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INFJ-Personality-type In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.

In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:

  • This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
  • We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
  • INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
  • 2 important components to understand INFJs:
  1. Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
  2. INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?” This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
  • INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
  • The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding. The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
  • It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
  • INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
  • INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
  • Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
  • Jesus of Nazareth, Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
  • INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
  • If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
    • You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
    • Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
    • When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself. Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
    • Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it. This will help you get other’s needs met.
    • Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
    • You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions. Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
    • Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.

Helpful resources for the INFJ personality type:

Developing Your INFJ Personality Type (by Donna Dunning)

The INFJ Personality Type (by Dr. A.J. Drenth)

 

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  • Deepti
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    Hi,
    I found out I’m an INFJ two years ago. I am 21 now, soon to be 22…
    Firstly thank you for giving out as accurate perspective on the INFJ mindset as possible. The part about where you told us about the Harmony and the perspective is very accurate. Especially the part where we INFJs set up boundaries and learn about giving disapproval to others.
    This was the part I learnt the hard way. During the teenage years, it’s so difficult to accept that you’re different and not understand why you’re different. This is the point in my life where I did everything I thought I should do to get accepted but it didn’t help. There was so much disapproval because I knew something that I shouldn’t have known. That trauma there put me in a depression for two years in my high school. So after talking about it, thinking about and just about shutting myself out and not getting close to anybody allowed me to rethink my approach to people. Made me think ‘maybe I don’t need their approval and maybe they don’t need my approval either because of the way handled the situation and me.’

    That was the turning point where I started putting boundaries. So I now do everything I can to make sure the people I let in are not the bulls to my China shop.

    The thing you spoke about where the relationships we have being one sided rings true with me. I learned to cope by being by thinking they just don’t get that you might not have problems of your own. I mean everybody comes to me when they have problems. Everyone knows that. So the problem here I think is we are so good at handling other people’s emotions, they assume we’d have no problem managing own thanks to the insight we have.

    So it does feel difficult to get intimate with others.

    So about the emotions- letting them out
    – I vent about the offending comment, or the injustice that happened.

    So I start with how it’s so wrong and then slowly it goes to the part of where oh she’s not the same person as me.
    So me thinking about how that is wrong to expect the other person to behave like me, is me being idealistic. So after the realisation of me getting to the part, I go to my phone read my favorite fanfiction and that’s it that anger and offending emotions are gone. I don’t know if how I’m dealing with it is right but this how I go through it. And it works for me.

    Thanks for this. Hope I can hear from you guys.

  • Eric
    Reply

    Adding to my last comment… Yes, we will feel invalidated by many and a few of the many are doing it on purpose (gaslighting – google it if you don’t know what it is, it will change your life) to keep you questioning who you really are. Trust and believe your gut, implement healthy boundaries, and anyone who accuses you of being selfish when you start saying no is displaying a “red flag” and you may need to go no contact. The important thing is to reserve your energy for the greatest good (toxic people love when their target explains or defends themselves so stop defending or explaining yourself).

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