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In this podcast Joel and Antonia talk about developing patience with yourself as you go through your personal development journey.
In this podcast you’ll find:
- As you’re making changes to free up your psychological energy, oftentimes you will feel stuck on the process. How do you survive and have patience with those big transition time periods?
- We have this idea that anything that doesn’t look concrete and tangible (anything that feels more abstract) should be quicker to achieve because you’re not facing the same physical challenges or limitations in the outside world.
- Generally, when we are making changes in our lives, we’re always going to see tangible or physical results. For example – getting better friendships and relationships.
- Understand that no matter what you do in life, it would always take time to manifest.
- Personal development works the same way because it also takes time.
- A lot of the tools and interventions involved in Personality Development require discipline and you may not notice it, but the changes appear subtle. This is because we are living with the results.
- Steve Pavlina wrote an Article about being patient in his personal development. He recommends not seeing it in timelines of 6 months – 1 year, but actually seeing it in timelines of 5-10 years (which you’ll see major changes).
- Any characteristic worth developing, is worth developing in 10 years.
- Try looking back at yourself 5 or 10 years ago and identify the major changes you made in your personality development.
- One of the reasons why we get impatient with ourselves is because we create unrealistic expectations.
- How do you survive when changes are happening very slowly? Setting realistic expectations and getting your needs met.
- Things are way more interconnected in life. There are different nodes/pieces that are needed in order for things to happen. Check out the episode about Systems Thinking.
- The more personal development you do, the easier it is to do the next one.
- One of the best ways to have patience during your personal development is to have those little celebrations (acknowledge your progress/changes).
- When we see other people who we believe are gurus (the people who inspire us), understand that it took them a long time too. It took them a long time to study (read books, attend seminars, etc.) work their way to the level of personal development they’re in.
- Remember that we are all in this path. For everyone, it’s a long timeline.
- Celebrate the small stuff, make sure that you’re doing a lot of energy management and have enough positive reinforcement. Keep an eye on your progress and the changes on how you’re improving.
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I found this podcast after a very frustrating day when I did a search on Spotify for developing patience. While listening to the episode, the summary thought that came to mind was this… even after leveling up we still get killed by noobs. We must keep going.
Hey Antonia and Joel! I’ve been listening for almost a year and I think I am up to date. Because of that and how easy it is to connect with you guys, I feel like I am invested in your success on a large and small scale. Every time you guys mention an achievement that you’ve made as business people or as a couple I do a little happy dance. This podcast was a little different.
After my happy dance at Antonia’s level up, you triggered a completely different emotion. When you said that you finally thought highly enough of yourself that you were indignant about the way you perceived that Joel was treating you, it made me burst into tears. Even though it turns out you were banging things with a hammer willy nilly, it’s so cool that you got to that place where you were ready to defend your worthiness. As a woman, it’s so easy to back down and not defend your worthiness against a societal system that has ten arguments against every one female positive statement.
It’s something I work on daily in my career and my relationships and it’s great to hear about success from people I look up to in so many ways.
Thanks for sharing!!!!!!!
I recently started listening to the podcasts, and have finally made it to this one. I’m in the Dallas/Fort Worth area of Texas, and I would love to attend a meetup! Thank you guys so much for the podcasts. They’ve come to me at a time in my life where I am receptive and they are incredibly relevant. I listen to several episodes a day, and I often feel like Neo in The Matrix. “I know kung-fu!”
Would love a meetup and see yous here in Chicago.
I’m really glad you talked about the struggle of personal growth. I’m even more glad you shared such a personal story, and I commend you for doing it. You really helped me understand the complexities of personal growth and how the high and low points can look. I had been feeling a little stuck in my own development and you gave me a new perspective and much needed reassurance. Thank you so much, you’re podcasts are wonderful!