this podcast! I live in what feels like an Fe desert, surrounded by NFPs and STJs, and this gave me understanding to come up with strategy to address emerging exhaustion and language to use in talking it thru with my one ENFJ friend.
    Lol, don’t take this bad, but I also realized that as much as I love your material, which I find super helpful, I just could not listen to you at all if it weren’t for Antonia representing for Ti-Fe, and maybe not even then if I were younger and/or not as connected to my own Ti.
    Anyway, thank you so much for valuing and validating the emotional labor we put into the world!

  • Dana S.
    Reply

    Charis — excellent advice.

    Antonia — as someone who uses a bit of swearing in my own life, I am biased but honest when I say I get where you are coming from. I also have very dear friends who have eliminated obscenities from their vocabulary, and I respect that.

    However, I think there can sometimes be a tendency for censoring to serve as a form of virtue signaling. If that’s the case, I think there is merit in the idea that censoring may not actually honor Harmony to its fullest in the long run, IMO.

  • Drew
    Reply

    Awesome episode — made me proud of my co-pilot!

    Joel’s comment about the origins of Fe reminded me of one of my favorite anthropological discoveries, Shanidar 1. This was a skeleton of an old Neanderthal (~40+ years old) who had sustained multiple disabling injuries early in life. He was at least partially blind and deaf, and did not have the use of at least one limb. And yet he exceeded his life expectancy due to the care of the tribe.

    Of course I know pretty much nothing about the cognition of prehistoric peoples, and I’m fairly certain that ‘love’ as a concept wouldn’t show up for tens of thousands of years, but it’s apparent that reciprocity in care is as old as, if not older than, humans themselves. (Take that, Social Darwinists!)

    source: https://source.wustl.edu/2017/10/shanidar/

  • H. C
    Reply

    Thanks Charis. It’s a tall order lol. But I guess that’s why it’s called work.

  • Denzel Mensah
    Reply

    “When Harmony (Fe) is at its best, you almost don’t see it. So when people think they don’t like it, it’s often because they have benefitted from it silently; in ways they can’t articulate. So all they see is the times they don’t* like it.”-Antonia Dodge

    This was marvelous. I think every function gets flack and is misunderstood to an extent, but as an ENFJ, I’m just very happy to have heard defense about my dominant function because far too often I do hear the negative about it and how much it is hated, when I feel like the good it does exponentially outweighs but no one sees it. Anyway, yeah. Thank you for this great podcast and series.

  • H. C
    Reply

    Not gonna lie, I think my Fe was triggered in this video when you talked about cursing. I actually got pretty angry. It’s strange because I don’t think the cursing is what offended my sensibilities but to myself I thought, “They created a whole model to simplify cognitive functions for the general public. They refer other podcasts and are willing to explain cognitive functions for the sake of new listeners but they don’t want to censor themselves for the sake of reaching a broader audience???”

    Now I’m not saying this to make any evaluation of your decision but to highlight how the thought that someone out there might be excluded from the podcast because of this issue really bothered me. And as an Fe user it’s sooooo obvious for me that you should just leave out any expletives.

    Another interesting thing that came up for me was how we Fe users should engage Ti in vetting the quality of the information we disseminate. That’s huge because if Ti is in one’s lower stack one may possibly undervalue it but one has it for a reason. Even though one may not use it to the degree that Ti doms and auxs use it.

    I once politely let a friend know (privately) that a social media post (meme) they had shared was a potentially misleading depiction of the source material in that it left out a huge disclaimer. I don’t think it was taken very well. And I questioned whether it was an oversight on my part, that In pointing that out, I was showing that I didn’t think highly of people’s ability to think further or grasp nuance. Although to be honest I don’t think even the individual who made the post did as his subsequent posts were just as reckless.

    As someone who doesn’t use Ti in the upper stack, how can we ensure that we are vetting correctly. Sometimes it feels like it’s not my place to correct things or that I’m making an oversight. But it really bothers me when I see people who I know sharing only soundbites. It bothers me that people might get the wrong picture.

    • Charis Branson
      Reply

      As an INFJ myself, I would recommend you let people be who they want to be. You can’t control anyone but yourself, nor should you try. If someone wants to swear, let them swear. If someone wants to post something you don’t think is 100% accurate, let them. Each person is on their own journey. We aren’t the police of the world. We can’t force people to see things our way. Work on yourself. Work on letting things go and let people have the experience they need to have to learn the lessons in the way they need to learn them.

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