Podcast - Episode 0285 - Enneagram Myths Part 1 - The Body Center Types 8 - 9 - 1 (with Beatrice Chestnut)

In this podcast you’ll find:

• Enneagram Roadmap
• Misconceptions people have about the enneagram
• People recognize the types based upon their high-level traits/characteristics, and they forget to acknowledge that there is greater complexity to the types.
• Enneagram maps the complexity of the human personality, and there is a learning curve
• Instincts and subtypes are essential in understanding the enneagram more fully
• The Complete Enneagram
• Previous podcast with Beatrice
• Enneagram is built on three centers of intelligence: Body, heart, head
• Subtypes are another breakdown into 3: Social, Sexual/One-to-one, Self-preservation
• There’s a self-preservation 4 that doesn’t look like a 4
• And a social 7 that doesn’t look like the typical 7
• Most descriptions of 3s are Social 3s.
• Sexual and Self-pres 3s don’t look like most of the descriptions of 3s.
• Body Types: 8-9-1
• 8 is the boss/challenger
• 9 is the mediator/peacemaker
• 1 is the perfectionist/reformer
• Types 8s are types that people see as always angry or aggressive.
• The core emotion connected to Body types is anger.
• In every triad, there is one type that overdoes the emotion, one type that underdoes the emotion, and one type that conflicts with the emotion.
• 8s tend to overdo anger. They may describe it as passion or energy
• It’s a myth that 8s are always on the verge of explosions. They don’t need to get angry.
• There’s a particular strength 8s carry around with them, so they don’t need to express aggression.
• 8s can be sensitive on the inside.
• 8s tend to get bullied because other people see them as bullies.
• 8s need the space to recognize that vulnerability can be an expression of strength.
• All emotions are valid and useful.
• We tend to think anger is wrong, but it can be used as a strength.
• 9s vice is sloth/laziness
• They can be out of touch with working on behalf of themselves.
• People see them as overly passive or lazy, but not because they don’t do anything.
• They go to sleep to their need to act for themselves.
• They are taking all the possible actions but not the right reason, which is acting on behalf of themselves.
• 9s have a lot of energy, but they diffuse that energy out over other people instead of targeting their self-interest.
• Give 9s room to grow and don’t pigeon hole them as a certain way.
• Social 9 is one of the biggest workaholics on the enneagram after type 3.
• If 8s are anger overdone, then 9s are anger underdone.
• 9s may be asleep to their anger.
• Anger feels threatening to 9s because it disturbs the peace.
• The growth path of 9 is to express the anger openly instead of as random explosions or passive-aggressiveness.
• 9s tend not to be in touch with anger because they have the belief that anger causes separation, and they want to stay connected with people.
• Anger brings people closer.
• Once a 9 recognizes that they can create a deeper connection.
• People can see 9s as perpetually passive and unaware of what they want.
• 9s need to figure out what they want and stop worrying about what other people think.
• 9s feel overlooked.
• They need a little time to consider their opinion.
• 8 – Anger overdone
• 9 – Anger underdone
• 1 – Anger repressed
• 1s feel the anger and suppress it.
• The anger leaks out as irritation, annoyance, resentment, self-righteousness, etc.
• Sexual 1s give themselves more permission to express their anger.
• 1s can be perfectionists in one or two areas.
• Self-preservation 1s are the true perfectionists.
• Social 1s are perfectionists in that they obsess about what is the right thing to do.
• Sexual 1s want to perfect other people – reformers
• Have compassion for 1s because they were usually overburdened with responsibility as a child.
• The growth path for 1s is about getting worse.
• 1s need to become imperfect and disorganized
• Perfectionism can be a strength if controlled.
• 1s can be very sensitive to criticism and will see criticism everywhere
• Use our language in a way that gives people room to grow.
• We are still decoding the Enneagram symbol.
• Litmus test: What helps you grow?
• We need a more expansive view of the Enneagram types to give people space to grow within that type.
• The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
• Enneagram Roadmap