In this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia explore how personality types influence emotional experiences, including emotional dysregulation, co-regulation, self-regulation, and the transformative practice of self-parenting through understanding feelings.
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In this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia explore how personality types influence emotional experiences, including emotional dysregulation, co-regulation, self-regulation, and the transformative practice of self-parenting through understanding feelings.
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I’ve also really enjoyed the series and agreed with everything and would love to offer a titration for this emotional regulation piece. There’s a powerful myth in our culture: the myth of the individual. The idea that the most admirable among us are the most self-sufficient, the most unaffected, the least “needy.” But neuroscience tells us something very different.
Our brains are shaped in the presence of others. Our nervous systems co-regulate. Our sense of self emerges in relationship. Even our immune systems are influenced by whether we feel safe, seen, and accompanied. So what happens to our health when we’re taught to prize independence over connection?
My teacher SarahPeyton.com has an excellent webinar “Constellations and Neuroscience”. There’s this remarkable thing I’ve witnessed in the constellation field, which is that people begin to feel interdependence not as a failure or weakness, but as a kind of homecoming. A returning to what the body always knew it needed.
I know you talked about healthy coregulation of emotions, but I felt like the way it was presented might trigger shame in someone that is more attuned to this very biological longing to have a trusted person support our emotional co-regulation. Of course it’s great if we can do it in our own; and given the high level of trauma most of us have in the relational field as children, it’s normal for this to take a long time and it’s normal for that longing to always be there. Alarmed aloneness is at all time highs, and while we should all practice self-regulation, the more sensitive we can all become to the emotional dysregulation of others and increase our capacity to hold it until they stabilize, the more healing will happen in this very wounded world. I think this is so important because only hurt people hurt people. 🙏
Thank you for the great series!
I’m going to have to look up some more of Jung’s work on synchronicities now. You guys started this series right when I needed it! I’m an INTP (pretty confident) but I “unlocked” my emotions about 2 years ago; prior just kind of numbed all of them for a loooooong time. Since then I’ve struggled hard with regulating them often with anger outbursts or just like intense sadness for like.. 5 seconds with a single tear… then I’m fine again, so I’m hoping this (plus therapy) will help get me back on track!
Thanks for everything guys, keep up the great work!
Love this series! I sure hope you make a program around this! Thank you for sharing your gifts with us!