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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFP personality type.
In this podcast on INFP Personality Type you’ll find:
- Why are INFPs misunderstood?
- The cognitive function is a mental process that helps you learn information or make decisions.
- The 4 letter code tells you how your brain is wired. It’s like an entrance on how you learn processes.
- Authenticity – Is a way that you (as an INFP) make your decisions which is more inclined what resonates with you the most as a person.
- INFPs understand emotions on a whole different level.
- Questions to ethics become very intriguing to INFPs. For example: “what determines an ethical or moral action?”
- Authenticity is very in touch with the subjective human experience.
- Authenticity is where we humans find conscience. Because that’s when we ask, “how do we honor people’s individuality?”
- Oftentimes, INFPs become masters of human experience in general.
- The ability to determine that something resonates is a maturity of the Authenticity process. As it matures, it understands that not everything they experience is the same as everyone.
- Do INFPs truly want to be understood?
- Nobody could be 100% understand them apart from themselves.
- INFPs feel being marginalized and dismissed way more than being misunderstood.
- INFPs seek validation.
- We want to acknowledge that they have a specific type of pain based from their personality type.
- Authenticity type should be balanced with Exploration. Exploration (the co-pilot function) is about advanced pattern recognition in the outside world – thinking behind the curtain.
- If you want more description or definition, check out our episode “Introverted Intuition VS Extraverted Intuition”.
- Your superpowers are developed when you learn to master your co-pilot.
- Art is one of the places where INFPs thrive.
- Art is a communication of feeling and INFPs simply flourish in this context. They create art that’s impactful.
- For INFPs, they tend to recall how they felt/reacted in the past.
- They have the ability to mirror emotions. They don’t need to mirror emotions in real time. For example, the can look at an art piece and mirror the emotion to themselves.
- Authenticity people tend to recall how they feel/how they imagined they would feel and then instantly replicating the emotion inside them.
- The emotional language can be transferred in long extensive periods of time.
- In order to be authentic, you need to have a mature and vast understanding of how the world works.
- Intent: The Darker aspect of Authenticity. INFPs tend to try to give a reason that’s combated with logic.
- INFPs tend to defend their intent, because they see a wide array of positive and negative intent. They understand how people can easily go and slip into bad intent.
- Healthy INFPs view everything has positive intent.
- Being able to understand that darkness is universal and part of the human experience will help you accept yourself.
- How to go about making a living as an INFP?
- Getting something done can sometimes be very challenging for INFPs.
- INFPs have the desire to make an impact and be an inspirational leader. Oftentimes, they will disregard the passion they have. Passion is extremely important.
- Authenticity people can have the tendency to marginalize people. Make sure you do what you’re passionate with. Check in with yourself what you really want.
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Wow, It actually brought tears to my eyes when you started talking about intent.
Visiting ENTP here. I have a question for any INFP’s who are willing to reply. I have a friend who tested for INFP multiple times and he said he related to alot of what the INFP profile said, but recently he has been saying he thinks he is an INTP. I have no problem with him being an INTP of course it’s just he only started thinking he was an INTP after we started talking about what our other two close friend’s personalities were. One of our friends is an INTP and the other is an ENTP. I was wondering if as an INFP it would be plausible for him to try to be an INTP so he would be more similar to us? I’m really not all that great at gauging emotions or emotional behavior. I have no idea whats wrong or if there is even anything wrong.
Thanks alot
Mickayla
Sorry, I said I wouldn’t write too much but I just had another idea I feel like sharing with you! Hope you don’t mind :)
Recently I had to explain why my ENFP colleague at work was having an outburst to my two other colleagues, an ENTP and an INFJ. It still surprises me a little when people aren’t familiar with this phenomenon (read: temperamental outburst that seems irrational), because my family is so accepting of it. Although – this makes me feel a little arrogant, but – I’m 25 years old at the moment, and it feels as though I’ve developed my Fi more, perhaps because my Ne provides me with “emotional aikido”? (love this concept as well!) For whatever reason I seem to be very understanding around such outbursts (uniquely so), while other people have a tendency to run the other way.
Therefore, if I could make a request, I would love to see an article about “Fi outburst” (or whatever the name). I believe that there are different kinds of outbursts, and that people could benefit from learning about them. At the top of my head I’m naming them offensive and defensive, and they’re hypothetical but feels pretty real to me. Perhaps Joel can resonate with this as an ENFP?
OFFENSIVE:
The offensive outbursts, I imagine, are caused by energy that needs an outlet (for whatever reason) and ends up being spent on attacking something or someone. This is an unhealthy version where the energy could have been spent on something else (art, learning, etc).
DEFENSIVE:
The defensive outbursts, on the other hand, is energy that is triggered because one gets defensive of a cause, a certain memory or topic, etc. This type of outburst can be productive because you dare to stand up for the things you believe in, but it can be unhealthy as well if you have decided that (for example) “all alcohol is bad” and your Ne is not taken into account.
Have you experienced these tendencies yourself? Excited to share my ideas with you! And again: good luck with everything! I love your podcast :)
First: I love Personality Hacker! You guys are doing such a great job! I find your style of communication to be both passionate and open-minded, yet in tune with reality. (As you can tell from my wording, I sometimes have a hard time with that. Yep, the reality thing.) You are endlessly inspiring. Thank you!
I am an INFP myself and this podcast was spot on! I already feel the urge to write a thousand pages, but I’m not going to that. Instead I want to present an idea to you guys. At the moment I’m jumping from podcast to podcast (literally, from 55 to 42 to 72 to …) so I don’t know if you have mentioned this already, but I’m just going to throw it out there: What are your thoughts on Fi outbursts and Fi blending?
ELABORATION:
I am sure there are multiple blending styles among the different decision making processes, but as you mentioned during this podcast Authenticity really does have a hard time coming up with good explanations. When I look back at my childhood, I realize that the Fi (Authenticity) in me offered two extremes: 1) outbursts and 2) blending.
1) Outbursts: While I was usually a laid-back girl with my head in the clouds, sometimes I would grab a sword and fight the fight. I must have been a paradox to my parents. I always wanted to manage everything by myself (getting dressed, eating food – you name it), yet I was extremely shy and anxious when meeting new people. At school I was withdrawn, yet at home I had no problems leading a group of friends. Luckily for me, my mother is an ISFP and I believe that she understood (at least until I got all Ne…).
Not wanting to go to a restaurant without having a rational explanation is completely valid in my family. I feel so blessed to have grown up with mostly FPs, and think this has given me space to accept my Fi and develop it. When someone at home had an outburst we understood the intent, accepted the outcome of it and moved on with our lives. However, as I grew older I realized that the real world didn’t work like that.
2) Blending: The older I got, the quicker I lost in debates. People started demanding rational explanations and I became more cautious of my preferences. In my teen years, I was ripped apart by FJs and TJs. Sometimes I would try to hide my Fi in order to be as rational as possible (read: to be perceived as intelligent). That made me rely heavily on my Si, making me anxious and no fun. Yes, I felt intelligent because I was great at pairing my Si with my Ne, but I didn’t feel at ease until I could release my Ne with its natural companion Fi. Luckily for me, this happened as soon as in high school because I was attending a music program. :)
An example of Fi blending: I knew that I should play with my friends (logic), but I wanted to sit inside and write stories (gut feeling / happy place). My ESTJ friend didn’t understand my needs, and since I was in “the wrong” I often tended to her needs instead. She was a master at debating, and since I realized that my feelings were “wrong” in societal terms, I had no choice but to play with her. Make no mistake, she was a wonderful person, but I was being suffocated.
Have you heard similar stories that can resonate with my idea of Fi outbursts and Fi blending? Perhaps from INFPs that have taken a wrong turn in their life because they have been out-argued, thus blended in with the culture of Effectiveness? Just as intuitive blending (love this concept, by the way!) resonates among N-types, perhaps Fi blending is just as real for FPs? My theory is that some INFPs mask themselves as ISTJs (due to double blending: Ne+Fi) in order to survive in the external world. What do you think about this concept?
I would love to hear from you. Good luck with all your future work! I’m rooting for you guys :)