In this episode, Joel and Antonia explore how people can regulate the four channels of personality: body, emotion, mind, and meaning. They unpack resistance to gratitude and why practicing it might be one of the most powerful, rebellious acts in today’s world.
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Hello Antonia and Joel. Human being is a social creature not because we like it but because it saved our lives in the past and I think that gratitude is a part of a toolkit to keep us social. Therefore I think that it works better when it is directed to an object – it is where its meaning is embedded. I am grateful to the higher power when seeing the beauty of nature, to my parents that were there for me, and my kids to help me grow. In its substance this should evoke need of reciprocity that keeps tribe coherent but our tribe got too big and it is difficult to play this tool in a new, big sandbox. I agree that we need a way to make it work in a new society that have largely lost contact with what used to regulate us in the past, like contact with nature to name the most profound lose.
Hello! 1st time commentor (sorry Antonia). Great episode! I am grateful for you and Joel. I am in a state of transition in life-as always I suppose, which was compounded with a year of severe back pain.
I am deeply grateful for my healing journey, and all the people and tools and even suffering that supported me.
I had a life coach 4 years ago introduce a “gratitude” practice (I know, the definition matters) that I found incredibly regulating, life improving. She had me mentally walk through my life and find a scene where I was happy. Then she asked to ID the emotions I was experiencing in that moment. At that time they were: pride and contentment. Every night I BRIEFLY jotted down at least 3 times I experienced one of those emotions during the day. It made gratitude for my life more accessible- easy pass to gratitude as a state, and from there brought meaning to my life. Sometimes a roof and clean water just don’t hit me emotionally- though they are extremely valid reasons for gratitude!
Currently, I have been practicing “body scans”- just placing my consciousness in the tips of my toes, and moving it up through my body to the top of my head. When finished, I have to say that is also very regulating, and I do feel gratitude afterwards as well.
As a doctor, there are many physiological things it is hard to feel or see that are happening when we practice gratitude. Biofeedback devices such as “Heartmath” are one way to track physiological regulation that occurs with gratitude. It only shows a few of the amazing effects, but is powerful to “see”.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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Love, Molly (INFP)