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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.
In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:
- This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
- We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
- INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
- 2 important components to understand INFJs:
- Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
- INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?” This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
- INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
- The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding. The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
- It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
- INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
- INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
- Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
- Jesus of Nazareth, Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
- INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
- If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
- You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
- Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
- When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself. Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
- Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it. This will help you get other’s needs met.
- Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
- You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions. Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
- Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.
Helpful resources for the INFJ personality type:
Developing Your INFJ Personality Type (by Donna Dunning)
The INFJ Personality Type (by Dr. A.J. Drenth)
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Thank you very much for this podcast, being an INFJ male I agree greatly with your sentiments. This helped me in a time of need.
excellent podcast!!!! so validating and confirming!!! i’m 46 and INFJ.
I’ve had some depression issues in remote past (20 years ago). I learned to get off my ‘pity pot’ (victim mentality) BEFORE i end up in full blown depression. I’m a physician, i’ve also learned to guard myself energetically from the ‘energy suckers.’
I give myself ‘5-10 minute vacations’ periodically through the day, just to recharge. I’m also a single mom ( daughter is 5) and that has been a challenge- meeting her needs and also honoring my own need for private time and personal space. I run and do yoga, both solitary activities that give me a physical outlet for some of the pent up stuff i can carry around.
In addition I practice Tibetan Buddhism, which has helped give me a sense of purpose and ‘mission’ to my life. it’s all still a work in progress. I loved what you guys said about sharing my gifts!!!! i enjoy helping people as a physician, but frequently feel that i could be doing more, reaching more people… still working on that one!!!
thank you again!!!!
Forget an “Intuitive Awakening”, we need an “Intuitive Revolution” or “Intuitive Civil Rights Movement”. The fact that Intuitives have to live in this hegemony put on us by these backwards and unimaginative Sensors is just pathetic and wrong. Sure the problem isn’t as easy to spot as say someone’s skin color, sexual orientation, or political beliefs (worldview), but it’s just as important none-the-less. Why do we have to change who we are to satisfy the shallow Sensors’ view of the world? It’s time to stand up Intuitives and FIGHT BACK. That’s what I do. I’ve learned how to blend in (as it were) over the years, but that just now puts me in a position to sneak in there and then strike out/lash out when no-one expects it! Get’s those judgmental Sensors scratching their heads every time. Get’s them thinking too (which is unusual for them, as we all know). That’s what we need to do, get them thinking a bit and using those dormant frontal lobes of theirs!
Sorry for being all militant here, but as an INFJ I went through enough of that “whoa is me” stuff and eventually found my way out of it. And now I’m probably just as aggressive and obnoxious as the best ESTP out there. Although, I use my newly acquired powers for good and fight for the Intuitive cause. Just like all of us should. It’s time to stand up and fight back Intuitives! Down with those silly Sensors and their silly norms! Who’s with me! We are Intuitive, hear us RROOOOOOAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRR.
Note: This post was brought to you tongue-in-cheek…. or was it??
Gary! We love addicts of the podcast. Thanks for being apart of the community.
Thanks for the comment, Elizabeth. Sounds like you guys are at a sensitive time period in your relationship, and I wish you both luck navigating it. I also hope you’re able to come out the other side of PTSD. I have confidence in your ability to do so.
It’s not a podcast, but I just posted an article on INTJs. Hope it’s helpful:
www.personalityhacker.com/intj-personality-type
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