Podcast - Episode 0278 - Why The World Needs Introverted Feeling

In this podcast you’ll find:

• Introverted Feeling (Fi) – “Authenticity”
• Identity crisis – Fi struggles to know who they are
• Because of that, they recognize that people, in general, have the same struggle
• Fi sometimes resists the notion that it is okay to follow their core identity.
• Fi gets the message that it is selfish to pursue what feels right.
• Fi is very internal and subjective
• Not selfish so much as self-focused – the self is the guiding star for Fi
• A lot of the self is not acceptable to the outside world.
• “The more personal something is, the more universal it is.”
• The gift Fi gives is the ability to tune into core values and share the nuanced fidelity of human interactions and emotions.
• A coal miner for your heart
• Without Fi, you mistake one motivation for all motivations
• “This person voted for this candidate, which means they are this type of person.”
• No one ever has a single motivation.
• FPs end up in the arts because it explores the complexity of human motivations.
• People don’t know why they do what they do.
• Every public defender’s office is probably staffed with a lot of FPs because they see the need to defend the complexity of human emotion.
• No one is 100% pure evil like no one is 100% good.
• Good vs. bad is a social construct.
• Life-affirming things over life-negating things.
• “Doth Protest Too Much” when people are judgmental of other’s motivations.
• Every villain began as a victim.
• Civility is a thin veneer.
• The darkness is there, and it will come out eventually.
• What we resist persists.
• Fi uses emotions to find truths others would find offensive.
• It feels impossible to Fi to describe an incredibly complex emotion.
• Fi is better at demonstration than explanation, which is why they are usually artists in some way.
• Introverted Thinking (Ti) is better at explanation than demonstration
• Fi deals in narratives and stories and finds the truth inside the story.
• Motivations = gas in your car
• Core values = guard rails
• We are making up our reason for doing things all the time. We think they are legit, but they are arbitrary.
• Bullshit reasons = rationalizations
• We get what we want at the end of the day then we rationalize why it happened.
• Fi understands that we have stories for everything, but it doesn’t make them true.
• People don’t want to give up their victimhood.
• Something happens to us then we create stories to explain why it happened.
• Our stories are malleable. We can choose the more empowering one.
• Healthy Fi allows us to look at our narratives and ask ourselves if our stories are limiting us.
• When Fi isn’t healthy, it will take an event and paint it in an impenetrable, inarguable way.
• Because Fi is so good with stories, and it can’t make things happen in the outer world because Te is a weakness, so it tries to paint a picture to get the outcome it wants.
• Fi people often couch things in a way that isn’t completely accurate to get the result it wants.
• Stories/narratives are extremely powerful.
• Learn to spot the Disingenuous spin
• Spin your narratives in a way that makes you feel empowered.
• Narrative casting is a way to unlock a pathway forward to avoid getting stuck.
  • Why do I care about this?
  • What am I preserving?
  • To what end?
• Drive down the motivation road. Keep asking why.
• Narrative casting is proactive.
• Diagnosis needs to come first.
• Fi is the most closely tied to ego/identity
• Every new way of experiencing things is an identity change.
• Narrative casting spins the story in an effort to protect the ego.
• “Be sure you’re right, then go ahead.” Davy Crockett
• Gain mastery over yourself first.
• We are all going to die alone.
• Who you start life with will be different from who we finish our lives with.
• You are the origination point for the decisions you make.
• You are sovereign.
• I’m the only one who gets to determine what I want to be.
• “Why does your selfishness of how you want to be trump my selfishness to be who I want to be?”
• Fi can go within and be incredibly self-reflective.
• “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron
• Shadow artist – no permission to be the artist you want to be so you hang around the edges of those who are doing what you won’t permit yourself to do.
• Roles are shadow artists to the true you.
• Your life is the character. You are the art.
• Don’t spin the narrative; become the narrative.
• People who are exceptional at Fi become the models that we all need.
• Fi sees the benefits of seeing people more kindly.
• Fi provides Kindness training – Kindness toward others and ourselves
• Fi can inspire others because it believes in people beyond reason or logic sometimes.
• Fi can create magic in the world because it can see the magic in the world.