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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFP personality type.
In this podcast on INFP Personality Type you’ll find:
- Why are INFPs misunderstood?
- The cognitive function is a mental process that helps you learn information or make decisions.
- The 4 letter code tells you how your brain is wired. It’s like an entrance on how you learn processes.
- Authenticity – Is a way that you (as an INFP) make your decisions which is more inclined what resonates with you the most as a person.
- INFPs understand emotions on a whole different level.
- Questions to ethics become very intriguing to INFPs. For example: “what determines an ethical or moral action?”
- Authenticity is very in touch with the subjective human experience.
- Authenticity is where we humans find conscience. Because that’s when we ask, “how do we honor people’s individuality?”
- Oftentimes, INFPs become masters of human experience in general.
- The ability to determine that something resonates is a maturity of the Authenticity process. As it matures, it understands that not everything they experience is the same as everyone.
- Do INFPs truly want to be understood?
- Nobody could be 100% understand them apart from themselves.
- INFPs feel being marginalized and dismissed way more than being misunderstood.
- INFPs seek validation.
- We want to acknowledge that they have a specific type of pain based from their personality type.
- Authenticity type should be balanced with Exploration. Exploration (the co-pilot function) is about advanced pattern recognition in the outside world – thinking behind the curtain.
- If you want more description or definition, check out our episode “Introverted Intuition VS Extraverted Intuition”.
- Your superpowers are developed when you learn to master your co-pilot.
- Art is one of the places where INFPs thrive.
- Art is a communication of feeling and INFPs simply flourish in this context. They create art that’s impactful.
- For INFPs, they tend to recall how they felt/reacted in the past.
- They have the ability to mirror emotions. They don’t need to mirror emotions in real time. For example, the can look at an art piece and mirror the emotion to themselves.
- Authenticity people tend to recall how they feel/how they imagined they would feel and then instantly replicating the emotion inside them.
- The emotional language can be transferred in long extensive periods of time.
- In order to be authentic, you need to have a mature and vast understanding of how the world works.
- Intent: The Darker aspect of Authenticity. INFPs tend to try to give a reason that’s combated with logic.
- INFPs tend to defend their intent, because they see a wide array of positive and negative intent. They understand how people can easily go and slip into bad intent.
- Healthy INFPs view everything has positive intent.
- Being able to understand that darkness is universal and part of the human experience will help you accept yourself.
- How to go about making a living as an INFP?
- Getting something done can sometimes be very challenging for INFPs.
- INFPs have the desire to make an impact and be an inspirational leader. Oftentimes, they will disregard the passion they have. Passion is extremely important.
- Authenticity people can have the tendency to marginalize people. Make sure you do what you’re passionate with. Check in with yourself what you really want.
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YES! I am not a naturally organised or neat person and I don’t think anyone would label me as such. However, my things are in their place and I feel overwhelmed when things are too messy (or vice versa: things are messy and I get overwhelmed).
I have a friend who studies counselling and she mentioned that they advise their depressed clients to go clean up any drawers or spaces in their homes that are untidy. It has something to do with “unfinished business”. So it makes sense that neat and minimalist spaces keep the emotionally overwhelmed sane.
Awesome comments! Thanks for sharing your INFP vs. INFJ observations.
Hey Kristina
Your post could have been mine :)
Regarding the emotional aikido, I was completely fascinated by the idea when they spoke about it mostly because it is something I have been completely unaware of. The only reason it resonated with me was because someone, once, actually tried to explain to me the effect I was having on them. The person was going through some tough and valid emotions. I just remember being very calm and trying to understand the situation with her. Afterward, she looked at me weirdly and told me I was weirdly good at making her feel better and then trying to explain what Antonia so aptly described as emotional aikido. I have also been told that I have a “calming effect”, though I used to interpret that as “serious and boring” :) We might even not be fully aware of our calming effect because we are always in that state (don’t know any different). The people might be different with us than they are otherwise and we would not know because we are always present with them in our presence. Just a thought.
The reason I am sharing this is just because I don’t think this aikido is something we do intentionally. It is not an intentional manipulation of a person’s emotions, just an understanding of emotions that makes it possible for us to unconsciously guide the person towards a different emotion. The more mature your Fi is, the more natural this process becomes.
For some reason, my gut feeling is that actually becoming too aware of this aikido might ruin it for us. It’s validating and nice to know, but mostly I want to leave it alone so that it does not become a “thing”, you know?
Anyway, we’re about the same age with the same experience, so it was interesting to read your comment. I feel you with the salesperson example! I used to be completely confused when people would say I am illogical/irrational in a discussion/debate (usually with SJ’s). It all made perfect logical sense to me! You just have to try to understand how the person must be feeling – oh.
I have never heard this explanation before. Thank you so much for taking the time to try and explain INFP’s!
I had such a hard time career-wise. I used to always want to make decisions based on what my gut-feeling screams is right. Only, when I try to explain my real life decisions, I would rarely have facts and logic to back it up. In the early stages of my life, it confused me when people countered my decisions with facts and logic and I started doubting myself and trying my best to “follow the path” despite a deep inner resistance and belief that I was right. This was me going to university just to get a degree (it’s what is expected), despite having absolutely no idea what I wanted to do. It was a safe and logical decision. I failed miserably at university (any other INFP’s who failed in the education system?)
Later, having developed enough to know that my feelings are valid, I started experiencing frustration when my decision-making process was dismissed (mostly by my family). I would get angry and become an irrational INFP. One of the most freeing experiences has been discovering that my personality is valid and necessary and that I NEED to follow my passions.
A turning moment in the podcast, for me, was while you were explaining the authenticity decision-making process. I had to pause the podcast and go, “What? Are you saying there is NOTHING WRONG WITH MY DECISION-MAKING PROCESS?”
What an intense moment of healing. Thank you.
As a side note, I am now an INFP who has discovered a burning passion. I want to revolutionise the education system in my area to accommodate more of the outliers (kids with ADHD, autism, “delinquents”, etc). I am super keen to tackle my degree now!
Thank you for believing in the INFP :)
You sound like the male version of myself in my 20s. I’m 38 now :)
I wonder if they’ll do a section on Te. Although the articles on this site are extraordinary, they never really addressed the Te trait.
Once you get past the Fi, and the Ne, you’re left with Te, and this is something a lot of infps don’t talk about, as it is a very difficult phase to enter into, and requires throwing out a lot of past beliefs or faulty thinking.
This is so incredibly accurate! I just LOVE that someone has taken the time to attempt to understand how an INFP feels! I’m listening to this alone in my living room and yelling out “YES!!! That’s what I’ve been trying to say!!!”. I wish this was required listening for everyone that knows an INFP.