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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.
In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:
- This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
- We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
- INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
- 2 important components to understand INFJs:
- Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
- INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?” This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
- INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
- The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding. The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
- It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
- INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
- INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
- Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
- Jesus of Nazareth, Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
- INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
- If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
- You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
- Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
- When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself. Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
- Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it. This will help you get other’s needs met.
- Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
- You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions. Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
- Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.
Helpful resources for the INFJ personality type:
Developing Your INFJ Personality Type (by Donna Dunning)
The INFJ Personality Type (by Dr. A.J. Drenth)
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hi
i just did your test here and got Perspectives/Harmony (INFJ)
Yes its like you know me inside out…
its a pity im a poor conservationist/musician and i can barely afford to eat.
But it has all helped so much!
Thank you
c:
L*
Hi
Aww you bought me tears of joy thank so much for replying c:
For me ASMR is usually triggered by closeness of someone else; a teacher i was in love with at young age triggered it all the time. Its like their energy or aura somehow connects with mine and mine sort of celebrates. So happy to know you found something new and of interest c: Yes i have seen and listened to the youtube videos on this, i can feel it trying to be set free, actually i can feel a really deep part of me on many levels trying to come to the surface but i’m unsure how to help it. But this is all helping so much, so deeply with much respect
Thank you c:
L*
Thank you for your comment, Comet! And Bravo! for your conservation efforts. Don’t be too hard on yourself regarding your interview. As an INFJ myself, I find my perception of my own failures is usually harsher than the reality.
I had never heard of AMSR until you mentioned it. I did some research, though, and was fascinated! I always assumed everyone experienced that in one way or another. I remember looking forward to going home from school when I was a kid just so I could clean my ears out with a Q-Tip because it was so pleasurable. Lol! I get a similar sensation when I use my neti-pot. There are also whisper videos on YouTube that can bring on the head tingling sensation. Fascinating!
Thanks for introducing me to this term and giving me another rabbit hole to explore. ;)
Hi
Thank you!
Sometimes we all need help and for me often the Universe guides me to this help. I’ll try to briefly explain my situation, even though part of me wants to shy away from this notion of something special.
I work in conservation, mostly volunteering. For money i have just started a new job in disability care, which is both rewarding and super draining.
My conservation work is where i love to be, maybe because its helping all life; i’ve been told by someone who was extremely close that i have a very strong empathy towards animals, but also experience those human interaction you mention. people open up to me and tell me their secrets.
I also am now involved as trainee producer/coordinator/presenter of an environmental current affairs show on our local community radio station, when i say community it is very well known and loved station and our show is one of the oldest shows on the station. i’ve been really struggling with confidence and totally messed up an interview i did this week that i was so excited about. One of my friends, fellow activists was one of the 6 Greenpeace activists that climbed the shell oil rig, i really felt like i’d let her down…
Anyway thats a little of my story. i would so love to help the Earth more and if i do have some way of engaging some hidden talent more i would so love to find out more how i can foster and nurture this within myself.
Thank you
Peace love and respect
comet
Am looking you up on facebook now
Heres what posted on your youtube channel also>>
Hello
I discovered im INFJ recently. It kinda disturbed me, it makes 100% sense to me, but it made me feel lonely, especially as it told me there are not that many of us and that male versions even less. i then read more about this personality and the loneliness we experienced is part of it, which in turn made me feel even lonelier. I pondered if some people would be happy that their sort or rare in the way think, interestingly i didn’t feel this way. It does explain why i get many weird comments like, you have the purest heart i’ve met, you’re the kindest person i know, the world needs more of you comet. This has always made me feel uncomfortable wondering what they are seeing. I’ve always shied away from personality test, though i have read Jung; i discovered him when i did my degree in graphic design. Which by the way i only do for free now for conservation orgs as the putrid mess that is the advertising world i want no part of!
It has been good to learn about myself and understand myself more, in turn becoming gentler on myself and better at what i would hope to leave to this world. But my work for conservation groups and on the radio show that is conservation and environmentally based is very tiring at times.
So thank you so much for sharing what you know and allowing me to learn more about myself.
L*
AND
oh btw this the first time i’ve ever posted a message on youtube.
I would like to ask other INFJ’s a question.
I recently noticed things about AMSR online.
Been reluctant to ask anyone about this as i asked our drummer and he looked at me as if i’d lost it, we’’re very good friends so i tried to explain it to him and he said he’d never felt it before.
I’ve experienced this all my life, though it does feel beautiful, and sensual, but not sexual, which is exactly how its described and i agree, it disturbed me because i didn’t understand it, and i think now most of the time i subconsciously block it out.
Do any other INFJ’s experience ASMR?
Ha feel kinda scared exposing myself and fear isn’t really me
Anyway thank you c:
Wow, Lisa. Thank you for that moving comment. As an INFJ myself, I really resonated with a lot of what you said. I am so happy that you are finding a better place to live and grow. We have a very large INFJ audience here with Personality Hacker. Please feel free to enter INFJ in the search area of the website and explore as much as you like.
We have a training program for people interested in Profiling as a career. Here is a link to that program: http://www.personalityhacker.com/profilertraining/.
Thank you for being a part of the Personality Hacker family!
Be Kind To Yourself,
Charis