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In this episode, Joel and Antonia continue talking about the 3-Year-Old inferior cognitive function for each of the 16 personality types (part 2).


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  • Lisa

    I’m an INFJ with Se 3 yo. In my early-mid twenties, I was very focused on my health and weight. I was overweight until that point, but became obsessed to the point that some were concerned it was becoming a disorder since I had lost so much weight and I was so focused on my health. I suspect I was in an Se grip and and not really integrating my Se. In my late twenties I began the parenting journey through foster care. The last 10 years have been traumatic ones as a result and now I really struggle with caring for my body. I just don’t seem to have the motivation. Is it possible to integrate your 3 yo function, then lose it? I’m trying to find a strategy that will be motivating for me that doesn’t become an unhealthy obsession.

    Thanks for such an informative podcast!

  • Katie

    As an ENFP I listened to this podcast with great interest, because I knew Joel and Antonia as ENxPs, would hit the nail on the head for Si. I really liked what Joel said about fostering a little routine everyday. I’ve found that it has been really hard for me to keep routines, since I strongly resist being “tied down” to anything, yet when I don’t, my daily life descends into chaos. But over the years, even developing the simple habits like washing dishes right after I eat, cleaning the whole apartment once a week and doing the laundry once a week (same day every week) makes a huge difference and actually makes me more free. I’m not there yet, but I really need to establish more daily routines and systems that set things I need to do in place so I don’t actually have to think about it. 80% of my stress comes from thinking about all the shit that needs to routinely get done 😂 some of the stuff I want to do is: make a bunch of food one day a week so I don’t need to worry about all meals during the week; practice music everyday; clean my car once a week; set the coffee maker at night so it makes coffee in the morning; tidy up my desk every day; call my parents every week; go to bed earlier every night so I can get up early (this one is tough) etc etc. These things sound extremely simple and easy to do but why are they hard for an ENFP? Lol. I’d love to hear how other inferior Si users deal with rountines and organization, and see some resources for developing habits and routines! Thanks Joel and Antonia for providing this platform!!

  • Marcella

    I have recently discovered your website after many years of only having had a superficial understanding of my INFJ personality type. The information on the cognitive stack is intriguing and I am completely absorbed! I have listened to a few podcasts now out of order. After listening to this one, I just have to say you are spot on with your description of how the three year old “sensation” process, when integrated, can truly benefit the INFJ.
    I’ve had a complex relationship with my body my entire life. I intuitively understand the mind-body connection, knowing I need physical exercise for mental clarity. As a former runner, I would enter a meditative state while running that would free me from thought and allow me to face the day with more focus. I’ve discovered the benefits of yoga as I’ve gotten older. One of my favorite things about it is the permission I feel to be playful. I’m 41 years old and am doing handstands like I did in gymnastics class as a child. It’s fantastic! In the past when I would get too busy or stressed and didn’t engage in any form of exercise for several days, negative behaviors would start to emerge, mindless eating being the main one. I’d end up feeling uncomfortable in my body and unable to show up in the way the world needed me. This still happens sometimes but I’m much more aware of why it is happening and try instead to soothe myself with movement, nature, or music. Anything that will keep me feeling healthy in my body rather than sabotaging it with foods that are not good for my system.
    Thank you for this podcast. I completely recognized my 3 year old self and will give it the 5 to 10% attention it needs daily. 🙂

  • Danielle

    As an ENFP, I can definitely relate to the feeling of wanting to torch systems and start over from scratch. I know deep down it’s impractical and would end up hurting more people than it ever could help. But that inner gut reaction is still there. I suppose I have a vision, and I want to be able to implement it 100% fully now even if I’m not even sure what that vision entails.

    I personally try to foster Si by taking time to revisit something familiar. I’ll read a favorite book or watch an episode of my favorite TV show. Or I’ll try to reflect on what I could have done to make something better or the things I have consistently done right (though the latter I can’t seen to identify, I just sort of do things).

    I find that talking to and interacting with ISJs also really helps me conceptualize that Si isn’t all this uncomfortable thing. This works especially well with ISTJs (ISFJs are a bit harder as sometimes I am completely baffled by Fe-in a good way most of the time). I find the admirable parts of their personality that are connected to Si. I can then use that to see Si as something helpful by using Ne to make connections between Si and the individual’s positive qualities.

    For me, I suppose, seeing examples of strong, well-developed Si and the things Si doms have achieved or their positive qualities helps me to see the value in that part of myself.

  • Hal Goldstein

    I really appreciate and enjoy your podcasts. Through the years (I’m a 69 year old INFJ) I’ve flirted with Meyers Briggs. Getting an understanding of Cognitive Functions with your car model has really opened up things for me. Your eight names really help.

    Questions for podcasts:
    1. It could be an interesting and informative podcast if you revisited the naming process for the cognitive functions. For example, how/why did you select Memory for Si rather than say, Structure. Talking about the naming process could deepen our understanding of the 8 functions.

    2. You sort of covered this with the 3 year old inferior discussion, but perhaps you can go more deeply into opposites which are relevant for Driver/3 year old AND Co-Pilot 10 year old

    3. I think you may have touched on this in the past, but what is the relationship between the 4 functions not part of your makeup and your personality. So for example is 3 year old function stronger than a function not in makeup. (eg as an INFJ, Se vs Fi)


  • Catherine Eimer

    I’m an ISFJ, so my 3 yo is Ne (Exploration). I find ways to encourage this part of me by (don’t laugh) moving furniture and decorating for seasons/holidays. I’m starting to dip my toes into Exploration more by starting different kinds of crafting, which is kind of scary for me. What Antonia said about ISFJs wanting to nest really resonated with me, and this is how I use Exploration to personalize my home. Thanks for ideas on other ways to interact with the world too; I definitely like my comfort zone a little too much!

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