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INFJ-Personality-type In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.

In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:

  • This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
  • We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
  • INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
  • 2 important components to understand INFJs:
  1. Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
  2. INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?” This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
  • INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
  • The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding. The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
  • It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
  • INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
  • INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
  • Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
  • Jesus of Nazareth, Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
  • INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
  • If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
    • You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
    • Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
    • When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself. Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
    • Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it. This will help you get other’s needs met.
    • Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
    • You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions. Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
    • Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.

Helpful resources for the INFJ personality type:

Developing Your INFJ Personality Type (by Donna Dunning)

The INFJ Personality Type (by Dr. A.J. Drenth)

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304 comments

  • Stephen Bickel
    • Stephen Bickel
    • December 8, 2015 at 1:46 am

    I’m an INFJ and hearing this podcast really put a lot of things in perspective! Thanks so much for your hard work!

  • Jes Belkov Gordon
    • Jes Belkov Gordon
    • November 6, 2015 at 6:17 pm

    I think the one thing that you are missing is that power isn’t one way. Yes, I can walk into a room and pick up on just about everything that is going on in the room. I believe that many INFJs do have victim talk and allow “in” all that emotion, and like you said we use a stopper because it is so overwhelming. We get afraid of the emotions and that (the fear) is the stopper of the conduit as you call it. However, we have JUST AS MUCH POWER to turn that outward. It doesn’t take long or much effort to uncork the stopper and send that energy back out into the world. I actually see us as converters. The negative energy comes in, and somehow our compassion or whatever, can clean it and turn it into positive. The INFJ isn’t a victim… We are powerful! And I believe the most important thing we can do once we have experienced a ton of psychic clutter, is to find pleasure and fill up on that which brings joy. That is how we keep from getting sick. I’m learning to do this, but I believe that this is the key!
    Thanks for your podcasts! I really enjoy them!
    Warmly,
    Jes

  • Nicholas
    • Nicholas
    • November 1, 2015 at 1:04 am

    So tough to get a girlfriend! As a male INFJ i’m just waiting to release all this love and emotion into someone! A soul mate some might say.
    The truth is I cannot put depression and all those negative feelings into a basket and label it as “….”. It’s just a part of who I am and I don’t know why I feel the way I do sometimes.
    Everything inside this podcast resonates with me and I wish people understood and didn’t take me as some useless crying 5 year old. Although as you guy kinda said, we bring it on ourselves and its our job to get the needs of ourselves met! Really awesome podcast i’m glad people like you go to the extent you do in rationalizing this personality for people to understand.
    Peace

  • Antonia Dodge
    • Antonia Dodge
    • October 28, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    Hey, Amy!

    Since we’ve already recorded a long form podcast for the INFJ type we won’t be doing another one for this week. Your survey results are helping inform a long form article and the series of shorter INFJ Mind Wiring podcasts / slide share that will be coming out this week.

    Cheers!

    A

  • amy
    • amy
    • October 27, 2015 at 6:47 pm

    hey! this was an awesome podcast but are you going to recycle it for this weeks INFJ themed week?

    I am going to be completely selfish and say that I was really hoping to get some new perspectives and advice since we filled out the INFJ form things. To be completely honest, I felt like this podcast talked a lot about INFJ’s in depression, and I’d like to hear more inspirational and educational thoughts, stories, and theories about our type and what we are capable of.

    Anyways, hope to hear a new podcast on our type!

    Thanks, and no pressure. lol.

    An INFJ

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