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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.
In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:
- This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
- We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
- INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
- 2 important components to understand INFJs:
- Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
- INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?” This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
- INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
- The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding. The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
- It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
- INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
- INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
- Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
- Jesus of Nazareth, Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
- INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
- If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
- You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
- Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
- When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself. Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
- Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it. This will help you get other’s needs met.
- Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
- You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions. Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
- Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.
Helpful resources for the INFJ personality type:
Developing Your INFJ Personality Type (by Donna Dunning)
The INFJ Personality Type (by Dr. A.J. Drenth)
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Thank you so much for taking the time to study and understand us INFJs :)
Many thanks to you for the warm welcome! INFJ is both a blessing and a curse. Blessing for the wonderful people who’ve come into my life, (and mostly blessings in the midst of curse) the not so wonderful folks who’ve come into my life who’ve taught me life lessons. Hopefully others will learn from my experience— maybe they’re trapped in toxic relationships where they thought they were in love, but have only absorbed the other person’s feelings. Part of me knows it would have turned violent and emotionally abusive had I not ended it and actually relocated — it got ugly and manipulative when I asserted my needs and set some boundaries. He didn’t like the real me; he was in love with his idea of me. Never knew what that meant until this experience. I know I’ll definitely be more cautious in the future. It all seems like a strange dream now. I do feel happy that I was able to see what was happening so quickly, and several times a week (I try not to dwell on it other than to analyse the dynamics to learn from) I just go: “Phew!! That was close!” :D
Bryan Wilson , you comment blew my mind away. I don’t have time to go into details but you are a true word smith with getting you point across.
I am extremely thankful for this podcast it deeply energizes my enthusiasm about life and emotionally sooths my soul(Tears). I listened to it in the past but am reviewing it today after maturing my ability to control my emotional boundaries and seeing more clearly my mission in life. Which is to become a man that delivers hope, love and joy tangibly making the complex simple to entire cultures, ecosystems and societies world wide to help all achieve their own dreams more easily and quickly, thus creating a legacy that forever changes the world. (I can’t almost believe that those words just poured out of my heart like that…but I will do this or die in the process) Thank you for fueling this INFJ fire you may never know I truly appreciative I am. God bless personality Hackers-
Thanks Michael.
We are working on some of these compatible type ideas. Of course there are courses to teach, customer service emails, videos to shoot etc. So we may take a little while to get to all of them…
But we are working on it.
Thanks for being a part of the Personality Hacker community here. Stay tuned for some great stuff about types that are great matches.