Podcast – Episode 0406 – Personality Is Who You Are NOT

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about the ways we over-identify with our personalities and strategies for the next phase of personal growth.


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  • Alex.e


    I just wanted to mention, about the ‘timeline’ aspect of growth, sometimes I like to think of it more like a spiral. To use a metaphor, instead of a nail or a simple line, thinking in terms of screws can be useful to imagine growth. As if it was moving around a circle, but always at another level. Iterative movements, maybe?

    I have been into Myers-Briggs’ functions for 1 year and I felt the progress was extremely rapid to get a hold of myself and a sense of identity. I feel like I am ready for deeper work such as shadow work, but I still will be going back to personality models with a new eye, because for one thing I cannot afford to break my personae totally once at a time (financially and socially) – and for another reason, as I will need to use personality and type to introduce others to my process and discuss about deeper stuff.

    Finally, after having listened to this podcast, I will go check out info on the HAT Model + I will rely on Jung’s model of EGO/PERSONAE/SHADOW/SELF. I have a sense those will be good tools for me to do back-and-forth movements between personality work and true self work.

    Thanks for the amazing work!

  • Rowan

    Personally I love the title of this podcast because it’s an idea I care about a lot and wish more people would realise, so as soon as I saw this title, I clicked on it.

  • Viki Lewis

    These deeper episodes about transcendence and shadow work are exactly what I have needed to hear recently, so thank you guys. Thank you for letting us in on your journeys and please keep episodes like this coming ❤️

  • Rosa

    Thank you for putting out such nuanced content about personality type and it’s use for personal growth.
    I got so envious of you being at this retreat… and of course I’m an enneagram 4. Definitely not on the same timeline but I can see the value of continuing down this road. Having you guys blazing a trail and being so transparant about it is really inspiring and motivating to me.

  • Jess

    Loved this episode! As an Enneagram 5, coming to terms with the fact that I have so much more energy than I think I do is hard and also freeing.

  • Your #1 Fan

    A reason (that is within your control) that these deeper episodes don’t do well is because your titles for them are actually really bad 😅

    I’m sorry to be so direct but there’s no other way to put it. I know Joel was really passionate about that statement “personality is who you’re not” but it is neither an accurate title for what was actually discussed; nor a particularly enticing title to click.

    It IS provocative but it provokes a person to NOT click to listen.

    I, personally, am on track with you. I have used MBTI to transcend the stereotypes of my type. It has resulted in incredible wealth for me and indescribable progress in my personal relationships (i have other tools in my toolkit btw but MBTI is a significant one).

    The Enneagram, on the other hand, has been more challenging because i always felt it told me everything wrong with me but very little about what i can do to be a better me.

    This episode was therefore EXTREMELY valuable content to me. It gave me a lot of deeper insight about how to approach the enneagram.

    But I almost didn’t open it.

    In fact, i deleted it at first but iTunes automatically downloaded it again so i *very reluctantly* pressed play. I was so pleasantly surprised by how good the episode was.

    Yet i almost missed it because of the shitty title.

    You need to do like those people making popcorn listicles as Joel called them (hilarious 😂).

    Teach us deep stuff but try to make the titles more clickable. It’ll help you reach more of us that are ready for the deeper stuff.

    At the end of the day, we’re still human beings. No matter how deep, spiritual, or evolved we are.

    Entice us human beings with your titles. And we will listen and eat the vegetables you’re serving.

    • SU

      Another option is to just assume they are all good regardless of title, listen, download them and rename the file whatever you want. Be thankful they make any.

    • SU

      You can get one of PH’s Enneagram starter kits with Beatrice Chestnut and they tell you how to actually use Enneagram for your E type. Being told the way you are by reading about Enneagram online is just step 0. The title isnt “shitty” once you know what that quote means and where it came from.

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