Podcast – Episode 0339 – The Tools: Active Love (Part 2)

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In this episode, Joel and Antonia talk about the book “The Tools” and discuss the second tool: Active Love.


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  • Marilyn Simurro

    Question: Is “Active Love” the opposite of “cord cutting”?

    • Antonia Dodge

      No, they’re two different concepts. Active love is effectively building on principled love, a feeling inside that uses generosity and sources itself from respectful love of the self. Cord cutting is a personal ceremony meant to remove the ‘invisible’ or energetic attachments we have to others that are disempowering or toxic.

      You can (ideally should) have active love for someone and cut their cord of influence.


  • Erik Bland

    Great podcast! With the current difficulties with everyone is facing, there are some messages in the world that would attempt to convert our fear or pain into hate – I appreciate the positive and inspiring message in this podcast that pushes us to be the best possible versions of ourselves.

    Aside from that, I just have one interesting observation…Joel and Antonia describe not just the outlook given by Stutz and Michels in “The Tools”, but also specific methods that the authors recommend in order to apply those methods. For the two tools discussed in episodes 338 and 339 so far, those methods seem to focus heavily on visualization.

    I find this to be interesting primarily because I don’t use visualization myself when trying to understand or control my emotional state, even though I am an INTJ, which some descriptions claim will often rely on visualizations in the form of “mind palaces” when exercising Ni. That said, I have no doubt that visualization is an effective tool, since many personal development teachers, coaches, and gurus recommend the method. But visualization is so foreign to me that I have trouble even imaging what it’s like to use it.

    But is that just me? Are there others that pursue personal growth / development but don’t use visualization as tool? Is it something that I should be trying to use?

    • Antonia Dodge

      Hi, Erik –

      I understand your challenge. I recently ran into an article that named this phenomenon “Aphantasia.” (Here’s the article I read: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/when-the-minds-eye-is-blind1/).

      I share it to some degree. I’ve had a terrible time visualizing. (In NLP modalities, I’m “auditory” and have a much easier time hearing in my mind and memory than seeing.) But I try to work around it by fully understanding the concept and using it as soon as possible in real life. Implementing and action is the best alternative for visualizing for me.


      • Erik Bland

        Hi Antonia,

        Thanks for sharing, I was not aware of aphantasia. I don’t think I exhibit symptoms of this, atleast to the degree mentioned in that article. I can visualize concrete things, such as people and places, but abstract visualizations are much more difficult for me (e.g. visualizing a feeling, emotion, or memory as a tangible object).

        I certainly agree with you that a lack of visualization of abstract concepts shouldn’t prevent action / implementation.

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