Podcast - Episode 0152 - Emotional Scripts We Run In Life

In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about the emotional scripts we run as people to get ourselves to feel specific emotions.

In this podcast you’ll find:

• Once we have a narrative, we look for evidence of that story in the outside world.
• Scripts are compulsions to play out a scenario about who we think we are. The attempt to experience an emotion that we believe we need to experience.
• When someone is looking for an emotional experience, and they can’t find it, they will play out a script that will guarantee they get to experience that emotion.
• Some people will use the emotion of anxiety to create motivation.
• It can be addicting when it has proved useful, and like an addict, we will resist anyone who tries and point it out.
• These scripts are usually unconscious.
• Scripts are auto-responder sequences to kick on an emotion we think we need to feel to be okay.
• These scripts are very subtle, and people get good at running through them. They can be difficult to spot – in ourselves or others.
• Are there things that you’re doing to reach an emotion to which you have become addicted?
• When that script gets threatened, we usually come up with a story of why we need to have that emotion. It has become a necessary part of our survival.
• Westworld – Once the hosts on this show got some consciousness and memories keep resurfacing, they had this compulsion to finish out their scripts or mission.
• Joss Whedon Dollhouse.
• We have these foundational drives inside us that turn into these scripts. Until the script is satisfied, we get fixated on experiencing it.
• Sometimes we just have to let the script run and get the emotional hit before we can move on.
• If we are in conflict with another person and they are triggered, instead of pointing out what is going wrong, back off and do what you can to facilitate their script. Let them experience the emotional high.
• When a person is in the midst of acting out a script, that is not the time to point out what they are doing.
• Wait until the battle passes before talking about strategy.
• The first step is awareness. Find the places in life where you are working to replicate an emotion.
• Second, strategize a way to avoid repeating the pattern. Ask those closest to you to call you on it.
• Set up a reward system that helps you shift the script to a positive emotion instead of negative.
• Scripts are often shortcuts to feelings we want or need when we don’t want to take the time to experience them organically.
• We could have a ton of scripts that are running – new and old.
• Esther Hicks – Don’t let your emotions control you.
• Figure out what the person is looking for in a script and give it to them.
• Are these scripts running to chase an emotion?
• If you are wondering where you use scripts, ask yourself where the conflict is in your life.
• Are you and your partner having the same fights?
• What is the underlying pattern of the fight?
• What assurance are you seeking?
• Spotting scripts is tough.
• Presence work is crucial.
• Meditation is a fantastic way to get inside the watcher – the part of you that watches your ego act.
• If you can get to the space of the watcher, then when you are running these scripts try observing from where they are coming.
• If you keep going down this road, what is the endpoint? Is it worth the anxiety and conflict?
• What are some of your scripts?

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